Surprise, surprise, a cathedral burns in Paris, and US media gives it maximum coverage.

Xuande comments on Apr 16, 2019:

Stop blaming the media. Everyone from the New York Times to the Guardian and every national service in-between has covered the flooding. The AP alone has done at least nine stories on the cyclone and its impact since April began. News media doesn't decide what becomes big news. Blame consumers ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

@PalacinkyPDX Heck many Americans cannot identify where Canada is and we are your neighbours to the north ffs. I wouldn't be surprised if most were hearing the name Mozambique for the first time in their lives. Signed, a canuck "in Europe" XD haha

Every woman in our culture is a feminist.

Robecology comments on Apr 16, 2019:

It appears to me that a sizeable number of Conservative/Republican/Christian women DO prefer living in the world of male dominance... To put it in their words, "American conservatives are overwhelmingly white in a country that is increasingly less so"... ...and Hillary's ignoring of these ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

There was also the sexism rife in many xtian women that tells them women should never be leaders or lead men. There is an element of internalized misogyny and sexism many religious people have directing their voting habits as well.

"Pretend" to be dominant/Submissive is stupid.

GinaMaria comments on Apr 15, 2019:

The author of 50 shades writes sex like she's never had it, and dialogue like she's never interacted verbally with another human. And with all the "clambering" the female lead did, I started thinking she was a puppy.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

Yes. OMG the number of unnecessary periods everywhere was so bloody annoying. It's like does she not know there are other ways to add emphasis or pauses without constant periods. Not only is it shit from a BDSM perspective, from a literature point it is crappy writing. Though, easily digestible/understandable for any idiot I suppose.

WTF did I do wrong? We have been chatting for only a few days.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 16, 2019:

It seems like *she made a joke and you took it the wrong way cuz she didn't put any emojis or say haha joking or something. And y'all brought all of your baggage into that exchange. Like both of your issues came out in that exchange. I'd say you both gotta work through some things and be patient ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

@Chooseluv people don't actually lol when they write lol. IT is not a good indicator of joking. It is like saying ok these days.

Cancer and heart dieses, tripled deaths since 1900s.

maturin1919 comments on Apr 13, 2019:

Show me this 'proven' homeopathic remedy for cancer, please.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

@maturin1919 Something he is also not aware of is there are states and countries, mine included, where cannabis is LEGAL now. So if cannabis is this supposed cure-all for the multiple types of cancers out there, we should see a decrease of cancer deaths in those states and in Canada. But we don't.

Cancer and heart dieses, tripled deaths since 1900s.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 13, 2019:

So does that mean there is a cure somewhere in the world and that all the doctors and researchers involved just let their loved ones die from cancer and avoid garnering fame and high esteem in the scientific community because the FDA and Big Pharma is crap in the USA?? Can you step out of your ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

@Castlepaloma I am pretty sure you do not possess any university science education or any science education beyond high school. Plus, you severely lack critical thinking skills. Your appeals to emotion and your paranoia is useless, though noted. You literally did not step out of your US-centrism also. Typical ignorant Murican. It's okay. You are a product of your crappy public education system.

A STAR IS BORN I have been closely following Pete Buttegieg and the more I watch his interviews, ...

demifeministgal comments on Apr 15, 2019:

What is his platform like? What does he believe about income inequality? About the gun violence in the USA? About the prison industrial complex? About environmental damage? About offering socialized healthcare or affordable pharmaceuticals for Americans? About raising the minimum wage to a livable ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 16, 2019:

@HankSherman I did not want him to convince me I just wanted information on him. Just like you will not go out of your way to research Canadian or British or any foreign candidates, similarly others do not devote all of our time to researching US politicians.

How was your weekend?

demifeministgal comments on Apr 15, 2019:

My weekend consisted of going to an all you can eat sushi buffet for my sister's birthday. Followed by spending the weekend with my FWBs watching uplifting inspirational videos (it was raining all weekend here) and snuggling with him and getting to sleep in on Sunday without being mocked for it by a...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 15, 2019:

@BeeHappy I have not been my actual mental age for a long time. I've been an old soul for awhile now. high school was rough to say the least. heh

Here is something I thought about just today.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 15, 2019:

Also, as someone that has never rushed into sex with a guy, these guys don't act differently around us either. They see us as some challenge to be won, like a difficult level of a video game. Do not blame yourself, it is their issue and their problem, not yours. But, if you feel you need to change ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 15, 2019:

@Cabsmom oh okay. I was just letting you know that such dishonest men will continue being dishonest despite any personal changes you make. Because they are the problem. It was just an FYI kind of tip.

Me: Hello Him: Well Hello Sexy.

AndrewInVail comments on Apr 14, 2019:

Dafuq? Sad thing is that approach must occasionally work on someone or why else would he do it?

demifeministgal replies on Apr 15, 2019:

Sadder still is he thinks women are a monolith and what worked on 1 woman must work on all of us. :/

the gorgeous latina Gina Rodriguez :)

Logician comments on Apr 14, 2019:

No arguments from me on that point! VERY beautiful with perfect girl curves! A shorter skirt would be awesome! Randy

demifeministgal replies on Apr 15, 2019:

I like choosing the classier pics of women. Sometimes I will include bikini pics as well, but mainly I post covered up pics :)

Cancer and heart dieses, tripled deaths since 1900s.

BD66 comments on Apr 12, 2019:

That's because in 1900, most people died from some form of bacterial infection. Cancer and Heart Disease are "old people diseases". You have to die of something. The life expectancy for someone born in 1900 was 47 years. The life expectancy for someone born today is 77 years for men and 81 years ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 13, 2019:

@Castlepaloma LOL Bullshit. Provide proof that the apricots and B 17 products are the cause of the lack of cancer or STFU. You are spreading New Age, psuedoscientific propaganda.

Step back.

Slatiente comments on Apr 13, 2019:

The Worst thing we do with our dogs is treat them like theyre people.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 13, 2019:

@SiouxcitySue Well kirby gets a rain coat when it rains because wet or drenched fur coats are no good and smell funny. And in frigid -30 degree celsius with windchill Canadian weather he needs his booties and a jacket because his paws get cold and he won't walk just sits there lifting his paws and shivering. So, he gets clothed for his own good and for convenience based on shitty weather.

Last day as a teenager.

zesty comments on Apr 12, 2019:

Get a good education. In your free time have all the sex you can!

demifeministgal replies on Apr 12, 2019:

all the consensual, safe sex you can.* ;)

We'll be having a Game of Thrones watch party in the chat room Sunday night 9pm EST on.

Jnei comments on Apr 12, 2019:

Am I the only person left in the entire world who has never seen Game of Thrones?

demifeministgal replies on Apr 12, 2019:

nah. same here.

This is Ashley Graham a "plus-sized" model. I think she is gorgeous and I love her face too.

Storm1752 comments on Apr 11, 2019:

I didn't SAY she was fat.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 11, 2019:

@Storm1752 *shrugs* I took this to be a group celebrating all body types which is why I have posted muscular or athletic women pics and a pic of a woman with vitiligo, as both deviate from the traditional looking victoria secret models types.

This is Ashley Graham a "plus-sized" model. I think she is gorgeous and I love her face too.

Storm1752 comments on Apr 11, 2019:

I didn't SAY she was fat.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 11, 2019:

To which I asked, who did? Or do you believe this is a group just for fat people? :S or fat acceptance?

Can a man be friends with a woman without it being sexual?

MsHoliday comments on Apr 10, 2019:

Yes I have a male friend for six years, and no sex. We joke that if we had of been sexual, we would be strangers now.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 10, 2019:

I also have a platonic male friend for many years now. And have had them in the past in high school through university. It can be done.

This is Ashley Graham a "plus-sized" model. I think she is gorgeous and I love her face too.

Storm1752 comments on Apr 10, 2019:

She's not 'fat' in all the ways that count.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 10, 2019:

who said she was fat though? :S The industry just dubbed her plus size but then, I think any model over size 4 is deemed plus-sized. hmm

Please help me pass level.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 9, 2019:

It is too damn bloody cold in Canada. Stay in Brazil if you can! Enjoy the gorgeous weather! But in all honesty yes atheists are not discriminated here as they are in Brazil. However, our immigration point system means you have to be highly educated, speak english or french, have lots of money to ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 10, 2019:

@ylma Get a job in Canada you mean? Which area of the country are you looking to immigrate to? Any province or city in mind?

Please help me pass level.

lerlo comments on Apr 9, 2019:

Not worth the effort...check out the points you need to get from 7 to 8... :)

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

right??! wtf site creator why such a large jump?

Belated preface: I am not going to reply to everyone posting a response here, I do not have the ...

demifeministgal comments on Apr 9, 2019:

For starters learn the difference between race and ethnicity. Second look up the definitions of racism and ethnicism. Your logic fails and falls flat because you are conflating and equating race and ethnicity. Failed premises leads to failed conclusions. Try again.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

@THHA Use this for future reference to help you along. https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/

Belated preface: I am not going to reply to everyone posting a response here, I do not have the ...

demifeministgal comments on Apr 9, 2019:

For starters learn the difference between race and ethnicity. Second look up the definitions of racism and ethnicism. Your logic fails and falls flat because you are conflating and equating race and ethnicity. Failed premises leads to failed conclusions. Try again.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

@THHA Except that you constructed a flimsy and false analogy to try and make a bad point. You were trying to justify stereotyping visible minorities by comparing it to stereotyping cultures of people. The two are not the same thing. It is a logical fallacy, specifically a false equivalence. But, since you have an average IQ, and put so much stock in IQ scores, it is no wonder you failed to see your failed attempts at logic. ah well.

Last week was a bit rough.

brainyactress comments on Apr 8, 2019:

Even when they’re very bad, they’re what make us alive and human. I know, I know. But the quickest way out of bad feelings is through them. Also, EFT helps me a lot. You might check that out.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

@brainyactress ooh. Is that the thing with using like an elastic rubber band and snapping it on your wrist every time emotions get intense?

Last week was a bit rough.

ToolGuy comments on Apr 9, 2019:

Is it emotions or are you an intense person. If you are intense, scaling them may help.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

What is scaling? what does it entail?

Last week was a bit rough.

brainyactress comments on Apr 8, 2019:

Even when they’re very bad, they’re what make us alive and human. I know, I know. But the quickest way out of bad feelings is through them. Also, EFT helps me a lot. You might check that out.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

what's EFT? :s

Hmm soo 50 000 points to get to level 8?

mzbehavin comments on Apr 8, 2019:

I'm nearly there. Less than 500 to go. :) I love this place.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

@mzbehavin It's my sister's bday too! yay for aries' ;)

Hmm soo 50 000 points to get to level 8?

Dancing comments on Apr 8, 2019:

Recheck your math. It's 10,000 for level 7. 50,000 for level 8.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

why are you here to just crush my hopes and dreams though? *kisses teeth* :p

Hmm soo 50 000 points to get to level 8?

Jolanta comments on Apr 8, 2019:

Really there is no difference between being level 7 or level 8, so don't worry, be happy.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

LOL I will have to strive for being neutral :D

Hmm soo 50 000 points to get to level 8?

callmedubious comments on Apr 8, 2019:

as a fellow canuck & chronic underachiever i can only advise you to forget about level 8. if we live long enough to get there we may regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

ahh but this canuck is competitive and a perfectionist, so we have different mindsets despite our shared heritage. :p

Sporty, muscular and/or athletic women are sexy too. :) Venus & Serena Williams, tennis pros :)

Bungaloebob comments on Apr 9, 2019:

I LIKE THE 4th pic the best!

demifeministgal replies on Apr 9, 2019:

That is Venus Williams

Would you relocate if you found someone on here that you have a connection with?

Allamanda comments on Apr 8, 2019:

I'd go so far as to say we need a group for wannabee snowbirds! Who spend 6 months a year in 2 locations thus hopefully minimising summers and winters... Shall we start a relocator/snowbird group?

demifeministgal replies on Apr 8, 2019:

@Allamanda not privileged, although it would take money to travel back and forth that's for sure. :)

Would you relocate if you found someone on here that you have a connection with?

Allamanda comments on Apr 8, 2019:

I'd go so far as to say we need a group for wannabee snowbirds! Who spend 6 months a year in 2 locations thus hopefully minimising summers and winters... Shall we start a relocator/snowbird group?

demifeministgal replies on Apr 8, 2019:

@Allamanda oooh I see. lol

Would you relocate if you found someone on here that you have a connection with?

Allamanda comments on Apr 8, 2019:

I'd go so far as to say we need a group for wannabee snowbirds! Who spend 6 months a year in 2 locations thus hopefully minimising summers and winters... Shall we start a relocator/snowbird group?

demifeministgal replies on Apr 8, 2019:

@Allamanda trust me you do not want to come to Canada. The cold here is bloody miserable with the windchills. It is only okay if you look at it from indoors. I'm soo fckng tired of snow! I swear in my province we have two seasons and at extremes too: winter and summer. blah

How do you deal with manspreading?

Naejidlopalev comments on Apr 7, 2019:

People tend to not sit next to me often(it's rbf not because I smell lol) I have had guys do this and I say to them "can you give me some room please" but loudly so everyone notices them

demifeministgal replies on Apr 8, 2019:

@LiterateHiker It's resting bitch face. But it doesn't work for me if the person avoids looking at me! fckers

What makes you feel you had a good day?

Novelty comments on Apr 6, 2019:

A good day is when I don't get upset about one of the many things that ruin most of my days. It's so easy to have a bad day.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 7, 2019:

@indirect76 I agree. But there is still alot of ignorance about mental health and mental illness to this day. And people genuinely think mentally ill people can will or think themselves out of the disorder. Which would be as stupid as telling someone to think positive thoughts to heal a broken arm.

Looking for buddies.

Wildflower comments on Apr 6, 2019:

Hey Joe! Don't take these deviants too seriously. It's some kind of silly initiation they put newbies through. Lol. You'll get to know people just by reading posts and commenting. There are a lot of great people here... even these guys.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 7, 2019:

@hippydog ughh there was no offense here dude. why you being annoying? I was just musing on your spin on the phrase cock block that's all. geeze

Looking for buddies.

Wildflower comments on Apr 6, 2019:

Hey Joe! Don't take these deviants too seriously. It's some kind of silly initiation they put newbies through. Lol. You'll get to know people just by reading posts and commenting. There are a lot of great people here... even these guys.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 7, 2019:

@hippydog that's not a concerned face. It is a thinking face dubbed "hmmm". It meant I was saying hmmm to the term pussy blocking. AND now you know

I would like to comment about healing, mine in particular and what I have gleaned from others about ...

Tomfoolery33 comments on Apr 6, 2019:

I agree with what you're saying, but sometimes, if there's nothing that obviously happened to cause it, it can be hard to tell where the hurt comes from.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 7, 2019:

There is also the case of repression and for all you know your brain protected you from the horrors and has hidden what has happened from you. The general sense of the word you, not specific you tnorman

Find a value for “y” for each of n points on a function.

mzbehavin comments on Apr 1, 2019:

There is no value for why, only for when.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 6, 2019:

@InSaNe_97 It was a joke. wooosh

My online experience has been underwhelming, lots of scammers , propositioned by both sex's which ...

Dancing comments on Apr 5, 2019:

I just want to put it out there that lots of women don't wear makeup. Or paint their nails. Was she clean? Clean clothes? Brushed hair? That's effort.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 6, 2019:

@Tooreen LOL obviously.

For those who have a long distance friendship.

Novelty comments on Apr 5, 2019:

Distance is a factor, when my sister died in 2015 I couldn't afford to go to the funeral. I loved my sister.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 6, 2019:

aww man next time start a gofund me or other crowdfund. Heck even share it on this site. That is something actually worth financing rather than those people seeking money for frivolous crap.

My online experience has been underwhelming, lots of scammers , propositioned by both sex's which ...

Stephanie99 comments on Apr 5, 2019:

It would be nice if you would explain what you mean by basic maintenance, hair & nail stuff. Do you mean brushed for hair and clean for both? Do you mean gel and hair spray? Do you mean manicure and polish? I don't wear makeup often. I wouldn't for an initial meeting for a casual coffee. I'll dress ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 6, 2019:

And there's the kicker if he wasn't dressed formally himself or looking impeccable himself, does that not make him a hypocrite to expect that of this woman aka his date?

My online experience has been underwhelming, lots of scammers , propositioned by both sex's which ...

Dancing comments on Apr 5, 2019:

I just want to put it out there that lots of women don't wear makeup. Or paint their nails. Was she clean? Clean clothes? Brushed hair? That's effort.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 6, 2019:

@Tooreen maybe hair in ponytail was her preference or a matter of convenience or practicality. As someone with long and THICK hair leaving my hair down and flowing while trying to eat or talk or write or do any task is a pain and I do not do it. If I were to just go there and sit and do nothing just look pretty, then yea hair down would make sense. Ponytail is NOT a sign of lack of grooming. I assure you we brush our hair before donning ponytails.

[dailykos.

KKGator comments on Apr 4, 2019:

It doesn't matter.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 5, 2019:

@KKGator lol. critical thinking or nuanced thinking can be hard. Your way is lazier, albeit easier on you. Good luck with that.

I think that I found a live one.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

y'all needed a way to keep in touch out of the site or you need to get a smartphone. It's the 21st century girl! online dating without any way to contact said date is bizarre

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Stephanie99 what site or program do you use?

[dailykos.

KKGator comments on Apr 4, 2019:

It doesn't matter.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@KKGator How are you any better though? All of this rage and frustration is completely misdirected and misguided. It is not the womens' fault, nor should the onus be on us, to control mens' behaviours. But if you beat down on, instead of supporting other women, you are part of the problem. A woman that is uplifted and supported is more likely to fight back and stand up for herself than one that is kicked while she is down. I mean were you kicking ass and not taking shit from the moment you were a teen or young woman? No? Then you are a hypocrite. Yes? Well good for you most young girls/women are not you. Deal with it.

[dailykos.

KKGator comments on Apr 4, 2019:

It doesn't matter.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@KKGator I wholeheartedly disagree with this: "Women who keep quiet, going forward, forfeit their right to be heard later on." Especially if you realize the culture women are socialized in, especially religious ones, where the woman is blamed for the mans' actions or her protests/complaints dismissed and/or ignored. Not to mention the denial of it all, the self-blame, the shame. That view is too simplistic in nature and completely discounts human nature and peoples' socialization. Just saying.

I think that I found a live one.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

y'all needed a way to keep in touch out of the site or you need to get a smartphone. It's the 21st century girl! online dating without any way to contact said date is bizarre

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Stephanie99 oh man you should get one of those burner phone numbers. heh

I'm not sure what to do with a guy I'm dating.

LiterateHiker comments on Mar 29, 2019:

What do you mean by "I need space"? So you can be clear with him, it's important to figure out what you really need. 1. More time to yourself? 2. Need time to process your interactions? 3. Feel rushed, like he's pushing you too fast? 4. A chance to read, take a bath, clean your ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

My thoughts exactly. Though you gave examples vs just asking questions. xD

Besides politics, religion and age... what is your dating "dealbreaker"?

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

The person cannot be conservative minded or traditional and staunchly subscribe to gender roles. If the dude thinks I must do given things or must avoid doing or saying given things do to being a woman he can fck off and go date a regressive religious woman.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

Okay also I need someone that can kill bugs for me, someone that isn't a condescending twit talking down to me about subjects I know more about than him. Another dealbreaker is dishonest liars and manipulators. So pretty much anyone who is a narc/psychopath/sociopath is a dealbreaker for me.

We can always redefine and redeem our lives.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

I disagree that forgiveness is necessary to heal. I think one can move on and grow and heal without forgiving the wrong-doer.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Davekp This isn't even your post so literally yes I was. Believe it or not. Bye.

I'm turning 35 this month. Is this "middle aged?"

Paul4747 comments on Apr 4, 2019:

35 is the new 20. Rock on, fella.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Kafirah agree to disagree.

We can always redefine and redeem our lives.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

I disagree that forgiveness is necessary to heal. I think one can move on and grow and heal without forgiving the wrong-doer.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Davekp As I was about mine from the beginning and then additionally onwards.

We can always redefine and redeem our lives.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

I disagree that forgiveness is necessary to heal. I think one can move on and grow and heal without forgiving the wrong-doer.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Davekp well yes. But that does not mean I cannot share the other perspective with you and others. Right?

Dealing with "at risk" boys as a volunteer mentor.

LiterateHiker comments on Apr 4, 2019:

As a volunteer college mentor at Wenatchee High School, I sometimes "ruffle the feathers" of students I mentor. That's normal. As low income, first generation students, they are often the first person in their family to go to college. In June 2018, I took three young women I previously ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@LiterateHiker To be fair, many adults and seniors are still not reflective or self-aware and would have reacted the same way to cry about a dead loved one. Though the whatever statement may not have been said. That is interesting that the US offers such counselling services. I had to write my own essays on my own without input or someone older to guide me. Though that was while in university already not when trying to get in. But my high school didn't offer such programs either. Though loan programs are more reasonable here and tuition much less expensive in Canada, so there's that.

Dressing for Brad Pitt?

1of5 comments on Apr 4, 2019:

Why do you think they're dressing for Brad Pitt? Maybe, just maybe, their dressing for themselves because they like the way they look. As for their reaction to you, maybe they're not dressing for you and don't appreciate being stared at - just a possibility, mind you.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

Right?! Also what a damn outdated reference. Because yea young women are totally dressing for middle-aged or senior men. Who's this guy kidding?! Goodness forbid a woman dresses for herself. Though I have heard the hypothesis of women dressing for each other because we tend to judge one another on our attire more than men do. Which I would say is possible, since as a teen I started doing given girly things due to female peer pressure or shaming, not what guys said.

Dressing for Brad Pitt?

MsHoliday comments on Apr 4, 2019:

Maybe you are looking at women half your age, in that case they would give you a nasty look, and it isn’t because you don’t look like B.P.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

Honestly the majority of my street harassment or what the older crowd would call cat calling comes from senior guys, that are brazen and overt with it. It's no surprise that we have to have our guards up since these guys struggle more with boundaries with us than they do with older women (aka they think they can get away with shit with us that they cannot with older women, who rightfully, don't put up with their shit any longer).

Dealing with "at risk" boys as a volunteer mentor.

LiterateHiker comments on Apr 4, 2019:

As a volunteer college mentor at Wenatchee High School, I sometimes "ruffle the feathers" of students I mentor. That's normal. As low income, first generation students, they are often the first person in their family to go to college. In June 2018, I took three young women I previously ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

what do you mean by that? As in you get on their nerves? Or upset or offend them? :s

I'm turning 35 this month. Is this "middle aged?"

Paul4747 comments on Apr 4, 2019:

35 is the new 20. Rock on, fella.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

LOL so what are people in their 20s then? The new teens? xD

We can always redefine and redeem our lives.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 4, 2019:

I disagree that forgiveness is necessary to heal. I think one can move on and grow and heal without forgiving the wrong-doer.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Davekp I read a response about it once that resonated with me: "A particularly harmful myth is that 'healing requires forgiveness' of the abuser. The abuser has no "right" to forgiveness—such privileges can only be earned. And although the damage was done with words, true forgiveness can only be earned with deeds. For the victim of emotional abuse, the most viable form of help is self–help—and a victim handicapped by the need to "forgive" the abuser is a handicapped helper indeed. The most damaging mistake an emotional–abuse victim can make is to invest in the "rehabilitation" of the abuser. Too often this becomes still another wish that didn't come true—and emotionally abused children will conclude that they deserve no better result. The costs of emotional abuse cannot be measured by visible scars, but each victim loses some percentage of capacity. And that capacity remains lost so long as the victim is stuck in the cycle of 'understanding' and 'forgiveness."

I found this to be accurate.

demifeministgal comments on Apr 3, 2019:

meh zodiacs are superstitious bull... but if you posted this for fun then ok

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

@Nukdookum You would think so. Yet there are people on this site that do believe in spiritual and other woo type BS. :(

Dear gawd, hold me back...

Cutiebeauty comments on Apr 4, 2019:

He looks mean! Eek! Still handsome... I'd like to see him smiling

demifeministgal replies on Apr 4, 2019:

LOL it's not a mean look a mean look would be if he was frowning. This is meant to be an intense look.

Something I haven’t seen posted (not that it hasn’t been but I don’t live on this site so I ...

Athena comments on Apr 3, 2019:

I'm only here for community, as many people are, so I don't experience that side of it. However, any social website will expose you to this risk. I don't think you can find the perfect dating site where this doesn't exist, you just have to become an excellent screener. Exchange 2 messages ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 3, 2019:

@PalacinkyPDX Not necessarily. @Proudmerrie knows a way to call people without them having your phone number.

The Challenge of Going Off Psychiatric Drugs - The New Yorker [newyorker.com]

RavenCT comments on Apr 2, 2019:

That was a great article. When I worked at a Respite we often tapered patients down to zero meds to start from scratch. It's hard but it can be good. (Medication Holidays is what Doctors call that.). This young woman had all the supports in the world and *still *almost took her own life. I ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 2, 2019:

@RavenCT That's good. I know that there can be withdrawal symptoms and depression or anxiety or (insert psych disorder being treated here) relapses when weaning off and that is concerning. :/

The Challenge of Going Off Psychiatric Drugs - The New Yorker [newyorker.com]

RavenCT comments on Apr 2, 2019:

That was a great article. When I worked at a Respite we often tapered patients down to zero meds to start from scratch. It's hard but it can be good. (Medication Holidays is what Doctors call that.). This young woman had all the supports in the world and *still *almost took her own life. I ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 2, 2019:

Did you have any serious side effects from the effexor? asking for a friend >.>

Advice on time management?

demifeministgal comments on Apr 1, 2019:

Are you a single mom? I would ask your partner or family members to help out sometimes with the kids so that you can get some time in for school work.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 2, 2019:

@theblackdahlia I wonder if there are sliding scale or affordable daycares offered in your area. Worth looking into if/when you have time. Maybe not everyday, but some days to give yourself a break so you do not get burnout.

Future hot hunk:

demifeministgal comments on Apr 1, 2019:

less kids, more grown men in hot hunks group please!

demifeministgal replies on Apr 2, 2019:

@CarolinaGirl60 idk. maybe? but one is 1 too many imo. I'm a hater

"When People can't spot a Tinder Troll" or "Chad is Bad" [distractify.com]

CaroleKay comments on Apr 1, 2019:

Well there are some skanky guys that come off as cute here too.

demifeministgal replies on Apr 1, 2019:

@CaroleKay well you've piqued my curiosity. Message me too when you can? :) P.S. no dck pics necessary for me.

All I need control my depression and physical pain (arthritis, fibromyalgia) is medical cannabis ...

UpsideDownAgain comments on Apr 1, 2019:

Many people talk about their need for cannabis but don't look into the many other herbs that will ease their conditions. Licorice will heal arthritis from what I understand while ginger will ease the pain while you're waiting for it to heal and help the licorice work faster. There are a number of ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 1, 2019:

@Meili because what if they abstain from seeking real treatment or abandon their current treatment due to what you say? Words can have far reaching consequences, believe it or not.

All I need control my depression and physical pain (arthritis, fibromyalgia) is medical cannabis ...

UpsideDownAgain comments on Apr 1, 2019:

Many people talk about their need for cannabis but don't look into the many other herbs that will ease their conditions. Licorice will heal arthritis from what I understand while ginger will ease the pain while you're waiting for it to heal and help the licorice work faster. There are a number of ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 1, 2019:

I think that licorice will heal line is BS and is harmful misinformation to give people that are desperate and suffering. Shame. Good intentions, bad execution.

Am I doomed relationship wise being a minority in a minority?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

If you live in the states, the church was a very big deal to the black community for political protesting to garnering rights to gathering as a community. It was through the institution that so many black americans got their rights and connected with others. The sad after effect of the church being ...

demifeministgal replies on Apr 1, 2019:

@gigihein personally I see no evidence of christ from anthropological studies. But if you meant christ as the fictional character, then okay yes.

I am Mufassil Islam.

GuitarDoctor comments on Mar 22, 2019:

Dude you're on the wrong website. Go away and take your mystical bullcrap with you!

demifeministgal replies on Mar 31, 2019:

he is an ex-muslim looking for other ex-muslims to help, because apostasy is pretty much a crime in Islam. How exactly is he on the wrong site then? idiot

It's my little brother's senior prom tonight, and I'm kinda reminiscing about my proms.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 30, 2019:

Most of my friends did not go with dates. In fact, maybe one or two had a date and I did too. The only reason I had a date was because I asked my crush from the track and field team to go with me and he accepted heh. You look so different now. Somehow you look younger now in your photo than you did ...

demifeministgal replies on Mar 30, 2019:

@LadyAlyxandrea I hope the weight loss was a personal choice and not due to illness. :(

World Happiness Report 2019 | The World Happiness Report

Sticks48 comments on Mar 30, 2019:

The USSR ruined the word socialism. That will change as a generation or two pass. The millennials have no such fear of socialist programs.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 30, 2019:

You are very right about millenials. :D

So my mom's birthday is coming up next month, on the 20th.

Amisja comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Please try and make friends with your Mum. I would walk on broken glass for 5 minutes with mine and we never got on.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 30, 2019:

@Amisja True. But it may be safe to presume you were not LC or NC with your mom when she died.

What do you say about near death experiences where the person claims they've seen heaven or hell?

thewaterygoat comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Dreams maybe? Don’t really feel like we have done enough research on the brain to truly understand what happens... we only have the person’s first hand account. Who knows what it really is

demifeministgal replies on Mar 30, 2019:

@thewaterygoat They obviously know more than you. I find it strange that you are discounting scientific explanations by experts for what? A preferred supernatural style explanation? What makes you different from a religious person then? sad

Has anyone else noticed the uptick of religious scam account members seeking love here?

1of5 comments on Mar 29, 2019:

Not really. There's always the chance they're questioning their faith and are here to see why others do. Think it's kinda SOP for the site. What I have noticed is a hair trigger to label someone a scammer, but oh well. People get conditioned.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 30, 2019:

SOP??

Just now read the article on modern dating terms listed above.

IrishTxJudy comments on Mar 29, 2019:

Anyone can tell you anything online - here or other places. Just because you meet someone here doesn’t mean you are safe. These dating terms have been discussed here and in other groups. Maybe you just missed them. No one wants to put themselves out there only to be hurt. Getting ghosted never...

demifeministgal replies on Mar 30, 2019:

@IrishTxJudy Not just scammer. Us younger folks use slang and abbreviations and such so even if this site was scam free, us fresh blood would infiltrate the site. haha ;)

Things are going well with my new psychiatrist.

AlasBabylon comments on Mar 29, 2019:

Dr. Ahmed also instructed me to cut Buspar out of my nighttime meds, and only take my morning dose. Since I started doing this, I've been sleeping better (although I've still had trouble with waking an hour or two early). Last night, though, I did sleep about 9 hours. I'm also trying to avoid ...

demifeministgal replies on Mar 29, 2019:

wow 9 hours of sleep!! That is incredible! I could only hope for such a night's rest. >.>

What do you say about near death experiences where the person claims they've seen heaven or hell?

thewaterygoat comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Dreams maybe? Don’t really feel like we have done enough research on the brain to truly understand what happens... we only have the person’s first hand account. Who knows what it really is

demifeministgal replies on Mar 29, 2019:

You are wrong: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-near-death-experience-isnt-proof-heaven/

So my mom's birthday is coming up next month, on the 20th.

Amisja comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Please try and make friends with your Mum. I would walk on broken glass for 5 minutes with mine and we never got on.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 29, 2019:

Interesting. Other people would rather walk on broken glass then ever have to talk to their mothers again. Please realize that your relationship was quite privileged one and not everyone is as lucky as you. In short, you are projecting and guilting people that may have shitty relationships with their parent(s). not cool.

You know how when you're a parent of young kids there's no such thing as privacy when in the ...

Marcie1974 comments on Mar 28, 2019:

My cockapoo is the same way. Very occasionally he'll let me go to the bathroom by myself but if I'm in there too long he comes in to check on me. Thankfully I live alone now and can just keep my door open. If I have company I just shut him in there with me. He loves his mama!!

demifeministgal replies on Mar 29, 2019:

@Marcie1974 barney's a cute lil guy. kirby would love chasing him or having him chase him.

You know how when you're a parent of young kids there's no such thing as privacy when in the ...

Marcie1974 comments on Mar 28, 2019:

My cockapoo is the same way. Very occasionally he'll let me go to the bathroom by myself but if I'm in there too long he comes in to check on me. Thankfully I live alone now and can just keep my door open. If I have company I just shut him in there with me. He loves his mama!!

demifeministgal replies on Mar 28, 2019:

my sister's other dog is a cockapoo. Share your cockapoo pic for us? :D

sometimes kirby wants to help with the baking or cooking going on ;) One of my nicknames for him is ...

Rustee comments on Mar 28, 2019:

Kirby is a cutie! Is he a Wheaten?!? My dogs love to help in the kitchen, but their skill-set is pretty much limited to cleaning up after whatever I drop!

demifeministgal replies on Mar 28, 2019:

@Rustee His breed can have really long facial hair but they cut and trim his so he can see better and they can see his lovely face better. :)

sometimes kirby wants to help with the baking or cooking going on ;) One of my nicknames for him is ...

Nightshade1313 comments on Mar 28, 2019:

I love him! ❤️

demifeministgal replies on Mar 28, 2019:

Me too. Even though he steals my food whenever I leave a room. His breed are jumpers so even if I leave food at the end of a counter by the kitchen wall he slowly but surely gets it. he's a cute lil punkass :p

sometimes kirby wants to help with the baking or cooking going on ;) One of my nicknames for him is ...

Rustee comments on Mar 28, 2019:

Kirby is a cutie! Is he a Wheaten?!? My dogs love to help in the kitchen, but their skill-set is pretty much limited to cleaning up after whatever I drop!

demifeministgal replies on Mar 28, 2019:

HE IS! Only people with experience with wheaties know he's a wheaton. More specifically, he's a soft coated wheaten terrier. I Love his soft fur. <3

How do you feel about Friends With Benefits, whether your single or married?

Amisja comments on Mar 24, 2019:

It's an awful idea. It's not how humans work..

demifeministgal replies on Mar 28, 2019:

@Amisja Except that FWBs is NOT random sex. It is literally sex with a friend. So you referencing those studies does not prove your point at all. Also talking about curtains and kids? yughh many more people these days do not want kids. scratch that from your list, imo

I am curious are there any people with kids or planning to have kids in this group?

glennlab comments on Mar 27, 2019:

My son is grown, and I am currently childfree, my skin is thick enough to take a few general insults, I say derogatory stuff about myself, so what if someone else does. In this day when people get so butthurt over spilled milk, I think we should all be willing to see what others are saying.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

thanks for actually answering my question instead of getting defensive or butthurt. Good on you.

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@freeofgod but how the fck does that make anyone a coward? And if it does, so fckng what? who is she to shame and mock cowardly people. fck her

Massive frustration post, incoming.

LiterateHiker comments on Mar 26, 2019:

Common courtesy seems to be rapidly decreasing. For example: College students walk four abreast without yielding, rudely forcing me off the sidewalk. "Look up!" I say loudly, before a student runs into me while staring at their phone.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

do you live in one of those "college towns" in the US?

Hey guys! I'm new to this, whats there to do on here?

Cutiebeauty comments on Mar 26, 2019:

You socialize haha

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@Bradzilla23 well it seems you jumped to level 4 now. heh

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@hankster nothing at the moment I am in the library so will watch later. heh And not sure yet we will see what netflix has to offer since I've already watched all of the WLIIA episodes. (whose line is it anyways)

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@hankster ooh no. I was using the british slang way of saying later. I a not british, but sometimes I will type it. heh

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@hankster who's norm? :o

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@hankster aww man I dislike coconut! I will opt for chocolate instead and watching a comedy. Cheers :)

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@hankster They are just annoyances really. Like mosquitos sucking on your blood then making you bloody itchy for days heh. I am just averse to controlling people due to life experiences is all.

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demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

I feel the same way. Not here for dating and also do not like taking pictures. Apparently, being a millenial against taking selfies makes me a pariah with low self-esteem or trying to scam guys. Scam into what exactly? I do not ask for money or support or anything from men. So what exactly am I ...

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@KKGator oh man I've never been nice to assholes. But especially online, I am not going to be nice to someone harassing me. I may have to be nice in person, or risk violence, but I do not have to be nice online where I am safe(r ). I told that idiot to look up the word abuse then to google the concept of animal abuse to see how foolish his comment really was. Cuz words have meanings ya know. He messaged something I didn't get to read, then blocked me! heh good riddance

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

hankster comments on Mar 27, 2019:

if that's the kind of thing that aggravates a person, that's the kind of person I got no interest in getting to know very well. I've seen some people downright indignant about it. hilarious.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@hankster desperation is no excuse for harassment imo. I am not hurting anyone or oppressing people or causing harm by not having my pic up. Those guys reaked of control freaks. HEY YOU! WHERE IS YOUR PIC?! WHY DON'T YOU HAVE ONE? Gives him answer. OKAY THEN. JUST SEND ME A PIC THEN! DO IT NOW. umm no. gtfoh demanding stranger.

I am curious are there any people with kids or planning to have kids in this group?

SkotlandSkye comments on Mar 27, 2019:

No kids. Childfree by choice. What is the point of your inquiry? Do you realize that making it a "poll" would make the results easier to understand/see at a glance.

demifeministgal replies on Mar 27, 2019:

@SkotlandSkye why not? Am I stopping them from joining? No. I just am curious as to the whys. If someone feels attacked for being questioned about their choices in life, they can move on from my post. It is like a sociological type inquiry. We were taught to question such things and human behaviours in an inquisitive way.