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The rape culture of the 1980s was alive and well in Sixteen Candles, providing context for the Brett...
jondspen comments on Oct 3, 2018:
So you're asserting Ted raped Caroline in the movie? I get you're point about her being passed around, but going back to the scenes, I wouldn't call Ted a rapist. Jake might be a POS, but he is the privledged golden boy. Ted is the geeky nerd that I, and probably the majority of people identify with. Ted is by no means a pillar of moral virtues, but I think his character shows respect and concern for women and his friends. Jakes do exist in society, I don't deny that. I'm just saying most of us are Teds, worried about our female friends being hurt. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmf_sT_IcMc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tCs6quvxBLE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CLkNs11kgew
Anyone into the Flying Spaghetti Monster? No.. really!
jondspen comments on Oct 3, 2018:
Aye, I be a pastafarian pirate! Me name be Capt. Malice Cooper. I hope to be ordained one day as a pastafarian priest. If I ever be granted sainthood for my humble service to His Most Glorious Noodly Addendaged Monstrosity, I wish to be called Jolly Ol' Saint Roger, as I be handin' out candy to the good lads and lasses, while the little scallywags be getting instant noodles! RAmen matties!!!
You are my tribe.
jondspen comments on Oct 3, 2018:
Let's hope we grow up and get there before that happens.
22% of Atheists believe in New Age nonsense. [friendlyatheist.patheos.com] I wish this were ...
jondspen comments on Oct 3, 2018:
I believe in new age shat as far as consciousness on mater, power of attraction, meditation and chakras (as a classification system of me as a system...kinda like the OSI model in computer science). I have seen theories about the ancient pyramids being microwave transmitters, ancient aliens, etc. While I'm not shooting messages to E.T., Im not so arrogant to think that we know all there is to know. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRSBaq3vAeY
Your beliefs don't make you a better person. Your tequila does. Choose wisely.
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
That would be a kick ass commercial catch phrase...
What if James Brown didn't feel good? What if Journey stop believing? What if the devil never went ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
What if it's not alright with ma'ma? What if this isn't the highway to hell? What if it's a burning rhombus of fire?
So it's looking like the FBI "investigation" is turning out to be a whitewash. No interview with Dr....
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
What? You mean the system is rigged?!?! Say it ain't so....
Nobel Prize in physics awarded for ‘tools made of light’; first woman in 55 years honored - The ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
Kudos to them...awesome job! BTW, how many "first woman" to do something title can they come up with for this? I'm not dissing her, I'm just wondering do we really need the SJW politics for the story?
Myself and late wife raised our daughter to be a gamer. She plays and collects various ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
Unfortunately no. I was more a PC gamer, and while my daughter still plays around with maybe a Star Wars title or Minecraft (her husband's hobby on X-box), I can't get her to game with me anymore. We do have a D&D group at the VFW post here, but only 1 girl in the bunch (late 20's?)...other 4-5 are guys 20+ to late 40s.
By the people? For the people? Or is it fuck the people? This is why the electorial vote sucks! ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
Never has...are you shocked? Because of this feature within the system though, we also safeguard against tyranny of the masses. Although I must admit, our government hasn't followed the intended system for decades.
Expectations
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
I wish. Seems like everyone's in such a hurry to get to some 'point' in a relationship, they forget about the relationship.
It's only Tuesday, folks.
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
lmao wouldn't the world be a better place if everyone had a piñata a day?
Language..... Reading some of the posts here remind me of how much I have lost. Someone with a BA ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
I'm not sure all here is intelligent reading; check out some of my posts :) Does reading/typing help? Have you seen improvements in your abilities since coming here?
Yes, I can burn the quran the same way I can wipe my ass with the torah and let a dog piss on the ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
Can't you use the pages for rolling papers? Why let a dog piss on perfectly good papers?
trump and his dying support of the so-called clean Coal miners! "Kentucky is at the center of ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
But he's making their lives so much better and committed to reviving profits, oops...I meant jobs.
Dear dads: Your daughters told me about their assaults. This is why they never told you. - The ...
jondspen comments on Oct 2, 2018:
I agree that women and daughters don't speak up about abuse, and should. I disagree how the article then slanted the story that once again men are to blame for the silence and ignorance. Why is it that everything today must have a misandric slant to it? Did all these dads not have a mom in the house? Was mom told but the secret kept from dad/brothers? What about all the boys who are abused, and told neither mom or dad? Were these dads even a part of their daughter's life when the incidents happened, or was he just a wallet in another state with no input on curfews or friends? Or should I just accept the implied premise of the article is that every female has been a victim and by deed, apathy, or ignorance every man is the problem? I'm really sick of people being distracted by bull-shit SJW agendas instead of opening their fucking eyes to the real problems in our culture. Boys AND girls being molested, raped killed, or killing each other at school. Yet instead of trying to come together for solutions, people seem more preoccupied with placing blame and inflicting punishment.
I have returned after a long(ish) hiatus from this site and so happy to see there is an app now!...
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
Good luck with the move...hope it all goes smooth.
Whos up for some squab? Feed my dogs every day they almost always have food left in their dish for ...
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
Ahhh...yep, guess it's close to that time of year. Went dove hunting once as a kid, too damn hot, and didn't like the taste of the meat. Even gamier than duck IMO
Why do people act badly at family events?
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
While it's not the behavior I would have exhibited, we have to take your recollection with a grain of salt, esp. considering it is blatantly obvious he is your ex. The things you said might have not been suave, but I would by no means say he behaved badly from your description. I would classify that more as he didn't do what you expected, and you're being a little harsh. He didn't get drunk, he didn't call her a whore, he didn't call her new husband a pathetic loser who isn't good enough for her...etc. Maybe my bar is set a little too low...maybe your's is set a little too high?? That's all I'm saying :) Gtrz to her and glad you were able to be there for her!
While sleeping when it's warm I like to leave one leg outside the covers in order to moderate body ...
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
All the time...
Do we really want a man consumed with rage, self-pity and hate on the Supreme Court? - Los Angeles ...
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
Hell no...only women or minorities can be filled with rage, self-pity and hate in today's society!!!
[yahoo.com] California Requires Women to Serve On Corporate Boards-What Do You Think?
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
Stupid idea. But that's OK, since to be a 'woman' to these SJWs, you only need to identify internally as one, not with the gender that was assigned to you at birth. Sure I wear a suit and tie, and piss standing up, but that was forced upon me by society and I am truly a woman inside, so let me on the board regardless of qualifications, interests, or any basis on logic or reason.
A hunter in Alaska was hospitalized after the bear he shot rolled on top of him - CNN
jondspen comments on Oct 1, 2018:
Papa was a rolling bear, Where ever he laid his hat, he was there...
Turiya and Ramakrishna by Alice Coltrane (also posted at the selective but all-genre inclusive Aural...
jondspen comments on Sep 30, 2018:
Awesome!
Etta James. - A Sunday Kind of Love....seemed appropriate.[youtu.be]
jondspen comments on Sep 23, 2018:
One of the most incredible voices; you can really hear the range of love and pain from her life in her art.
How does this kind of stupidity get elected?
jondspen comments on Sep 23, 2018:
I don't agree with abortion, mostly on the grounds that it undermines a father's parental rights. In that regards, I can see a point in Lawrence Lockman's comments. Essentially I am against any violence to other beings, be they animals, children, women or men....but if women can murder, why can't men rape; it is a lot less violent and permanent than death. BTW...I am also against the death penalty.
What if a God was proven real. Would you worship that god? Just because a God was proven real, ...
jondspen comments on Sep 23, 2018:
Yes I would. I would start taking every friday off, dress like a pirate, and stand on the street corner handing out RAmens.
"You cannot be a doctor if you believe in superstitions," said by my Catholic professor. ...
jondspen comments on Sep 19, 2018:
It would be an interesting topic to broach with the professor, esp as a clinical psychologist dealing with delusions, schizophrenia, brain washing but why religions get a pass with these labels. Tactful timing and discussion will need to be taken. Funny, but its been my experience that some Catholic priests and scholars don't really seem to believe in God, or at least not the brand named one that is presented by their church.
I got through Hurricane Florence just fine, and now there are a lot of rainbows. When people ...
jondspen comments on Sep 18, 2018:
I would tell them there is a Leprechaun's pot of gold at the end of it.
More proof the great spaghetti monster is real. [rt.com]
jondspen comments on Sep 18, 2018:
Tis be a glorious day to be a pastafarian, maties! Raise a Black Jack of grog to our glorious noodly appendaged Monster creator!
I'm sure this has been posted here before, but it made me giggle.
jondspen comments on Sep 17, 2018:
lol
Dr Gupta on pot.
jondspen comments on Sep 17, 2018:
Don't confuse the subject with facts!
So I have a 2nd grade student who was sticking mini Post It notes all over the playground equipment ...
jondspen comments on Sep 17, 2018:
LMAO....that is awesome! But as far as the situation, I would tell the other kids that not everyone believes in god. I would then sit down with the kid in private and discuss why they did it and what effect they think it had.
Orange Blossom Special - Doug Kershaw (Fiddlers Three) - YouTube
jondspen comments on Sep 16, 2018:
I've heard better versions of it...but the pants and shirt make up for it!!! LOL
Kindergarten Principal Fired For Pole Dancing During Welcome Ceremony | Rare
jondspen comments on Sep 16, 2018:
Wow! I wonder if this is giving Catholic schools any new ideas?
FEMA Officials Panic After Accidentally Evacuating 1 Million Residents In Direction Of Hurricane...
jondspen comments on Sep 16, 2018:
"piling people into dinghies with lightning rods attached"....LMAO
Black Sabbath fans
jondspen comments on Sep 16, 2018:
The question is more like....Who's NOT?!?! Not into the later stuff, although it isn't bad, just like the stuff with Ozzy better.
Is socialism bad for the USA?
jondspen comments on Sep 16, 2018:
Citizens are what's really bad for the USA. Socialism, capitalism, communism all are 'tools' with pro/cons. It's how and to what extent they are implemented. Capitalism drives innovation and business efficiency, communism drives worker rights and efficient operations, socialism drives community safety and security. We also can see the negatives in these. Given our greed, laziness, apathy, and ignorance...we can't seem to make good, rational, achievable decisions to address many of the problems faced using the right tool for the job.
Hi to reply to an aquaintance who asks " are u having a bad day?"
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Depends on the setting: At work, in the coffee shop or in line at burger joint, or next to some bloke in a bar? Kids around? Really depends on the circumstances and level of acquaintance. The cashier at the gas station who I know from my 5 min interactions every week for the past year is a different acquaintance than some random person in line at the grocery store whom I will most likely never see again.
The Real Problem I Love this site and the clarity of thinking exhibited, even love chasing down the...
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. That's not just in regards to religious beliefs either. People don't give up any beliefs easily, even when confronted with facts.
Hello all just out of a curious though how do you unwind after a hard day's graft (work). With me ...
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Playing banjo or guitar. Learning Spanish or Mandarin. Playing video games (Star Citizen or online texas hold'em). Watching PBS or history/documentaries on Amazon Prime. Reading the news (BBC Reuters or AlJazera). Walk or light evening exercise if morning workout was lazy. Hanging out on here! :)
Why is it that most people here are from the US? Do most agnostic and atheistic people live in the ...
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
I've seen a few on here from the UK and Canada. The few from south/central america are typically US ex-pats. I would guess the reason is that it is primarily an English speaking site. Someone else commented on the fact that as a dating site, it's pretty shallow on dating pool, and another replied the site isn't that old, which could be another factor.
[yahoo.com] Texas School Board Rewrites American History-Edits Hillary Clinton and Helen Keller ...
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Just another example why Texas ( #2) is the shit ass worse state to live in; I couldn't get out of there soon enough. It ranks just slightly higher on my 1-20 scale over my experience in Somalia (#1)...and that's only b/c due to their over the top ignorance, I was awaken from my religious delusions.
Yoni Appelbaum: Americans Aren’t Practicing Democracy - The Atlantic
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Every time someone thanks me for my military service, I first tell them they should spit in my face for supporting a government that is so blatantly against freedom and democracy, both at home and abroad. I then ask them do they know and have contacted their national, state, county, or local elected officials to voice concerns or opinions on current topics in the community. If they haven't, they obviously don't value my sacrifice, since voting in a popularity contest once every two years, then sitting on your ass for someone else to think for you isn't what democracy is about.
Should I attend a wedding at church as an atheist?
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
It's your life and decision, but my daughter had a JW wedding. I don't believe in their theology, but she does and I respect that. To me it was more important to be there for her on a very significant day in her life that was centered around her and her husband, instead of me forcing it to be centered around my beliefs. I would attend the event, after all it's just a building, and I don't see how your entrance through the door will negate or undermine your beliefs or integrity. It's not like it's being held in a Nazi themed auditorium or KKK seance. That's just my 2cents...
So my fundie christian MOTHER has told other members of the family that she hopes this hurricane we ...
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
That's sad...but typical. I would call her out on it and tell her she is a sorry mom and pathetic Christian for wishing harm and pain on anyone, esp. her children.
Linda Harvey: Oral Sex Is The Practice Of Homosexuals - Joe.My.God.
jondspen comments on Sep 15, 2018:
"These lessons often encourage masturbation and pornography use" - well, I would rather my kids be jacking/jilling off than engaging in sex with the prospect of disease or pregnancy. "...abstinence is discarded as the equivalent of racism" - don't know about that, just know that abstinence is not a practical solution. Most kids are sexually aware by the time they are 13, yet the human brain does not fully develop till around age 23. To expect kids to remain celibate for 10 years, the same 10 years where they are exponentially absorbing and understanding themselves and the world, is just foolish. It is these years where they grown into adulthood, and her solution is to just ignore that biological desire, providing no guidance or oversight. Sure...that makes perfect sense, if your a religious nut.
Advice needed please
jondspen comments on Sep 14, 2018:
Wow...ure in a hard spot being that it is so much a part of your job and lively-hood. Doesn't surprise me they don't pay you crap though, but hey, they'll be happy to pray for you, just as long as they don't have to actually DO anything, right? I would be very careful with this, they will most likely fire you in a heart beat. Family is an issue, but you won't be hungry and homeless if they have a problem with it, so for now tread cautious till you can find another job...and start looking immediately!!! I think that should be your #1 priority at this point. Here is a link that lists a few different support groups that may be in your area and able to help. https://sobernation.com/special-resources-for-atheists-in-recovery/ You could also reach out to https://www.atheists.org/ and http://www.atheist-experience.com/. They may know of some resources available. I remember at one time finding a site for pastors that left the faith, but can't seem to find the link anymore.
I signed up for this website because I want to date a man who is not a crazy Christian. I love the ...
jondspen comments on Sep 14, 2018:
Yea...pool of dating women in my area (West Tn) is non-existent on here. I'm honestly enjoying the conversations more though.
What are 4 things that make you happy ?
jondspen comments on Sep 14, 2018:
Sex, drugs, rock n roll, and parfaits. Everybody likes parfaits!
Boy Scouts?
jondspen comments on Sep 14, 2018:
Being up north, I would suspect your odds are better at the troop leader being more moderate approaching this aspect of the org. No guarantees, but my advise is to just talk to the troop leader about it and get a feel on how much this will be a focus; may only be an occasional prayer. Given the diversity of Jews, Muslims, Catholics, Protestants, etc. in America, I myself would play safe with a moment of silence if I was leading the troop. Honestly, I'm sure he's more excited about doing the outdoor stuff with friends from school.
Florence update... So I have relocated far enough north to be away from this mess. I have horrible ...
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
I've lived through house fires and break-ins. Yes, it does suck to loose things that mean so much to you. There are things that I still think about from my grandparents that were lost, and that was 10+ years ago. But like all pain, time heals...and the important thing is you will be alive to make new memories with your family and loved ones. No matter the trials that come, memories can never be burned or destroyed. Glad your safe. Take care and push through it...you'll be ok friend.
Big oil asks government to protect it from climate change
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
Wow....these guys don't want regulation or government intervention b/c they believe in "free market capitalism" until they wreck the environment and economy and need a handout. Un Fucking Believable! But hey, all our financial problem caused by greedy businessmen can be fixed by electing greedy businessmen!
Religion in the south
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
West Tn resident here...and yea...I feel ya, bro. Luckily we got this site!
Atheists Donate National Motto Displays to Arkansas Schools | American Atheists
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
Good for them...I wish they could do something like that in Tennessee. They just passed a law here stating that "In God We Trust" had to be displayed prominent in the schools. Makes me sick...
Secular Programming Supports America’s Inmates - TheHumanist.com
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
Good article. Just another example of hypocrisy and lies of the 'help' religion provides to people in the community. And we have a serious prison problem in the USA, not just the system itself, which is a joke, but the mental, financial, and emotional push toward it in low income communities.
If you're in Florence's path, please do what you gotta do to stay safe, whether's it's sandbagging ...
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
My daughter lives near Raleigh/Durham. The projected path has moved south, plus being that far inland I think she will be ok. She did say the store shelves are almost empty, and you can't find bottled water anywhere. Hoping everyone in the area will be alright. Luckily, that area is mostly Republican, so Trump probably won't ignore them and leave them to die.
SEX with Ghosts A professor at Wayne State University in Detroit was giving a lecture...
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
That's just wrong. Funny...but wrong!
FUNNY: First date... [youtube.com]
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
So THAT's what I've been doing wrong!
Today I found out a friend of mine is getting married. She sort of half-heartedly reached out to me ...
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
Wow....that's pretty harsh. I can understand your pain though. It's hard when you find that friends who you thought would be in your corner, aren't. I was adopted, and adopted guardians were neglectful and abusive. Perhaps not criminally, but definitely not to the point of ever being there when I needed them. Raised my 2 daughters, who stabbed me in the back while teens b/c mom's pasture seemed so greener. As you can imagine, I've got some trust and intimacy issues. What I learned, is that no one owe's you love and affection. You give love and support to people just b/c you want to, and don't expect it to be returned. I'm still trying to accept that, but some people are just selfish and insensitive to the needs and pain of others, and your love and kindness won't change that about them. I hope you can let go of the anger and resentment. You're pain isn't hurting her...just yourself. That's not to say I would buy the bitch a wedding present though, although I would have no qualms going to the reception (if invited) for some free cake! :) Maybe you'll meet a nice single guy there and have wedding party sex in the coat closet! Then you get to eat your cake and have it too! LOL~~~
Would you pay someone to date you?
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
In traditional USA, this is done on every first date, and typically the second, third, etc. Guys are expected to pay for the dinner...ergo, we always pay for someone to date us. There are a few women who will insist on going dutch, but in my experience and feedback from friends, that usually only happens when the woman decided that she doesn't want to date the guy and doesn't want any ties hanging over her (probably b/c of some asshole telling her she owed him something b/c he bought dinner and drinks). That is why I tell women that we are going dutch, b/c I don't know if you are worth my money yet. Also, if I was going to do something like this...I would just pay for the full GFE from a 'professional'. No muss, no fuss, and we both have an understanding on the agreement. BTW....who gives a shit about "conventionally attractive"I myself have walked away from dates from attractive women b/c I saw the ugly inside. I know we've had disagreements on another post, but I think your profile pic is attractive, and seem to be funny as hell. :) Don't sell yourself short, just b/c majority of these bitch ass momma's boys are cheap shit-heads! Get yourself a battery powered boyfriend to handle the physical needs till you can find a MAN that can TCB...both physically and emotionally!
People often talk about raising children with an open mind, letting them make their own decisions ...
jondspen comments on Sep 12, 2018:
I think a lot of people take it too extreme like you pointed out, but I believe the intent is to let our kids exercise thought and critical thinking. They can't learn to make their own decisions as an adult you made them all for them. Would you let your kids read books on capitalism, communism, marxism? Would you let your kids read about racism, both sides of the argument? I might not agree with racism, but unless I understand what and why a person is that way, I can't form an argument against their beliefs. Exposing them to new ideas is what I think the intent is...but honestly, I don't think there is any parent that will REALLY allow their kid to go 180 against something they firmly believe in with no input or opinion expressed. Therefore, I disagree that ANY parent really lets their kids make up their own mind about stuff. They will sit down with the kid and debunk their ideas and beliefs, or at the minimum propose arguments against, not sit back and let them sort it out without any guidance.
Baltimore Cops Carried Toy Guns to Plant on People They Shot, Trial Reveals - VICE
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Good thing it is only a 'few' bad apples
Why to call yourself "Atheist" instead of "Agnostic."
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
A simple definition of the two boils down to what do you believe and what do you know. Not sure the accuracy of the definition, but my take is atheist means I don't believe in gods, agnostic means that I don't know if there are gods (and perhaps due to my composition could never know). In reality, I have found most agnostics are afraid to take a stand and say they don't believe in gods. They are a bit wishy-washy with the whole "Well, I just don't know, so I can't make a decision." Not saying all are like this, just the limited one's I have encountered and spoken too. I am agnostic when it comes to unicorns and leprechaun , in that yes, I don't know of any that exist, nor do I know if I will ever be able to know if they exist. Yet I have the courage to take that knowledge and form some assumptions that since I don't know of any, I infer (believe) they do not exist. Could I be wrong...absolutely. I am not so arrogant to think I have all the answers, but I am also no a coward to kowtow to public opinion and delusions by trying to stay on the fence with an "I don't know therefor I can't believe either way" excuse. Honestly, I don't think it's typically enough of a difference of perspective to affect public policy, laws, and societal constructs in the majority of instances. Given that, I don't put too much effort into dissecting the nuances of the two.
So what is the main reason most of you are on here? General conversations or attempting to find like...
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
I think I found this as a dating site, but to me it's more of a atheist/agnostic community. I initially signed up hoping to find women close by that might be a match date-wise, but now have given up on that and actually more pleased with the conversations I have found. There are some bone heads on here, so I've learned that freedom from religious b.s. doesn't mean you are intelligent or insightful, but overall, there are a LOT of good people on here. I am honored to be here and being challenged in my views. Thanks to all for helping me to be a better person! Although, not sure that was a high bar to start with! LOL :)
I left my abuser over two months ago but I am still struggling and very unhappy. how long will this ...
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Good for you to move on and have the courage to make a change in your life. I know you are sad, alone, struggling to adjust to so many things, but here are a few things that might help you. 1. Not sure your age, but I am assuming the abusive relationship went on for some time. Lot's of habits and emotional programming to undo. It probably didn't happen in 2 months, so understand the healing process won't happen in 2 months. Hell, if you cut your hand, it takes just seconds to make the wound, weeks to heal. You're mind and emotions are even slower to heal from wounds. 2. You are moving into new areas of your life. It is very easy to fall back into old habits and routines. I would guard against relationship now, until you can see and stop users and abusers. Like above, you have a history and tendency of allowing and accepting abuse. I don't judge you, and I know you don't want that kind of relationship, but it is a part of you that you have to accept, as well as come to understand why if you are going to eventually change. The abuser did the abuse, and that was wrong, but eventually you need to confront your demons on why you allowed it to happen. If you don't, there is a good chance that you will fall back in with the same type of person, since abusive people need people who they can abuse. You need to be the one to shut that door so more of them don't come into your life. It's going to be hard. Probably the hardest part of the journey for any person in any situation is learning to love and forgive ourselves for letting ourself down. 3. The two things above are VERY BIG things to accept and change, so when you get discouraged remember that they are very tall mountains to climb. To get to the top, will take time, and you may have to stop and take a break to get there, but as long as you don't give up, they can be conquered. 4. I would suggest the therapist, but also set some goals for yourself. Are there any hobbies you enjoy? Is there anything you always wanted to learn but haven't (playing music, learning a new language, gardening, etc). I would find things that you can do that will give you some happiness, or at least put your mind into neutral (and out of sadness or depression). It will help you emotionally, as well as give you small goals you can see progress with in the short term - thus giving you hope and encouragement on the 'smaller' stuff you can then apply toward bigger and harder goals. I am really happy and encouraged that you have taken the steps you have so far. Just what you have done thus far is an incredible feat of strength and resolve. Face your past, but don't let it define your future, and above all, look for the happiness in the present. It may be hard to see it through all the tears right ...
I got into a discussion a few days ago with a religious person who had said, "everything happens for...
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
It's just a fall back on the puddle argument. Oh look, I'm a puddle of water, and this hole is the perfect size for me to be a puddle exactly like this....must have been designed. People survive and move on, or they die. Shit doesn't work out, at first but did later, it isn't b/c some imaginary friend deemed it, it's b/c you got off you ass and went to plan b, c, d, ....etc. It's all relative to your point of view on how you interpret events.
Do you use religious terms sprinkled throughout our language?
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
I use most of them that you mentioned, and at one time was upset with myself for hanging on to them. After a while though, I realized that they are just words, and not literal. I might also say Kiss my ass, Go fuck yourself, stupid bitch/dickhead/asshole, etc. They are just expressions I was raised with which express emotions or meaning. Granted, I may used expletives more often than I should, but I don't think I'm promoting religion by saying such things.
So after reading some comments on an FB post, I became very curious. I hope to keep this post ...
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
I was put up for adoption, but was cut b/c back in the early 70's. From what I understand it was deemed healthier to do so b/c of cleaning the area. Now, I think that is debunked, at least to the extent that it isn't as much of a health issues as it was originally made out to be. I myself disagree with the practice. It is barbaric and misandric IMO, and stopping this practice (I hope) will be a step towards recognizing men's rights and issues.
'Charlie's Cooler' Goes Viral As Woman Honors Late Husband's Annual Act Of Kindness
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
What an amazing man, and a kind woman also!
MEN: What would your reason be for asking a woman what she does for a living, upon meeting her?
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
I think it is a central part of finding out about the person. I think I saw a study that said over 80% of people are unhappy in their job....so the following shouldn't be taken as "I see you as a sell out", but if I was to ask (1) it tells me if you are happy with what you do for 1/3 of your day and (2) it gives me an idea if you are not, what dreams you have given up on just to fit in and make ends meet. You typically spend 1/3 of your day at your job, 1/3 of your day sleeping, and 1/3 of your day dealing with life and trying to squeeze in some enjoyment. I don't necessarily judge a person if they are working at a job they hate, I've done that myself like most people, esp single parents, but it also tells me the what and why you are doing it. So yea...I think your job is a big part of who you are b/c it is so much a part of your life.
Sooo, here’s a question. I have met a person of interest and we spent some time together last ...
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Dump her. I am making some assumptions here. It sounds like this is a fairly new relationship. What I don't know is if this was a first date, but she saw your facial hair and made the decision to go out on a date and use you for a free meal...either this time or times before. Regardless, the audacity for her to dictate what you do with your body is outrageous....at any point in a relationship (also hypocritical). If she's that shallow, you need to take a good hard look at what the relationship dynamics would be later on. How much is she going to expect you to just give up for the 'honor' of her pussy? What if you put on some weight? What if you start loosing the rest of your hair? I can understand compromise in a relationship, but this sounds like feminine castration games. Hair on your chin is a pretty shallow gauge of determining if this person has character, honestly, loyalty, compassion, and a host of other traits that should be the focus on whether you want to be in a relationship with a person. She doesn't want to kiss you with it, fine...she is free to make that decision. She should have stepped up and went dutch on the bill then and told you not interested instead of being a manipulative coward.
Buenas Dias from La Paz. Here are some photos of the storm during and after. The gray cloud photo ...
jondspen comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Hola y buenos dias! Muy bonito. Espero que la lluvia haya ayudado! (Lo siento, mi espanol es muy malo)
Just wanted to share a little story. My son Eli works full time in a small pet store while he's ...
jondspen comments on Sep 5, 2018:
I'm glad he was in a position to help her out. I am even more glad that his kindness and generosity wasn't taken advantage of. So sad to see a warm loving spirit become cold and jaded b/c of the users and manipulators of this world.
It has been some time since I have visited the site, and a lot has transpired since I last peeked ...
jondspen comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Welcome back! Hope your new job is going well and is something you like. As far as your insights, while I will agree we all have issues that we are dealing with, I would disagree about us all being addicts. That is too much 'Christian' thinking IMO, in that we are all horrid, fallen, deviants that need to be reigned in and taught a lesson. Addiction is "strongly inclined or compelled to do, use, or indulge in something repeatedly" per https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/addicted. While we can easily become addicted to many things, not just drugs (alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, internet), I think assuming EVERYONE is addicted to SOMETHING is incorrect. I also believe western culture promotes a more addictive lifestyle, in that we are accustomed to comfort and easy fixes for problems/desires. Maybe from a USA perspective, 99.999% are addicts, but that is not 100%. My 2 cents on that. I will agree we all have mental health issues once we reach a cognitive threshold of understanding ourself, others, and the world. I would argue that a newborn does not have mental health issues, but any thinking, reasoning child or adult has probably experienced fear, pain, or depression. In that sense they are not "mentally whole" and at least have scars on their mental health.
So my wife and I almost got divorced over the summer. I had an emotional affair as my needs weren't ...
jondspen comments on Sep 3, 2018:
You both as a couple and individually need to go to counseling to deal with this. BTW...be prepared to get treated like shit, cuz you're a man. Now if tables were turned, it would still be your fault for not being sensitive to her needs and emotions. Such a double standard misandric society we live in. Sounds like you didn't physically cheat, and was seeking someone to connect with emotionally? So her answer to the problem is kick you out of your bed and be more emotionally distant? What steps is she taking to work on her failures as a wife that made you feel you had to seek closeness to someone outside of your marriage? BTW...if the the affair was with a he, would you call it an emotional affair, or just a good friendship you were close too and trusted? To many unknown variables for anyone here to really have any legitimate input, IMO.
He's constantly peeping..24/7
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
LMAO that's funny
If I started an anti-Republican, non-Democratic group on here, would you join? ;)
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
No, because you should have proposed an anti-Republican and ANTI-Democratic group. Both are horrible choices for any public office at the national level. And BTW, those are typically called Libertarian or Green party voters....or undecideds who only watch TV and are too lazy to read or research.
Happy Saturday, everyone. How are you all doing today?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I was doing great till I watched the news! When will i learn, ignorance is bliss! :) Then tried to play Star Citizen, but game stopped recognizing joysticks? Guess it's Minecraft LOL I will be babysitting grand-daughter all weekend. Might go to Spirit Halloween and let her look at all the stuff they got this year. How's ure Sat?
are you afraid of death?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Am I afraid of what's after death? No. Am I afraid to die? You bet! Hate to end the journey now that I'm just starting to get the hang of it!
Would you raise your children religious just to fit in?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Nope
What moral code do you follow now that you are non-religious?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Arrrgggg...I follow the Pirate's code. Although "the Code is more what you call guidelines, than actual rules." - H. Barbossa
Fellow agnostics, how do you feel about believers joining?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I don't mind if they join b/c they (1) have questions about their faith - perhaps they are almost about to get a clue or (2) they come here to have discussions in a respectful manner. If they come here to flame the boards, kick them - they would do the same to us if we went to a religious site and started spewing hateful things to them.
How comfortable are you with the word "Atheist" ?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Good point. It's like calling tea - unsweet tea. A comic made the joke that you can't unsweeten something. Why don't we call it un-lemon tea, un-iced tea, un-arsenic tea?
How do you tell religious people that you're an atheist?
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Depends on the interaction. If they are pushing beliefs on me, then yea, I step up. If they make some offhand comment about "God made such a beautiful day today", I will agree it's a nice day, but won't cause drama over it. Depends on how pushy they are with their delusion.
So because I live in an Islamic country, the local people see me as someone who is non-religious and...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I'm surprised they don't stone you for being a heretic. Religion sucks!
America's Real Economy: It Isn't Booming
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
But wall street says everything is fine. Oh wait, wasn't it these same guys who ran the economy into the dirt a few years back? I'm not democrat, but I sure as hell know Regan Trickle Down Economics is just a fancy way of saying the rich are pissing on you and telling you it's raining!
How old were you when you came to disbelieve? Do you still hold any religious beliefs you were ...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
First glimmer of disbelief came at about 10 or 12, but didn't give denial or belief much attention either way. Parents went, so I had to go, and girl I had a crush on went to church with me, that's where my focus was. Teen years more interested in sex, drugs, rock n roll. After Marine Corps, was back in school, raising 2 daughters after divorce, taking care of mom with MS and recovering from heart attack. Needless to say I was overwhelmed. Started back b/c always told God handles your problems that you can't...so figured I was being prideful (see how they get you in with guilt and lowering your self esteem)? After being back in, really trying to live the life, finally accepted it was a load of crap and no amount of praying or faith would fix my problems. Was in late 30's when I finally stepped away for good. And no, don't believe any of it.
I received a message today from the CEO of a Christian youth program nonprofit.
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Did you apply, or is it just a cold call type of offer?
California Just Became The First US State To Condemn Surgeries On Intersex Children
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
"A single standard of care is neither reasonable nor rational," - but isn't that what they were doing when these scalpel happy doctors starting cutting up these kids? I can't speak with any authority, but seems to me that surgery should only be done in extreme cases (life/health issues), until the child is able understand the consequences and have input on the decision.
He said he wouldn’t join his company’s Bible study. After being let go, he’s suing. - The ...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Sad state that FORMER convicts, who have PAID their debt and trying to start a new life, have to work at places like this. Sad narrative on our judicial system, sad narrative on our society, sad narrative on our corporate "owners".
Each week gets progressively (no pun intended) worse for Donald Trump. Another Mannefort associate ...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Those 35 percent won't realize anything, b/c they are too stupid or too stubborn to admit they are wrong. Maybe when they lose their jobs, and prices go through the roof, they might wake up then. It all depends on how willing they are to believe that all their problems are the illegals, media, leftists (notice I didn't say liberals), etc. etc. etc.
Religion provides an extended brotherhood.
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I would say non-religious brotherhoods are more meaningful. In church, all I ever got was a pat on the back and a "I'll pray for you". Of course this was Texas, where the people are about as shallow as a puddle. Outside, I've had real friends do stuff for me b/c they know some imaginary friend isn't going to help me.
I've been getting spontaneous private messages from young ladies who I've never spoken to on the ...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Not me...but im pretty new
[encyclopediavirginia.org] The above link is to a letter written by Thomas Jefferson to a young ...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Great advice. Believe what you will, but understand the arguments against your position, and give each serious attention. Too bad our politicians and religious leaders don't practice this. If they did, I think there would be a lot less suffering and a lot more compromise and cooperation.
This 87-Year-Old Man Is Searching for a Job to Pay for Wife's Medical Bills - Health
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
So sad....she probably doesn't have much time left, and instead of spending it together, he has to literally kill himself working and be away from her. But hey, our military is strong, and we have $2 a gallon gas!!! GO AMERICA!!!!
COMPREHENSION: com-pre-hen-sion. NOUN. The action or capability of understanding something; the ...
jondspen comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Any surprise? We have the worse economic melt down since the Great Depression b/c of corporate greed, and Americans thought the solution was to elect a trust-fund BUSINESSMAN. I mean after all, all our problems stem from the poor and illegals. All that's needed is a wall and problems solved. We can boot the illegals, then throw our poor and homeless over it too! I swear, I think all of America has ADHD.
God mother/father
jondspen comments on Aug 31, 2018:
I always thought traditionally God-parent was an agreement to step and and help raise the kid, much like an uncle or aunt, esp. if some type of death occurred. I realize it has probably changed over the years, but if I was asked, I would want to know what that meant and what would be expected.
Misogyny hate crime: new research reveals true scale of issue – and how the public are united ...
jondspen comments on Aug 31, 2018:
Society has underplayed violence against men much more. And when it is reported, cops just shrug it off, where as women typically have the option of counseling, shelters, and many protections. Men have no recourse, at least from what I have seen in south USA states and in California. I know first hand. How about we all agree violence is bad, regardless of playing the SJW sexist game?
When I came out as an atheist to my parents, my dad was okay with me being an atheist because he was...
jondspen comments on Aug 31, 2018:
Why do you feel you have to define who she is to herself?

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For Halloween I bought a wig and borrowed daughter's lipstick and polish. Rest is just normal, well regular, ol' me!
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Beard 7 weeks into growth. Will trim it up after Halloween and No Shave November 2018
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