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Unexplained Religious Experiences

jacpod comments on Mar 3, 2018:

I have a dx of D,I,D dissociative identity disorder, It is usually abusive parent/s or other adults that cause this - I never remember what it is my alters get up to but sometimes I am really whacked out- It sounds like the same kind of arena to me.

Noam Chomsky said that both aethist and theist organisations are doing the same sales.

jacpod comments on Mar 3, 2018:

Atheist organisation? what would that be? I am laughing inside because I was remembering going to a rally in Trafalgar Square and we were looking for that red and black flag, to get behind and it was going round and round as hte flag bearers couldn't get it together to move forwards. This is a kindly post I am anarchist and atheist.

Higher Power and AA

jacpod comments on Mar 3, 2018:

My partner before I met him went to AA and he can leave the higher power stuff out of his consciousness- I went a different route before I met him and just went to my doctor and told him "I think I am an alcoholic" he asked soem questions then said yes I think you are too take these tablets and don't drink wholst youre on them or you'll die. After the first tablet I went to the pub with my friends and drank dark lemonade that looked like lager. Nobody noticed any difference in me and I was surprised to find that my bubbliness was mine and not die to the drink. I havent wanted of felt a need for a drink since. so about 40 years sober without AA.

Have any of you found a soulmate who wants to transcend the mundane, tame the monkey brain and ...

jacpod comments on Mar 3, 2018:

I am not sure if its the same thing, that youre talking about but my partner lives above me and we meet up for dinner at one o clock, then go our own ways and watch T.V together in the evening, we share a van and live sort of co-independently

What's something that has never (or will never) changed about you?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I like that you said that because it got my neurons firing up and rememebered how I would do really fiddly things like painting used matchsticks different colours (cutting off the burnt bit) and then sticking them together with glue- We also had two big gardens and I would sit in it the front one that was just grass painting the daisies (small weeds not big ones) with my watercolours. Since then I have probably had a go at every craft I ever met - weaving woodcarving knitting crochet tablet weaving decoupage - I like the challenge of learning and read a craft book get inspired and then mess with their patterns doing my own thing,.

Stash Reduction People like me, who like yarn and fiber or fabric, always have a large stash of ...

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

My major problems with stash is I can't go past a wool shop without buying some more - I am in the process at the moment of knitting baby blankets simple pattern so I can go at it at any time and use up my oddments but its a bit like the Rumpelstiltskin story

Why are people so greedy?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Because they are hungry for the things they can't get {love, self worth, a better job, nicer home etc}. So greed for having substitutes never ends because it isnt reaching the right spot - so manufacturing things never ends - sales never end. the word greed itself has a poor reputation and sometimes I find myself bored and then greedy for amusement or knowledge - (Things don't count much with me )

Do you eat meat?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Vegan/veggie

Why do religious people feel the need to go announcing to the general public that they love and ...

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I think its just hardwiring that has set solid, I doubt that anybody who does it has any inkling of their own personal process behind it - probably a bit like us Brits sayign 'Hallo nice weather for ducks?' when it rains - to all and sundry- One is religious based one is socal nicety but I think at base -Its just a greeting ,probably said so many times that its meaningless to all parties.

Whose lives do matter?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Everyones, some peopel think that some lives matter more than other's -they don't - The one sure thing in life, is death.

What is the most important trait you want in a lover?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Kindness

What transformed you, to become a vegetarian, then a vegan if so?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

(the smiths meat is murder?) No I have been a life long veggie as my mum was allergic to meat and so was I

What to do about my father?

jacpod comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Dad please let me be me and ;love me for who I am without trying to change me.

What is it you like about Agnostic.com

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Kind and open -sensible and sensitive .

We all come from different ethnic and socio-cultural backgrounds yet here we are on an Agnostic ...

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I never had a god so its a short story, my parents didnt have a god ,maybe what you have never had, you never miss? - so no need for an intellectual journey. I actually don't think my agnosticism /atheism is of any importance to me at all -Its describing a non state, an absence of ......whatever...if it were not for theism we would probably not be talking here together so I guess thats one good thing at least....as I admire you one and all

Does anyone think religion will go away some day?

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

France is the most atheistic country in Europe (source the Independent newspaper)

What is the worst thing you have ever done. (be honest)

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I actually can't remember the worst thing I ever did , it must have been seriously bad as I seem to have erased it completely ; but I remember the aftermath as I said to my Partner 'I'll do Anything to try to put this right!" He answered that he wanted me to cut my hair - he has OCD - (I had very long hair and it shed - the only reason I had long hair is because I have a fear of hairdressers) So time went on and at one point he asked me point blank When are you going to get your hair cut then? I told him about my fear and he made an appointment to come with me and hold my hand all the way though and promised to dive in if the hairdresser came too close to my head with the scissors - It went swimmingly - It was a long time ago and I am still afraid of hairdressers, and cut my own fringe and grow the rest for cancer wigs

10 emotions you didn't know have names.

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Like Liberosis -

Do you prefer showers or baths?

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Showers these days because the bath that was here in sheltered accommodation was only fit for an extremely short person who isn't claustrophobic, so I elected for a shower.

Why does being nice to rude people make the situation worse?

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

If I get grief from anyone I just walk away - quite often, its in a shop and athey will run after me sometimes especially if it was seen by a manager. I find walkig away the easiest way to deal with most abuse. I dot think it counts as a mental handicap as people can learn to be civil and respectful to others.

Temper Temper..

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Only if someone picks on me first ,and then it depends on how severe they come - I have hyperacusis so don't want anyone shouting in my face I am pretty easy going - don't start fights.

Why do you try? Plain and simple. What keeps your clock ticking.

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Oh just for that sensation of imagining I give a toss - actually most of what I do rather than coming here is cooking cleaning doing errands washing - ironing - an d thankfully art and craft work

Does anyone enjoy a hot cup of tea? What is your favorite kind?

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

In a 'builders' mug - thick china; black tea PG Tips is fine!

Different path?

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I would never have stayed on the Bamford Review of Adult Mental Health and Learning Disabilty so many years it came to nothing and the psychiatrists were so disrespectful of service users it was humiliating to be with them on any sub groups. I actually complained about a retired High Court Judge who had asked me sympathetic questions then blabbed what I had said about D.I.D to all his cronies. I faced him down and he apologised and withdrew but it was a battleground a lot of the time and we service users were serioulsly taken for ornamental mugs.

Goddamnit! I just realized it's my birthday!.

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I can't; I tell everyone I meet that I am 70 on the second of april this year, I'm tickled pink about it! !

Twice now on this site I have encountered a post that was posed as a question, but it became ...

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Wow! I havent come accross this yet, there was a guy but I thought he was just being overzealous and instantly forgot him. dickpics though - wowI! I'll watch out for somethng to report. (Only kidding)

Goddamnit! I just realized it's my birthday!.

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Happy birthday to you! squashed tomatoes and stew, bread and butter in the gutter, Happy Birthday to you

Death without God

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I try to imagine what it is like to be them, and to keep it in mind that we are not the same sort of people so that I can respond in an unhurtful way just to get tehm off my back. thank you and I'm really must dash here! Get yourself a list of excuses to get off from people.

How often do you like it?

jacpod comments on Mar 1, 2018:

`never'

Do you think non-believers are less trusting?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I think we trust ourselves more - In terms of trusting others I go on the basis of "catch me once shame on you!"" catch me twice shame on me!" I think that I find the ending place of my trust for each person I meet and work out what I would trust them for .( Reading this I think I am not terribly trusting but fairly good at sussing out others weaknesses of being trustworthy}

What would it be like to be married to you?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

1. I have a plethora of art and craft materials and instruments in my small room. 2. A need to be alone for a lot of the time. 3. Not an animal person (other peoples are ok but not for me) 4.pretty good at looking after the man in terms of cooking washing ironing 5, Punctual keep my word

Have any of you agnostics faced death and how did you deal with it?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I had a post on here somewhere about being at deaths door in 1952 from double pneumonia and measles the doctor was worried my relatives were worried and I was pretty much out of it and energy-less I remember being so wiped out that I couldn't swallow or talk taking the medicine was awful as it left my mouth so dry and I really think it would have been easy to slip away because I so didnt have energy to care. I have been in other near death situations -I haven't ever courted danger but it seems to dog me - but after that first big one I somehow got over the fear. I recognised death at an early age. now I am old I still recognise it and its a good reminder to be living.

Strong desires?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Hey just jump in the deep end girl , sign up =you know you want to do it - go for it! -- Parents don't always know best!

How well do you listen actively?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Pretty good I ,was a person centred counsellor/lecturer listening -skills-r-us.But I became proficient at face reading as a very small child with mentally unwell parents - so no brainer really.

If you had the chance to start over with someone, would you go back and meet them again or choose ...

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I am actually choosing not to meet them at all my daughter is 50 in March and her father will be there so I'll see her some time of our choosing. Post birthday. I have had 3 long term relationships. the father of my two children, who left us to be with the guys; after five years . Someone I met who was in another commune and we worked together lived together for 8 years, but I couldn't have more children so we left each other amicably; and my current partner who lives above me in sheltered housing we have been together about 30 years.I was in love with the first two but got over it very fast did a mountain of crying then faced reality.

"I don't believe in any superstitious nonsense, but..."

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Ireland?

How do you feel about talking openly about athiesm

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I don't feel the same about deciding what other people should and shouldn't do, but I do for myself think the less I say about belief, or lack of, the better when talking to other people. I have a a friend who says 'don't let them start!" I find it pointless talking to anyone about religion unless its a safe space like here because tis a waste of my time- I am not out to change anyones mind about anything, thats their mind their job. I think you missed something when you complained about him hating the idea of certainty that was his cue to you that god -fearers are certain that they are right so it was important for him to say that; so I don't understand you saying 'even though he is atheist -' Certainty is for gnostics. Agnostics and Atheists know at any one time that they don't have a god.

Who else is short and they are constantly reminded daily about their height?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I am 5 ft 1and a half inches the manual work I did was plastering and at least you don't get such a bad back if youre short but it is energetic work up and down ladders or scaffolding and if you're short you always get given the cupboards which is awful and only because NOBODY wants to do cupboards.

Does anyone remember the first time they had romantic feelings for another person?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Yes semi- painful feelings about it

Is it possible to be in love with multiple people at once?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I nearly answered this as a yes but then realised the 'at once' clause I suppose its still a yes if youre in a like minded group & HAHA I am multiple you could love 9 at once 'theoretically' as I can't call them out to order.

What creative outlets do you enjoy?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I am surrounded by my own colourful artwork I made lots of shelves do woodwork and plastering and am always fiddling around with textiles, paper, love finding new, tools new methods, crazy ideas some I leave halfway through but its the process of making that I like - My hands seem to always be wanting something. to go at

Has anyone else attempted university in their 30's+ (after years out of school)?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Yes it was good! at Liverpool Uni they had a scheme for older people who hadnt been to uni before and we were half mature students give or take and half youngsters. It worked really well in tutorial group s for instance the young ones were shy and mostly had got through A levels by regurgitating what they learned so learning to think for themselves was a big challenge and we were there supporting them by showing the way. I have 3 degrees but haven't used them in what seems like another lifetime ago.

Does unconditional love exist?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

It certainly does.

Is it better to settle for a good relationship or wait for the best, even if it might never happen?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

If you reframed that and asked instead "I have a good relationship how could we make it better" you might find yourself with further options.

What are 5 useless facts about you?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I like that its useless - I was suicidal till I hit fifty. I don't drink don't like it very much . I lived in Germany for two years. married once separated once I'm in a heterosexual relationship.

Why all or nothing

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I tend to state my case and if people agree with me fine! if they don't also fine! I don't see the point in trying to get anyone "on my side" as if its a tug -of -war and someone has to 'win over' the other. I see , telling how it is for you personally; as an exchange. I am not interested in the ideas of a battle for the soul or winning hearts and minds just - this is me if its at all interesting welcome to it - if not - read on - plenty more posts.

Do any specific noises cause you anxiety or fright (without reason)? READ THE FULL QUESTION

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Just loud ones; I found out that I have hyperacusis which means that I have some bottom end hearing loss so when my hearing kicks in its far too loud for me to cope with. I really want to scream when it happens (in shops mainly) its so immediate I seem to have no control over my response . Its part of getting old doh!

Salute to Your Nose: What smell gives you a nosegasm?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

There used to be a perfume when I was about 13 called aqua manda and it smelled like christmas pudding a dab of it behind one ear and some vanilla behind the other and boys would follow you like the pie piper.

Just found out people have been reporting me to the admin for my posts/comments. What the fuck?

jacpod comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Ann leda I like you

Do you consider yourself a humanist?