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Im 38 and in the process of divorce. I am separated and just got my own house. I have a 1 year old son. Im just looking to meet people in may area casually as friends (not talking about casual sex.) and then see where it goes from there overtime. Id really love to meet some agnostics/atheists/ humanists/ freethinkers in my city.

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Is Atheism a belief system? The knee-jerk reaction of an atheist is “no of course not. It’s the disbelief in God“ Now I just read a very intelligent linguistic breakdown of the true meaning of agnostic, but let’s just go with the current popular meaning which is “ I don’t know if there’s a god, there could be.” My experience is self-described agnostics find themselves to be very open minded. They can’t prove a negative so they leave it open ended. So what does that say about atheists? By definitively saying that we don’t believe there’s a god what we are also saying is that we do believe God is a human invention. This is still not an assertion of a religion. It’s a theory. It’s based on observation of the entire history of our species, around the globe, and history of every major religion. But there’s no way around the fact that it still involves a small leap of faith. The most I can tell a theist is that I’m satisfied with the evidence I see that the I concept of God was a creation of human beings. Just as I am satisfied with the observable evidence behind evolution. I just find it a somewhat interesting paradox that it does take some faith to be an atheist. It’s the Agnostics that have no faith. And frankly I find it an indefensible position. If you properly egg knowledge we are hard evidence leads, then it is the most lazy and apathetic conclusion to draw that you simply “don’t know“. I have far more ...
thatgirllaura comments:
That is total BS. Agnosticism imo is more honest than atheism because we really don't have the capacity to know or understand what is beyond what science has shown us. It literally would blow our mind. No one really knows what the hell is out there and that is why atheism is unrealistic in my opinion as it assumes to know more than it can possibly know...just like religion. Agnosticism alone has true integrity.
So yesterday a man a few counties over from me died in a car accident. He made that post on his Facebook page last month.. I live in the bible belt so as you can figure, everyone and their mama has been sharing the post with "You can't tell me god isn't real" or "If this doesn't prove god exists I don't know what does" and my personal favorite, "It gives me chills to know god gave him time to come to terms with his death" I think it's a crock of shit, what about y'all?
thatgirllaura comments:
What post on facebook?
What is your favorite show on Netflix?
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Right now I am patiently waiting for each weeks new episode of the handmaids tale and eat it up like ice cream on a hot summer's day. It leave me on pins and needles and it is so telling of the current atmosphere!
Sister relationship
thatgirllaura comments:
I have to to this also as my sister is a narcissist and flat out nuts. Find friends you can be closer to and keep set boundaries with her, for example...avoid any religious discussion as much as you can and do not participate. This is to protect yourself. Find friends that accept you for who you are and your beliefs and find what's missing with your sister in them.
Not just conversation..
thatgirllaura comments:
Very important
Sexual desires and being a introvert. I’m a weird mix of messed up emotion feelings. I want to have a stable relationship but I’m constantly moving so my other option is having a hook up which is hard to do becouse I’m an introvert and a virgin. I can’t be public about on dating apps becouse I’m an in closet ex-Muslims(incloset as in no one in my community knows I’m no longer a devout Muslim, I’m straight) what do I do. I feel like pulling my hair out.
thatgirllaura comments:
Please go and get laid. use protection
First steps
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The fact that the protestant religion was spread by a king to be able to divorce his catholic wife against the pope's order so he could sleep with a new woman and make babies. As part of this spreading of the protestant faith, he has everyone in his kingdom sign a statement saying the king was the voice of god instead of the pope and his first marriage was not godly. Anyone who would not sign was beheaded. (Before this, his catholic religious counsel (when the king was catholic) used to burn protestant men at the stake alive for heresy.). Summary: religion is a political and social tool and is shaped accordingly.
First steps
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The idea that daughters can get their dad drunk and sleep with him to continue the family lineage and that is okay because it's in the bible.
First steps
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The idea that a man with schizophrenia can mutilate his genitals in the name of God and almost murder his own son for the same and somehow that's admirable.
First steps
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Ideas that were totally incongruent with scientific facts
Just an odd hard to explain observation. So I build and run escape rooms. To put it in context, it's like watching the same TV shows over and over with different actors. Total Bell curve of predicatable actions. BUT every once in a while a pattern develops where there should be no pattern. For example: there is a wooden blocks on the end of a cord. It is supposed to plug into a certain shape on another thing. (Unimportant) so all of a sudden one person will carry it to the opposite side of the room, and weigh it. Keep in mind no one has done this before, hundreds of room runs, no one has done this. Then the next day, someone else does it, and a few hours later, someone else. Then now it's a thing that happens occasionally. This is just 1 example, I have several. Boggles my mind.
thatgirllaura comments:
Freaky! I LOVE escape rooms! Awesome idea! that is kind of freaky....
Money seems to be one of the most fought over issues in a marriage, read that somewhere. A post I made in another group brought this to mind; I had made a statement “we help support our daughter, we don’t mind , we have plenty” made me think I sounded glib. We’re at a spot in our lives where we’re doing good, better financially than ever. BUT, it wasn’t so long ago we were close to being homeless. My husband was in school and I had filed for disability. Our son kept us caught up on rent and we got through it. 🙂 Money has never meant that much to me, just a roof, food, maybe a meal out once in awhile. I give help because I’ve been helped. Rob is the same way, so it works. How are you on the future? Worried? I didn’t think this age would come this fast!
thatgirllaura comments:
I only started caring about money when my sig ot stopped being such and became no more than a rude roommate...while i still paid all the bills.
How do you motivate yourself when motivation is down? I tend to set small goals and then build up. I don't want to work out today, but I put my shoes and shorts on.... I went and did a full workout, including some core work.
thatgirllaura comments:
Showing up is 90% of the battle. Show up and the rest will follow.
Sarah Sanders on family separation: it’s “biblical to enforce the law” - Vox
thatgirllaura comments:
Im currently watching the Handmaid's Tale on hulu and it's like the current administration is reflecting the show and trying to make it as real as possible. The mix of religion with state is terrifying on many levels. This is why I am determined to keep my child in a school where it is not taught.
Have you read the Bible?
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I was sick with crohns disease once and had nothing to do so I read the bible all the way to moses. While doing this I realized that it is full of some really messed up things...like rape and incest, murder of the innocent, etc and is very sexist.
Those of you who grew up in a fundamentalist household and had an interest in science, did your parents try to shield you from science or provide you with creationist resources? I loved learning about dinosaurs as a kid, and my parents were and still are, to my knowledge, young earth creationists. They didn't keep me from learning, but they bought me books and videos teaching ideas such as 'dinosaurs died in the great flood' and 'dinosaurs were all vegetarians before the fall.' Now I'm a closet atheist studying environmental biology and fascinated with evolution and natural selection. I'm curious, did you have similar experiences? If so, did you believe the ideas your parents taught you, and how long did you buy it for?
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My parents never shielded us from science but we were still raised christian. I remember questioning how dinosaurs fit in the bible story when i was about 14 and my pastor gave me no real answer. Then at 16 I went to the governors school for science and mathematics and that was it for me.
Does anyone or has anyone here attend a Unitarian church? I’m considering going to my local one. I know that they accept atheists and agnostics. I guess my real question is would I have to hear a lot of stuff about the Bible as if it were true or a moral authority? Or is it basically Humanism?
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I have been watching the services from the UU church of spartanburg, sc online and they never mention god. They once had a baptist pastor visit and give a sermon but he didn't focus on the christian faith. They talk about something in nature like...mountains, water, the garden, trees, etc and relate them to life, etc. It's a little lame imo but it's a community and I want to join.
# Late Night Contemplations on Past Relationships Though I seem to be perpetually single in a world that's more concerned with instant gratification and hypergamy over substance and longevity, when I sleep at night I'm often comforted in pretending that I'm laying next to someone I love. This of course, means looking back on those I've loved. I'd squeeze the body pillow next to me, as if it were them, and revel in their memory; their smell, their smile, how I felt when they were safely sleeping next to me, and all was right in the world. Though, lately, it's come to my attention that while I used to fall in love easily, and I was fiercely loyal; there aren't many women who returned the same amount of love back. They either cheated, grew bored of me, moved away, ghosted me, broke things off because they "just wanted to be friends", etc. All of them, save for one...who I let go. I had to. While I loved her deeply, and she was the best woman I'd ever known, she was 1. A devout catholic, and arguments and condescending comments would arise simply because I was not. 2. She was ill. At the time we didn't know what it was, but it seemed physiologically connected to her brain. -She was from another state where her parents still lived, and they'd visit her more frequently as her illness progressed. I could see the writing on the wall. In order for her to get the treatment she needed, she'd need the support of people who could take her to all of her appointments,...
thatgirllaura comments:
Im sorry for your experiences. I too have had some devastating past relationships that have left me blindsided and doubting my inner compass at it's ability to find real love. I have now found it in my 1 year old son. Everyday I focus on him and let the rest go. At this point all I know is that I would much rather be alone for the rest of my life than to be with the wrong person. Experience has taught me this. Trust yourself and reach out to friends for love and support. You are worthy and valued in this life.
As we grow older is a persons looks as important to you, or is their ability to connect with you on intellectual grounds of greater importance? And what are some real deal breakers a guy can make on a first date, that won't get him a second?
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I hate that looks are important but to some extent they are. I do believe that overtime people can become more attractive if their personality and intellectual maturity are a good match. That's why it's really best to get to know several people as aquaintances/ friends and give it some time before you make a physical move....
Now I remember why I keep leaving this site. I am a proud deplorable. Very glad Mr. Trump is our President. We needed a businessman instead of another politician in the office. And, I think he's doing a terrific job. Anybody that makes a nasty comment will get me back off of this site in a hurry.
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Im just curious as to why you actually feel this way. Can you back up your opinion with reasons why? What has he done to make things better and how can you look past the multiple damaging things he has done? Show me your rationale so I can understand. That is all I want to know. No bashing here.
One of my favorite quotes, “the fact that a believer is happier than a skeptic is no more to point the I drunken man is happier than a sober one” George Bernard Shaw
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LOVE!
Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster
thatgirllaura comments:
I do. I used to have the decal on my car of the flying spaghetti monster to replicate the fish decal seen on alot of cars. Then my ex husbands mom said I was part of a cult. lol
Badly explain your profession
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I pass gas for a living.
College Study: Democrats Far Less Tolerant Than Republicans https://www.thenewamerican.com/culture/item/29260-college-study-democrats-far-less-tolerant-than-republicans
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My sister used to be a huge liberal. Now she's left the democratic party and is constantly posting about liberal social justice warriors and how we are all thugs who will vehemently rip someone apart if they dare to disagree with us, etc. I think ti's just because we care so much and are so angry about all the injustice that has happened and is still happening. But I can still see that viewpoint. When faced with bigotry we cannot turn into what we despise.
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