The sign at one of the churches in town says “God loves you whether you like it or not”.

ABSykes comments on Jul 16, 2018:

I get seriously pissed at a business coach of mine with crap like that "It's okay if you don't believe in god, he still believes in you." Even worse though is we'll have big training events and they get up and boast about how great the USA is and how we enjoy the freedoms of speech and religion "so ...

graceylou replies on Jul 16, 2018:

I feel sorry for you. My Dad is like that when he wants to talk about god to me. Like I’m the unfortunate human who’s lost but it’s ok god won’t abandon me. Bleah.

The sign at one of the churches in town says “God loves you whether you like it or not”.

Marionville comments on Jul 16, 2018:

I think it is pretty benign. I don’t object as it is simply meaningless to me. How can something nonexistent do anything, only a person you know can love you so it’s plainly nonsensical. It is harmless compared to signs of hate that racists and nazis daub on the doors and walls of Synagogues...

graceylou replies on Jul 16, 2018:

Usually their signs are pretty harmless but this one just seems unsettling to me. Just made me cringe.

What length of hair do you prefer on your significant other?

graceylou comments on Jul 16, 2018:

I don't actually really care what hairstyle they choose. But I do have a thing for shaved/bald heads. Still, hairstyle isn't all that important to me.

graceylou replies on Jul 16, 2018:

@Sticks48 Well, I do like shaved/bald heads, facial hair, and older men. Shhhhh, don't tell anyone.

The sign at one of the churches in town says “God loves you whether you like it or not”.

mordant comments on Jul 16, 2018:

It's telling that they don't see this as ironic or weird. Imagine a man approaching you and saying, "I love you whether you like it or not". And yet somehow this becomes okay when god is the stalker!

graceylou replies on Jul 16, 2018:

Made me think it could be what the priests are telling the little choir boys, God tells me I should love you whether you like it or not. SHIVER!!!!

Let's get personal: What is your worst vice? Mine is smoking cigarettes and eating sugar.

graceylou comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Men and animals.

graceylou replies on Jul 15, 2018:

@jlynn37 Good.

I just need to rant.

VAL3941 comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Tell them all you are on your deathbed and want them come visit you. See the reactions then.

graceylou replies on Jul 15, 2018:

@VAL3941 Nah. When I know the time is near I would just walk off into the woods and no one would find my body.

I have never been known for my self control, especially when it comes to food.

graceylou comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Are you allergic to tree nuts? If not may be try nut butters like almond butter or cashew butter (and treats made with these). Obviously not exactly peanuty tasting but somewhat similar. There are nut free and allergy safe candies out there too that are quite delicious.

graceylou replies on Jul 15, 2018:

@LadyAlyxandrea I’m allergic to peanuts and tree nuts and numerous other foods. I usually check out allergy safe treats and snacks online and in stores. You may find something you really like among those.

I just need to rant.

Hihi comments on Jul 14, 2018:

This destroyed our family. I feel for you.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@Hihi I think my brothers and I can probably work something out, just the three of us, with close consultation with my parents. But my sister in law is being fanatical in rescuing my parents from us for some reason. It's gotten insanely complicated when it shouldn't be. Now my older brother is suspicious of my younger brother (because of his wife), and hearing other sides, I've become suspicious as well. I think my Dad has also been saying untrue things to other people, not because his mind isn't right but because he interprets things his own way. So I'm thinking that I can no longer take his word for anything (he recently accused me of something I did not do, though unrelated to this matter).

I just need to rant.

LucyLoohoo comments on Jul 14, 2018:

(((((HUGS)))) Screen your calls. Let's go for a ''girls' night".....I'll buy!

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@LucyLoohoo I have my reasons for not trusting female friends or coworkers. I've been stabbed in the back too many times.

I just need to rant.

LucyLoohoo comments on Jul 14, 2018:

(((((HUGS)))) Screen your calls. Let's go for a ''girls' night".....I'll buy!

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@LucyLoohoo Not me. I get along better with men. I grew up with brothers.

I just need to rant.

CreativelyMe comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I know it is not easy but you need to make yourself your priority. There is no reason for you to take responsibility for yourself and them too. They sound as if they are only trying to pull you in if you choose their side. They are showing NO CONCERN for your needs and are placing their wants above...

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I'm not too concerned about choosing sides. I'm more interested in finding the truth. Clearly I'm not getting facts, just opinions and ideas that contradict each other. I have to be involved to sort things out for my parents' sake.

I just need to rant.

educatedredneck comments on Jul 14, 2018:

https://www.facebook.com/LADbible/videos/4803472413033244/?hc_ref=ARQ7mO00i3gvVu7BzKNnyDjkRJWsgFm5ju9NDlikkZP_jGicC3Z5G8VWotU4T1XBvU8

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

Oh boy. And it's a world championship at that.

I just need to rant.

jab60 comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I have nothing funny to offer. However, you need to stop and take a breath. You will not be good to anyone if you make yourself sick over this. Just be supportive as distance and work makes it almost impossible for you to do anything. Just ask them to keep you informed.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@jab60 Life with my family has ALWAYS been difficult. There is a reason I moved far away from them.

I just need to rant.

CallMeDave comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I'm the local guy in my family. When siblings appear and demand to know why they feel out of the loop I just shake my head. This doesn't sound like your case though. If someone decides to swoop in all at once, they should accept that they are a swooper. It's not my fault they live 3000 miles ...

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@CallMeDave My parents could as well, especially my Dad. But neither said anything to me.

I just need to rant.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 14, 2018:

What do you call a drummer without a girlfriend?.....Homeless! TA-DAH! Best l could do on such short notice. ?

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@Sticks48 I'm very stubborn and I'm sticking with my own take on this. My grad supervisor when I was a grad student said that I was a pitbull because once I latch on to an idea I wouldn't let it go. LOL.

I just need to rant.

jsbach comments on Jul 14, 2018:

From what you are saying it seems like your sister-in-law is taking over for your parents needs. Why is she being "allowed" do this? She is not blood and doesn't have any legal jurisdiction do so. Only you and your brother/siblings do. Where is your brother in this matter? Why is he letting ...

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

Well, she controls my brother too. My younger brother actually has said almost nothing. He doesn't really participate in any conversations. I can't even try to talk to him without having to deal with her. I am trying to talk to him privately but I get no response. We are trying to have a siblings only conversation but my older brother is suspicious that anything he and I say can be misinterpreted and used against us. What I want is simple. I want my parents to choose what they want for their care. I don't care if they are not of the most sound mind and if it's not the best care for them. They may not have long to live and I want them to make a decision that makes them happy.

I just need to rant.

AmiSue comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Sorry to hear this! The pressure! Forcing yourself to find a few minutes of stillness can be a great way to re-charge. Sit still, handle one of the snakes, be calm and breathe. Sometimes breaking the stress momentum is what it takes for me, shutting out all that damn noise for a few minutes. You got...

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I thought a crazy day at work today was actually a break from my stressful life.

I just need to rant.

LucyLoohoo comments on Jul 14, 2018:

(((((HUGS)))) Screen your calls. Let's go for a ''girls' night".....I'll buy!

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I don't know. My girls night might be entirely different idea from most people's.

I just need to rant.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 14, 2018:

What do you call a drummer without a girlfriend?.....Homeless! TA-DAH! Best l could do on such short notice. ?

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

Oh, that is funny, but also sad. Thanks.

I just need to rant.

DeiP comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Here is a pic if my fur baby... she usually makes me feel better. Like a virtual hug. Hope your open goes well.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

How cute. I worked today, and I worked with dogs. Dogs are so much better than people even if the dogs are behaving like asses.

I just need to rant.

Hihi comments on Jul 14, 2018:

This destroyed our family. I feel for you.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

Sorry to hear that. I thought we could deal with this in a civil manner until threats are involved. But my family never gets along so it's nothing new.

I just need to rant.

VAL3941 comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Tell them all you are on your deathbed and want them come visit you. See the reactions then.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

They'd never believe it. I would never invite them to come visit me.

I just need to rant.

Jolanta comments on Jul 14, 2018:

How about changing your number for a bit.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

@Jolanta That would be my sister-in-law, in front of agents from social services. It's not a big deal if she makes me feel guilty but it would be if government agencies believe her.

I just need to rant.

jab60 comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I have nothing funny to offer. However, you need to stop and take a breath. You will not be good to anyone if you make yourself sick over this. Just be supportive as distance and work makes it almost impossible for you to do anything. Just ask them to keep you informed.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I'm opening my business next week and there are many things to still get finished. I'm already wearing myself out though I had minor surgery a couple of weeks ago and am not supposed to do heavy work (I'm trying not to push it too much). Now everyone is wanting me to take sides because of the conflicting care ideas. There are very pressing matters now that I may need to take over care plans long distance.

I just need to rant.

Jolanta comments on Jul 14, 2018:

How about changing your number for a bit.

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I wish I could but at this moment I can't do that. I've thought of not answering my phone. I've apparently been accused of neglecting my parents already as it is.

I just need to rant.

CallMeDave comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I'm the local guy in my family. When siblings appear and demand to know why they feel out of the loop I just shake my head. This doesn't sound like your case though. If someone decides to swoop in all at once, they should accept that they are a swooper. It's not my fault they live 3000 miles ...

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I keep in contact with my parents and my siblings as well but no one ever said anything to me about the urgent matter until last month before I came to visit.

I just need to rant.

ABSykes comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Man, oh man, wouldn't it be great to be able to switch into Heartless Bastard/Bitch mode once in a while! Just flip the switch and not give a shit for a while!

graceylou replies on Jul 14, 2018:

I wish I could. The situation is rather urgent. I was in bitch mode a little bit last night after finding out some things that were said by a certain person that was not true.

Question of the day: What are you craving?

graceylou comments on Jul 13, 2018:

A nice juicy pineapple.

graceylou replies on Jul 13, 2018:

@moonmaid Ummmmm, no. I'm vegan, and I don't like chocolate.

Penises.

brentan comments on Jul 12, 2018:

Mine has been a source of pleasure for over 50 years now. I forgave it a long time ago for not being huge and we have a comfortable relationship with each other. Even urinating is somewhat pleasant too, especially if you’re out somewhere like a forest and you can aim anywhere you like.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Anonbene Awwww man, now I want more than one. Like a set of crayons, one of every colour, shape, and size.

Penises.

graceylou comments on Jul 12, 2018:

What? Who are these women who hate penises? Mmmm. I think penises go great with my morning coffee.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@brentan LOL. Well, I wasn't the one who said anything about stirring anything with penises. Except may be stirring up trouble.

Penises.

graceylou comments on Jul 12, 2018:

What? Who are these women who hate penises? Mmmm. I think penises go great with my morning coffee.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Lukian Well, “here for community” hadn’t really stopped anyone. LOL. Anyhow, it wouldn’t bother me.

Penises.

graceylou comments on Jul 12, 2018:

What? Who are these women who hate penises? Mmmm. I think penises go great with my morning coffee.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Anonbene I can understand penises aren’t what all women want but there’s no reason to hate penises. Live and let live.

Penises.

graceylou comments on Jul 12, 2018:

What? Who are these women who hate penises? Mmmm. I think penises go great with my morning coffee.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Lukian Only if it’s long enough to reach the bottom of my giant coffee mug. But shhhh I like my coffee black.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I get told l don't look my age anytime l'm asked. Gives me a little pick me up. I should go to the carnival see how many stuffed animals l can win.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Sticks48 I just did.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I get told l don't look my age anytime l'm asked. Gives me a little pick me up. I should go to the carnival see how many stuffed animals l can win.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Sticks48 Yes I still have her. There’s a local person who custom makes sock monkeys.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I get told l don't look my age anytime l'm asked. Gives me a little pick me up. I should go to the carnival see how many stuffed animals l can win.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Sticks48 I had a sock monkey made in my likeness. LOL. She has all my tattoos at the time, and my nipple rings (but that’s a whole other story).

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I get told l don't look my age anytime l'm asked. Gives me a little pick me up. I should go to the carnival see how many stuffed animals l can win.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Sticks48 Sure. I love sock monkeys. LOL.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I get told l don't look my age anytime l'm asked. Gives me a little pick me up. I should go to the carnival see how many stuffed animals l can win.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Sticks48 I’m partial to monkeys but you know me, I love all stuffed animals.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Sticks48 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I get told l don't look my age anytime l'm asked. Gives me a little pick me up. I should go to the carnival see how many stuffed animals l can win.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

You can win some for me. I love stuffies.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Phillydrl comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I think it is that you do look younger. I suppose it depends on who says it. My kids call me old and it is funny even though they mean it. I think people try to be nice when they can but it may not appear that way. You are very attractive, so I would clam up lol.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Phillydrl Everyone has a valid point and I’m not saying everyone should feel as I do. Compliments can be given without shaming others? May be that’s what I feel in this case.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Hermit comments on Jul 11, 2018:

No one ever tells me I look good for my age, so I'm a bit envious.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

@Hermit. May be because everyone your age is just as gloriously Adonis handsome and you are no exception.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

onthefire comments on Jul 11, 2018:

That's a compliment that I only get when I'm clean shaven (that's not often). The gray in my beard gives me away and makes me look older than I am. I'm okay with that. As far as compliments go, it's not bad at all. Some people don't age well at all. You have good genes and probably live a healthy ...

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

May be I just tend to feel altruistic? I don’t like the idea that all women my age are expected to not look good, but with a few exceptions allowed. I feel like I need to put on my Wonder Woman outfit and defend my people.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Phillydrl comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I think it is that you do look younger. I suppose it depends on who says it. My kids call me old and it is funny even though they mean it. I think people try to be nice when they can but it may not appear that way. You are very attractive, so I would clam up lol.

graceylou replies on Jul 12, 2018:

As I did state in my post, I do know I look younger than expected of someone my age. I don’t mind if they say I look younger than my age. But to say that I look good for my age kinda says something about them not expecting those my age to look good. They may not be aware of it but that is pretty insulting.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

ShuMei2018 comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I will be 41 in a few months. People say I look no older than 25. It also doesn't help that I am short. Some people treat me like a kid.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

I completely understand. I deal with it all my life. When I was 32 I had to argue with some random person who wouldn’t believe I was not just 18. Although it seems like a good thing, looking much younger gets you treated unpleasantly sometimes. I had trouble getting taken seriously in my later 20s and my thirties, like I seemed too young to take on a management position or to lead a research project. I also dress the way I look because if I “dress my age” people ask me all the time why I’m “dressed up”. It’s very annoying.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

Humanistheathen comments on Jul 11, 2018:

Maybe there's a better way to say it. I think that there's a lot in that compliment. It probably includes sentiments about your beauty, the fact that you are aging well, the fact that it's impressive and contrary to our expectations culturally. There's probably even a little jealousy. But I think...

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

I think just “you look young for your age” is more acceptable although in a professional situation it’s probably best not to say anything unless it affects the professional transaction. “You look good for your age” just doesn’t sit well. I understand a person my age on average would show certain signs of age, but there is no implication that it’s necessarily a bad thing. So just saying “You look young for your age” doesn’t bother me as much.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

graceylou comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I don’t mind if someone says I look young for my age but looking good for my age I take as a different thing. It implies may be I should not look “good”. Or those my age can’t look good normally. And for professionals in their professional position should not even comment. I will be ...

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@pepperjones I tend to see things more analytically and critically I guess. I'm sure they aren't aware of the implications of what they are saying. Still, there is the general assumption in the public's mind that those my age and older aren't expected to look good.

I always hate going to places where I have to give them my age or date of birth.

LiterateHiker comments on Jul 11, 2018:

Eight appearance-based "compliments" that are actually insults: https://www.bustle.com/articles/132243-8-appearance-based-compliments-that-are-actually-insults

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

Ah hah. Yeah, see, it's not just me having a weirdo moment. I'm not just thinking about me, but also about all women of my age group or older. I get that the person making the comment may not be aware of the implication of what they are saying.

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@JohnINFP Don't worry about it. I make things up as I go along.

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@JohnINFP Good night John. Some things you just gotta find out for yourself. Who knows. Everything I say might be complete BS.

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@JohnINFP Wear a kilt at your own risk. See, the kilt will attract women. I didn’t say what kind of women.

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@JohnINFP At the moment my life’s goal is to go to bed. LOL. I have to feed my snakes first though. Otherwise my life’s goal is to save animals, the environment, and the entire planet. Not so lofty is it?

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@JohnINFP Nah, I told you I’m not easily hurt/offended and such. I’m almost bulletproof. LOL. Except when someone says something about hurting animals or innocent people. Then I can go ballistic. Eh???? Yeah, solving the Rubik’s Cube is not my life’s goal. Neither is figuring out the human puzzle.

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 11, 2018:

@JohnINFP Well, it’s a million piece puzzle and you don’t know how they are supposed to fit or what picture you’re putting together. And there are pieces that may not even be part of the puzzle mixed in there. And it’s a multidimensional puzzle too at that. I don’t have the patience to solve a Rubik’s Cube but there are many people who can solve it, some in seconds. Humans? I don’t think they can be solved.

Who should make the first move?

graceylou comments on Jul 10, 2018:

May be try not to overthink it too much. There is no formula I’m afraid. Go with your gut. Definitely hint at interest before messaging though.

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

@JohnINFP Rubik’s Cube is designed to be solved. You also know what the end result will be and should be. That is a far cry from a human being who is more like putting together puzzle pieces when you don’t know what the resulting picture should look like. I think part of the fun is trying to figure it out. You like someone, I would say just message them. It’s free and legal eh? LOL.

It's almost that time of the year again.

DeiP comments on Jul 10, 2018:

I wish this was a thing around here. My daughter would love this.. Well so would I. I used to have green iguanas. Kerbear was super friendly and gentle. I used to take him almost everywhere. I even took him to my sisters church for bible school. The kids loved him. That was about 20 years ...

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

I would love an iguana but never did get one. Most vets around here don’t do this. This vet hospital is in a tiny community and the vet (owner) runs it out of her house. She’s relatively new to the area though I’ve known her for a long time. As far as I know no one else is doing this.

It's almost that time of the year again.

AmiSue comments on Jul 10, 2018:

Good on you! My son does the same with our, very chill, ball python. We've been to pre-schools and the local college. People are always so wonderfully responsive and interested and it is a real service to educate on husbandry - and respect.

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

@evergreen They definitely can live longer than 20 sometimes. Someone I know has a leopard gecko who’s 33. My oldest snakes are around 15/16 currently. Dash is 11 years old now.

It's almost that time of the year again.

AmiSue comments on Jul 10, 2018:

Good on you! My son does the same with our, very chill, ball python. We've been to pre-schools and the local college. People are always so wonderfully responsive and interested and it is a real service to educate on husbandry - and respect.

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

I’ve seen too many times kids going to the reptile expo or pet store and get their parents to buy a cute tiny baby snake and they have no clue about any care requirements. They are just impulse buys that almost inevitably end up dying. Many of my snakes (including Dash) are rehomes because people couldn’t or wouldn’t take care of them anymore. They have no idea snakes are a 15-20 year commitment. I try to discourage these kids from getting a snake unless they and their families are committed to its proper long term care.

Do you watch it?

graceylou comments on Jul 9, 2018:

Hah! I’m obsessed with ANW. I say one day, that is my goal. Don’t laugh.

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

@JohnINFP And, you shouldn't want to be more like anyone else because you aren't anyone else. I did that personality test, and I'm pretty sure I'm the complete opposite of you. Sometimes it might be an attractive idea to want to be like someone who's the other end of the spectrum as you but then you would lose your individuality, the thing that makes you, you.

Do you watch it?

graceylou comments on Jul 9, 2018:

Hah! I’m obsessed with ANW. I say one day, that is my goal. Don’t laugh.

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

@JohnINFP Oh no. I wasn't hurt. I'm not easily hurt John. I was just explaining. Don't take it too seriously. Although may be I'm just not good at talking to more sensitive people. I work with a new girl who would cry if you try to correct her on mistakes even in the kindest way possible. We just don't really know what to do. I wrote a very neutral note about something that we all need to make sure to be done correctly and addressed it to all staff, and I was told by the manager that I made this girl cry because she felt attacked by my note. Really, I tried to make it as neutral as possible and it can still be taken in a hard way by someone.

Do you watch it?

graceylou comments on Jul 9, 2018:

Hah! I’m obsessed with ANW. I say one day, that is my goal. Don’t laugh.

graceylou replies on Jul 10, 2018:

@JohnINFP I don’t have any scary creatures. None of my animals is scary. They are all beautiful and wonderful and lovable. And no way would I stress them out bringing them into a crowded place. People are scary. But I could go as Atheist or Heathen Ninja, or Vegan or Plant-based or Herbivore Ninja. I’d love to show off my big strong muscles developed on an entirely plant-based diet.

Do you watch it?

graceylou comments on Jul 9, 2018:

Hah! I’m obsessed with ANW. I say one day, that is my goal. Don’t laugh.

graceylou replies on Jul 9, 2018:

@JohnINFP seriously though I’m terrified of heights and don’t like water much. LOL. But once life settles a bit I would at least try out some ninja course training offered in the city. Oh I don’t know about the name and costume. That would be way way in the future.

Down from 237 to 209 now.

graceylou comments on Jul 8, 2018:

Right on, John. I hope you keep going on the right track. We will all be here to lend support.

graceylou replies on Jul 8, 2018:

@JohnINFP That is ok. Enough people sing it in churches around the world. And it's Sunday too you know. LOL.

Down from 237 to 209 now.

graceylou comments on Jul 8, 2018:

Right on, John. I hope you keep going on the right track. We will all be here to lend support.

graceylou replies on Jul 8, 2018:

@JohnINFP Most people say I'm amazing but awesome will do. LOL.

[facebook.com] I need one of these

graceylou comments on Jul 7, 2018:

Well, it does look and act a bit dog-like. I wonder if my groomer would notice.

graceylou replies on Jul 7, 2018:

@btroje Except instead of dog treats she would have to give him ants.

I can see the shirt in my not so distant future!

graceylou comments on Jul 6, 2018:

It will go very fast. Post us a pic when the t-shirt arrives.

graceylou replies on Jul 6, 2018:

@VAL3941 Well, whatever she likes I suppose.

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graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

I have seen how Beyond Meat products are presented as meals, and actually my stomach turns because they could look so much like the real thing. They're not for me (I make my own bean burgers) but it's good that this is available more widely for others. From what I heard, a lot of restaurants always ...

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye Not sure I will try it. May be if I’m out somewhere and the only thing I can eat is one of those. I see a lot of places offering Beyond Meat burgers but they’d add cheese, mayo, and non-vegan buns to the burger. Such a waste for vegans unless I just want burger with no buns may be just served between two pieces of lettuce.

I have a second home on my farm and I am thinking of making much needed repairs and then putting it...

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Go for it. Sounds like you might have to put quite a bit into the repairs but it’s a good investment in the long run. People do seek out rustic country getaways. Although not me because I live on farmland in the country with my horses LOL. I seek out big cities for my vacation. But there is a lot ...

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@misstuffy Would you be offering horseback riding and lessons? My horses are just pasture ornaments. They are snooty registered Arabians.

I applaud all restaurants that have gone "child free".

graceylou comments on Jul 2, 2018:

When I flew recently at the airport bathroom a mom was changing a toddler and he was being upset and beating her up. Outside a couple laden with luggage and strollers had to deal with three screaming crying little children. I was so glad I was only traveling with my stuffy monkey.

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@SKH78 Yes, I've seen several little boys hitting adults or other kids and not get stopped or reprimanded for doing it. My adopted male cousin, as a child, had a macaw as a family pet. My brothers and I were horrified when he hit the bird several times during our visit at their house. We tried to get him to stop but we got reprimanded for yelling at him. It's their family pet and the monster of a toddler could do what he wanted. We did not want to play with him or be around him because he was out of control. He became juvenile delinquent, joined gangs, and now is an adult who cannot hold a job and keep relationships. Not to mention, he is probably involved in delinquent/criminal activities. This child at the airport was probably not more than 2 years old. He was not just hitting; he was beating her mom in the head pretty hard (surprising for such a small child to have that much force). If I were his mother, he would have been dealt more sternly (though I would not use physical punishment). He would know why it's not appropriate and if he were having an episode of some kind due to a disability I would remind him how to control it (I did study to become an educational assistant once). That said, this was a public space where people were watching and the mother might have been in a rush, so she just wanted to get done as fast as possible changing his diaper.

Advice for a first time dog owner. Go!

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Do not name your dog Cujo. No really. Names can affect how a dog is perceived by others and in turn this can affect your dog’s behaviour. I work with dogs. I’ve worked with hundreds of dogs. Training is important from early on. There are so many dogs that are out of control. Appropriate ...

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@BlueWave Thanks. I just am willing to take my time. At work, the largest number of dogs I’ve handled by myself is 51. It’s not unusual to get 25-35 dogs. May be not everyone can do it on their own if not experienced with dogs but there is always help.

What is something you have never done?

Amisja comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Wow you guys have never lived!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@hankster We know you aren't getting a face tattoo then.

Advice for a first time dog owner. Go!

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Do not name your dog Cujo. No really. Names can affect how a dog is perceived by others and in turn this can affect your dog’s behaviour. I work with dogs. I’ve worked with hundreds of dogs. Training is important from early on. There are so many dogs that are out of control. Appropriate ...

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@CrazyQuilter My little one has the Little Dog Syndrome. She tries to dominate. But everyone knows who the real alpha bitch is in this house. LOL.

Advice for a first time dog owner. Go!

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Do not name your dog Cujo. No really. Names can affect how a dog is perceived by others and in turn this can affect your dog’s behaviour. I work with dogs. I’ve worked with hundreds of dogs. Training is important from early on. There are so many dogs that are out of control. Appropriate ...

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@CrazyQuilter I have 4 dogs (4 large/extra large and 1 small/medium). We had 5 until we had to put old Max down. They can get pretty rambunctious yes but they are still better behaved than most dogs that come to my work. I get scratched, bruised, even bitten, and some dogs do not stop barking. Some are shy to the extreme and some have fear aggression. My old Max and my little one Belle were both supposed to be "the only pet" . Nobody wanted to adopt them because they had the "must be an only pet* designation. I adopted them and trained them to get along with my other dogs and my cats.

What is something you have never done?

Amisja comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Wow you guys have never lived!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@hankster I think you're just being chicken about getting a tattoo.

What is something you have never done?

Amisja comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Wow you guys have never lived!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@hankster It's ok. I'm not racing a headless chicken.

If you were to go to a ComicCon like convention, what superhero, cartoon character etc.

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Nyssa al Ghul (as interpreted on the Arrow TV show). But I dressed up as a Ninja Turtle instead to meet the Arrow himself (because he starred in the NinjaTurtles movie).

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@JohnINFP He said You look great, to me, and I would just never ever ever forget that. We ended up having to retake the first picture because I blinked in the first one. He was so nice though.

What is something you have never done?

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

I have never smoked a cigarette or done drugs. I have never found the treasure at the end of the rainbow. I have never found awesome people on Agnostic.com. Oh wait, sorry, I have!!!!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@JohnINFP Is that a promise!!! We will hold you to it.

What is something you have never done?

Amisja comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Wow you guys have never lived!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@hankster Get your tattoo now. I'm already 12 ahead of you.

What is something you have never done?

Amisja comments on Jul 3, 2018:

Wow you guys have never lived!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

I know so many who've never been outside of their country, heck their province/state, and some their county. I understand some people who have a fear of flying though. One of my friends would drive everywhere and take boats/ferries but refuses to fly. I've been everywhere from the Yukon to New Zealand. I've flown plenty, even on a helicopter and on an open biplane.

What is something you have never done?

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

I have never smoked a cigarette or done drugs. I have never found the treasure at the end of the rainbow. I have never found awesome people on Agnostic.com. Oh wait, sorry, I have!!!!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@JohnINFP You may have to prove that by wearing a KILT!!!

What is something you have never done?

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

I have never smoked a cigarette or done drugs. I have never found the treasure at the end of the rainbow. I have never found awesome people on Agnostic.com. Oh wait, sorry, I have!!!!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@JohnINFP Hey I may actually like stocky Irishmen. You never know.

I applaud all restaurants that have gone "child free".

graceylou comments on Jul 2, 2018:

When I flew recently at the airport bathroom a mom was changing a toddler and he was being upset and beating her up. Outside a couple laden with luggage and strollers had to deal with three screaming crying little children. I was so glad I was only traveling with my stuffy monkey.

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@LilIrishRose This child may have something clinical may be hyperactivity of some kind and the mother tried to tell him to stop because it was getting too much attention. May be I could have offered a hand but I know nothing about handling toddlers. Dogs would have been a different matter.

What is something you have never done?

graceylou comments on Jul 3, 2018:

I have never smoked a cigarette or done drugs. I have never found the treasure at the end of the rainbow. I have never found awesome people on Agnostic.com. Oh wait, sorry, I have!!!!

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

@JohnINFP With my luck it would just be a leprechaun. LOL.

I applaud all restaurants that have gone "child free".

SKH78 comments on Jul 2, 2018:

Ah, yes .... I have stopped allowing people to bring their brats into my home. I am simply appalled at their behavior and equally appalled at the parents for not controlling their little miscreants. The urchins turn on the TV w/o asking, put music on the stereo w/o asking, go to fridge and help ...

graceylou replies on Jul 3, 2018:

We used to have friends come over with their kids and we had to lock up our dogs because they are big and can get a bit rowdy. Ummm, no more of that. My dogs are my kids. They will not be locked up so other people’s kids can have the run of the house. No more kids in this house.

I don't often use the "c" word.

graceylou comments on Jul 2, 2018:

I almost didn't open the link. These days I find it hard to look at, read, watch anything that relates to horrifying things people do to animals. I'm sure most people are outraged at the killing of this beautiful wild animal then they would go gorge on chicken wings and bleeding steaks.

graceylou replies on Jul 2, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye This sort of thing happened when a local farm animal sanctuary had a blind goat go missing, claimed to have been stolen. The story was shared all over Facebook and other social media, even made it to TV news. Everyone was outraged at the thief who stole this poor blind goat. The farm sanctuary got way way more likes on their FB, their fundraiser dinner sold out when before they hardly sold any tickets. One day, the goat was supposedly returned by this unknown evil thief who liked stealing blind goats I guess. Everyone was sooooooo happy. It was massive news. I'm sure these same people would eat goat meat at restaurants without giving it a second thought. But oh no please don't hurt this poor blind goat. AAARRRGGGHHHH. As for the farm sanctuary, I no longer support them. They claim it wasn't a publicity stunt to get more funds. They are a vegan organization and the dinner was a vegan dinner, but nowhere during this situation did they promote veganism and compassion for ALL farm animals. They could have used the opportunity to educate the public but they simply used this unfortunate incident to get more donations. I know they need money to run but they could have done much more. Personally I think the goat just wandered off and came back on her own; there was absolutely no evidence of theft.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

Arshi comments on Jul 1, 2018:

Even if she had a minor stroke, its time that you and your siblings not leave your parents alone and start looking into home health, nursing home, medicare, insurance, long term insurance, www.alzheimer.com, elderly services offered by your county, city, medical power of attorney, financial power ...

graceylou replies on Jul 2, 2018:

@Arshi Since we are in Canada, the processes might be a little different. With socialized health care, while we have most services covered by the government, we are also at the mercy of the health care system. We almost have no say in how care is to be given and when. My Mom's exams and tests will all be free of charge, including visits to specialists, and I believe medications are also covered to a certain amount in their province (health care is provincial). But at the same time, they also have long wait times for care and services. Whatever we try to do will be a slow process. At this point in time, we need to figure out what is really going on with my mom. Her doctor doesn't seem to think it's an urgent matter. And my mom thinks she's just forgetful. My brother and sister in law are probably in the best position to figure out what we should do since they live in the area and know the health care system there better.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

Arshi comments on Jul 1, 2018:

Even if she had a minor stroke, its time that you and your siblings not leave your parents alone and start looking into home health, nursing home, medicare, insurance, long term insurance, www.alzheimer.com, elderly services offered by your county, city, medical power of attorney, financial power ...

graceylou replies on Jul 2, 2018:

My sister in law is looking into getting Social Services to make an assessment of living conditions. On the medical side I'm trying to get my Dad to press her doctor for tests. My older brother lives in the house with them but isn't a very good caretaker. Basically he lives there because my Mom wants to keep babying him. He wouldn't even change light bulbs or batteries; I did those when I visited recently, took only a few minutes. Between me and my younger brother and his wife, we are compiling information and observations to see which is the best direction to follow. My parents and my older brother don't like outsiders meddling in so it would be tough to get them to cooperate. Forcing things could backfire on us who are really trying to help.

My cat loves me. I'm definitely his human. (Husband took this picture this morning)

graceylou comments on Jul 1, 2018:

He looks like my Vinny. Though it’s my Tiger who demands love in the morning.

graceylou replies on Jul 1, 2018:

@SensualAva Yes, I was thinking hey what’s Vinny doing in someone else’s picture. LOL.

My cat loves me. I'm definitely his human. (Husband took this picture this morning)

graceylou comments on Jul 1, 2018:

He looks like my Vinny. Though it’s my Tiger who demands love in the morning.

graceylou replies on Jul 1, 2018:

Here was Vinny yesterday falling asleep waiting with me for the laptop to finish updating.

If you are vegan/vegetarian, is it important that your partner is too?

graceylou comments on Jun 30, 2018:

In the past it didn’t bother me if the other person was an omni. Now, I would not be able to eat with them at the same table. If they want meat dishes they will have to cook them themselves. I cook only vegan dishes. They are welcome to eat what I cook or they can make something else. Normally I ...

graceylou replies on Jul 1, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye Yes exactly. The prospect of sitting down at dinner with people gorging on dead animals gives me great anxiety. It’s not about being sanctimonious about my way of eating. It’s all about my compassion for animals and love of the planet.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

birdingnut comments on Jun 30, 2018:

Experts say that cannabis could cure Alzheimer's if lawmakers would chill out and legalize it. http://www.forbes.com/sites/janetwburns/2017/03/16/experts-cannabis-could-help-cure-alzheimers-if-lawmakers-would-chill-out/ Studies have found that cannabinoids can reduce neuroinflammation and ...

graceylou replies on Jul 1, 2018:

Since I live in Canada, Cannabis will be legal nationwide for medicinal and recreational use in October. I’m not sure how physicians are going to incorporate it into their practice.

Just want to share these nut butter recipes because they look simple and delicious.

SkotlandSkye comments on Jun 30, 2018:

I'm glad you said to use alternatives since honey isn't vegan. Thank you! :-)

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

Oh yes. I’m very much anti-honey. Hate finding good things to eat but they contain honey. Like why?!?!?

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

MrRaspberryJam comments on Jun 30, 2018:

Not a parent but my grandma had it. We’d be talking about family and all of the sudden she would tell me how she liked living in her new room at the public library.

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

Yes, it's interesting the things that they tell you isn't it.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

AnneWimsey comments on Jun 30, 2018:

The first thing to suspect is medication and/or medication interaction, ( even things she has been on for years), dietary insufficiency, (like B12 degeciecy),plaque buildup in arteries, particularly caratoids, diabetes onset infections like bladder infections, etcetc NO dementia! Dementia is ...

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

That is why I want her checked out. We don't know for sure it's dementia. But my dad having been a doctor and my aunties who are also retired medical professionals all suspected dementia. Apparently, her doctor has done her bloodwork and didn't say anything. I am suspecting her overuse of random dietary supplements may be interacting with her medication. I don't think she tells her doctor she is taking all these supplements. The onset of this issue seems to coincide with the overuse of supplements. I had told her to check with her doctor a couple of years ago before taking them. She said her doctor didn't need to know. My dad had warned her about the supplements but she said he just didn't want her to be healthy.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

JanGarber comments on Jun 30, 2018:

My mother was deeply demented before she turned seventy. She was such a flake that many did not notice. Within a few short years she knew neither my sister nor me.

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

My mom was in control of household things most of our lives. She still tries but things are getting out of control. The house is going into disrepair. I'm pretty sure she won't even know who I am soon.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

Mike1947 comments on Jun 30, 2018:

It's heartbreaking,for those family members,watching loved ones fail,minds that made dinner,drove to appointments,could recite poems from their childhood,slowly fading away.....

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

Definitely. It's hard for family members. I can't imagine being them in this confusing world.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

seaspot_run comments on Jun 30, 2018:

Sadly, I do have experience with this, both personally and professionally. The thing with someone who has dementia is do not argue with them or attempt to reorient them. Play along. If they tell you they are worried about who is going to feed their horse, and they haven't had a horse since they ...

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

@seaspot_run Yeah, totally understand. I don't know my parents' doctor at all. But he doesn't seem to be a good one. I asked my mom if she had her bloodwork done recently and she said of course. I asked what did the doctor say. She said he didn't say anything. I don't know if she lied or he really didn't go over it with her. I can't imagine she has no issues since she's on several meds. Seriously, now the policy is you can make a doctor's appointment for one concern/ailment only (say a rash). If you have more than one concern (say a rash and an arthritic wrist), you will have to make two appointments. Older people will have multiple concerns, so this means they will have to go to numerous appointments just to have their issues addressed. It's hard for them to get around as it is. My mom's solution is to just not bother to go. While I was there, I took a call from the referring clinic for an osteoarthritis specialist and since my mom was in the shower to took down the phone number and made sure it was correct. My mom then called the number and the specialist clinic did not have her name down for anything. My mom just said ok, hung up, and said it doesn't matter anyway. I would have fought that receptionist until she found her name but it wasn't my business.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

seaspot_run comments on Jun 30, 2018:

Sadly, I do have experience with this, both personally and professionally. The thing with someone who has dementia is do not argue with them or attempt to reorient them. Play along. If they tell you they are worried about who is going to feed their horse, and they haven't had a horse since they ...

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

We are trying to figure out how to make arrangements for better care at home and to have better care from the doctors. At this point I don't think it's helpful to go along with her thinking and she can be corrected. At some point, we will just have to go with it. I don't think it's fair with my mom right now to not tell her the truth instead of just going along. But I can see later on it would not convince her at all no matter what we say.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

cobra3282000 comments on Jun 30, 2018:

I took care of my dad how had alzheimer's. It's not easy, best thing is make sure they are on the drugs that help slow the disease and there doctor can help with that of course, it was the hardest thing ever had to do. My father was a person with a super ass high IQ, American History Teacher ...

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

@cobra3282000 Yup. My friend's dad used to wake up early in the morning and roused my friend because he was late for work. He has been retired for a long time. Nothing could convince him so she had to load him up in the car and drive him to his old work place and the workers there kinda played along then she'd drive him home and all would be ok, until the next morning. Once he went into her room in the middle of the night and asked her who that old woman was in the room with him upstairs. She said that's his wife, and he said no that's not and that my friend was his wife. My friend had to lock her bedroom after that.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

Mike1947 comments on Jun 30, 2018:

It is more than sad to watch the once keen minds slowly fail,forgetting conversations,where things are, and to get lost in their own homes. Is that our fears? To one day be like them?

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

I am certainly going to do all I can to avoid going into that path. My mom was an avid cook and baker. Now she can barely get herself together to do any of that.

Do you have experience with a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

HippieChick58 comments on Jun 30, 2018:

Read up so you understand dementia. You don't mention how old your mom is. It is considered Early Onset if she is in her 50s, and that is not a good sign. Many people with Alzheimer's tend to do better early in the day, and the night time brings on the dementia, otherwise known as sundowning which ...

graceylou replies on Jun 30, 2018:

Yes, I know a bit about dementia and alzheimer's Definitely not thorough enough. It's not early onset. My mom is 74 and this just started the last year or so. I'm not sure if there's a pattern with her since I'm not close by to observe.