NY Post: Online dating is hell on earth for middle-aged and senior singles Such is the typically...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 29, 2019:

I wrote a paper in college that in essence, and in retrospect, described our boomer generation as a living transition of post-war era family structure. Most family farms and home groupings had been divided and dissolved, while industrialization, electronics and women in the workforce changed the earnings base and home structure as never before, and married couples were just expected to carry on in the same way? We had no model or counsel on navigating the expectations of one another and changes in married life that were born of all those changes in an historically short period of time. Without intent to fail or betray, the needs and securities of married life that our parents and grandparents knew was pulled from underneath us as we so desperately tried to live up to those standards. So here we are, navigating unknown waters to fill the void of being without partner. Organic means of meeting suitable partners through friends and common interests are nearly non-existant in a striated society of individuals. Even still, we persist. To find a new partner in sync, each with several decades of experience, preferences, and interests? Don't get me started.

NY Post: Online dating is hell on earth for middle-aged and senior singles Such is the typically...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 29, 2019:

Poor, misguided amateurs.

Fatherly advice

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

Nope, not buying it - I think we've evolved to communication skills.

Whatever's customary:

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

My feelings exactly, really hate getting florist flowers!

Impossible not to.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

OK, I promise!

Deal in Kent , last two photos are of Deal Castle

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

OMG, that castle is so frickin' awesome!!!

Like this funny

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

Yeah, nah, I'll pass on those.

I am heartbroken.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

Oh, honey, I am so very sorry. Our furry kids over such a long time are part of our lives in a way that cannot be replaced. Please take good care of yourself, and allow the grieving to be what it is.

Made gazpacho for a BBQ tomorrow. Damn, that’s a lot of dicing!

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

Beautiful jewels of veges!

I was looking on Amazon because I needed some snake repellant (snake be gone) then I got the idea ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

Let me know if you find something that works and leaves no trace!

30-some-odd years ago when I was a young adult, I had a healthy body but a mind that was a wreck.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 28, 2019:

I'm with you, sister! Took time to get to know and appreciate my later-life self, taking care of life and home, welcoming grandkids and minding my health. A few random aches and pains, then suddenly I am facing a hip replacement and/or back issues. Who knew?!

Almost vegan dinner.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Wouldn't some nice cumin be good with all those veges? I only discovered and incorporated into my cooking a few years ago, and found that it lends such a warm richness to so many ingredients.

Linda's partner in crime stopped by for some "people skills" advice.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Mmmmmm, PESTO!!! I go through phases where I use it on everything I eat.

Part of getting old

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

I seem to have done that recently - just a mildly annoying ache in one hip for a few weeks, and BOOM! First xray rated "severe osteoarthritis", now looking at a replacement. Whaaaa????? And, oh, bone on bone pain creates an entirely new reality.

Yesterday I took time to make a loaf of my ( GF) olive rosemary bread, primarily b/c one of my ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Do you ship?? ;-)

Like OMG.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Nice!

Good morning Girls and Boys.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Ooooh, RenFair!! Enjoy the trip back in time and all the scenery!

Ok.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Have fun, and enjoy getting to know a nice guy!

Look familiar to you

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Oh, that cracked me up! Mine is more of a dog-cat, and comes to the door to greet and rub against whomever appears, goofball.

Harley the Hog Found a hedgehog in the middle of the road in a housing estate today, so brought him...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Harley should be a sweet addition to your garden!

New Loves, Old Feelings 1) Don’t remember much about The Lifeguard (1976) other than its ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

That is a great read, Deiter. Remembering and considering those feelings took me back to a good space, an appreciation for how we viewed the world decades ago. Perhaps from the viewpoint of being single now, I've realized there cannot be a love like my first, regardless of being an unsuitable relationship. Feeling buoyed and looking forward with innocent promise was a gift of the times, and I agree the boyfriend/girlfriend labels are a comforting reminder of that, appropriateness be damned. Congrats on the job, though it may be transient. Working under someone you like and respect, regardless of generation, is a fantastic experience. Oh, and thanks for the pic of Sam . . . oh my!

Beautiful hike today to Lanham Lake, WA. A vicious dog was worrisome.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Perfectly beautiful photos, thank you! Glad there was no harmful interaction, but I'm always saddened that irresponsible dog owners create anxious and hostile attitudes that impact an otherwise lovely experience.

Tibetan Mastiff. The world's largest dog. (According to the picture)

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Hey, I think that's the same little bitty model that was photographed with the Leonburger!!

Last Saturday a puppy mill breeder relinquished a 4 week old chocolate lab to the clinic where I ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Poor baby! Hope he only remembers the skilled and loving care as he enjoys a lifelong home and family.

Is it? Oh c'mon?😁😅

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Yep, pretty much!

Well, Ladies, who wants to take Bachata lessons with moi?

tinkercreek comments on Jul 27, 2019:

WOW!!! I'm the right age (62), right height (just under 5'10"), love all partner dance but have yet to enjoy the beautiful Bachata. Some sinuous blues and NC2step have come close, but this really takes it! Now, if it were just not for that pesky 2,000 miles or so . . .

Look at these beauties! They look like miniature orchids.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 26, 2019:

Sweet Peas!! Must be a wild version.

We just brought home this little fella last weekend.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 25, 2019:

Such a handsome dog, and it sounds as though he's entered a new life of love and good care!

A boss asks an employee.......... "Do you believe in life after death and supernatural?

tinkercreek comments on Jul 25, 2019:

Only a bit worse than some stories I've heard from staff!

Everyone pitches in

tinkercreek comments on Jul 25, 2019:

It looks as though that may be the only way to keep pupper's head above water while the human hands are busy!

Good morning all.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 25, 2019:

Good work, new mommy!! Jillian is a lucky girl and there is so much fun ahead of you all.

I do still have some hybrid daylilies.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 24, 2019:

Lovely!

Sweet photos of elderly couples in love [huffpost.com]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 24, 2019:

So sweet!

Lost in translation?

tinkercreek comments on Jul 24, 2019:

Love it!!

Some good news to help me move forward… Following up on my post from one month ago, ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 24, 2019:

Wooo-Hoooo! Sounds like everything is moving in the right direction for you!!

From last weeks heatwave with another coming

tinkercreek comments on Jul 24, 2019:

Sorry, gang - take good care!

Fun dating attempt today.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 23, 2019:

Good move, and great comparison!

Hi Everyone - been a busy day for me - received my house contract for the short sale.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 23, 2019:

So much activity, but sounds like so much progress - good for you!

Scotch Eggs! Had these at a summer festival so had to make at home.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 23, 2019:

Excellent, and without the deep-fry!! I have some turkey sausage in the freezer I may just have to try as an alternative.

Back from the third date. Meh. Oh well. Happens sometimes.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 23, 2019:

"All seeking eventually leads to finding." You gave it a chance and maintained awareness, good on you!

This sums up my relationship philosophy. I won’t be settling.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 23, 2019:

Excellent! Making conscious choices and rational trade-offs is not settling. Every situation has pros and cons, but seeing someone in a positive and admiral light for how they enhance your life is key.

Jack Russell vs. 5 Piggies... Hilarious! [youtu.be]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 22, 2019:

That little pup was having a blast, knowing she could outrun/outsmart them! Wish I'd have had that option to tire out my dog when she was young!

For those of you who followed my early serial dating escapades, I found out over the weekend that ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 22, 2019:

So glad you were able to have that last visit with him - my condolences to you.

Having downsized to a studio-sized unit in a senior complex, I now garden in a private patio of 18 x...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

How beautiful! It actually sounds more desirable to me, at this point in life, to garden in that controlled space with containers. Even my small yard is beginning to feel a bit overwhelming at times!

Sometimes you just get happy accidents.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Wow, the perfect contrast for backdrop!

A 'game-changing' prehistoric city was just unearthed [cnn.com]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

So exciting to see a discovery overlooked for so long!

Oregon Archeology dot com [oregon-archaeology.com]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Wow, thank you so much!

I had a date yesterday with a guy I was talking to on okc back in April.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Does sound promising and very sweet with the desire to be with you! Perhaps just a bit of caution with the 'rush'?

Good summary of a complicated situation..

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Great little list, I love it!

New Mexico Office of Archeological Studies Fieldwork [nmarchaeology.org]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Now that's a great find! I'll have to find what Oregon has as a parallel.

Had to do a double-take when I saw this! I've never seen anything like it, but then all the kids are...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 21, 2019:

With something like that on the market, I am GLAD my kids are grown!

Avocados getting quite a lot bigger and the rain today will help! 2 months to go at a guess.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 20, 2019:

I LOVE seeing your gardens, thank you!

It’s a picture perfect day for a drive.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 20, 2019:

What a great feeling from those views!

New peafowl and guineafowl today.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 20, 2019:

Ooooh, babies!! Pardon my ignorance, but why do you raise them?

Twisted? 😛

tinkercreek comments on Jul 20, 2019:

And why would you want the bond with someone who breaks your heart?? (says she who has lived it)

How do they know this sweet punkin isn't actually...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 19, 2019:

But do the Buddhist neighbors know????

Painted Lady Red Admiral

tinkercreek comments on Jul 19, 2019:

What a beaut!

Good morning all.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 19, 2019:

I will be grateful we are only looking at highs 86'-91' in the Portland area!

Loop hike today. Mountain bikers fixed scary trail.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 19, 2019:

Our beautiful PNW!! So glad you had some pleasant surprises and a fun hike.

Good Morning All.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

I pay for an annual contract with Geek Squad. They are 24/7, phone/online, and can remote in for fixes. Saves my online life and really good customer service folks!

Good Morning Everyone! Sunny day with clouds approaching.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

That makes NO sense. I'm not keenly educated in neurology, but worked in cardiology for years - a 30 day rule for stroke evaluation/treatment??? I think there are wide variations in different VA facilities, and hope Dan is doing well through this.

Below is what came with the picture.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

Some of my and Chelsea's best dog park friends are Leonbergers, and they are amazing dogs! One is trained as a service cuddler, which is her consistent personality. These huge, soft pups just ooze love!

A few pix from today.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

So great that your photos and information can help us all to help protect these fragile species, thank you!!!

Loved this brick detail from the Eames-designed Art Deco home, Meyer House, in Huntleigh, MO

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

So beautiful, and crafted with such care!

Great bartending

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

That would be my response!!

Tonights convo with Deane. I have been helping her move into her new place for a while now

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

I have helped too many men move into new homes, and will never again!

Just came in from my Strawberry bed - just might have to make some shortcake tomorrow !!!

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

Now THAT is a beautiful harvest!!

Another pun. Kind of about my name, Herb, according to the guy who sent it to me.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

I think it's cute!!

A few witticisms to start the day: I don’t feel old.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

Oh, how I needed those laughs, thank you!!

Those who have siblings: Did a time come when you began relating as peers rather than older and ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

l am the middle of 3 girls, all just a couple yrs apart. It wasn't until college dorm chat that I realized how odd my home life had been, then learning over years and counseling that much of that was due to my dad's PTSD from Korea. A home with 3 little girls, and a demand for quiet?? Resultant of that, at least in part, was not forming good relationships, furthered by my mom's well-intentioned but ill-crafted meddling as we became adults. Our parents died young, years ago. My younger sister found salvation to a volatile marriage by embracing/demanding evangelical christianity, forever after judging all others as inferior. Yep. So interesting, for two people who had never engaged in any religion! I had maintained good communication with her, but she reached a point of being visibly uncomfortable with anyone outside that cult, which was sad. I still reach out from time to time, then she drifts off. Fortunately, her sons are consistently caring and welcoming of me, which is very dear. My older sister had a rather volatile run of marriages and choices, and was diagnosed with MS at age 60, with a steep decline physically and cognitively. We had always connected with something more akin to solidarity than closeness, and I keep good contact with her brilliant daughter. She now has a rather comical way of trying to express as matriarch, offering advice and direction with no anchor in reality, but in good humor. Future yrs are a bit uncertain, but my niece and I have a bond of looking out for her. Researching ancestry has been an amazing source of family love for me, finding cousins I never knew of and learning history no one had cared about!

You are not alone [youtube.com]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 17, 2019:

That is hilarious, and a horrifying reminder to be very aware of your situation!!

Tip for the week: If you have a pup and need to house train him/her do not allow any pee pads or ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 15, 2019:

Thank you, as I have thought that! I have a friend with several small rescue dogs, who resorted to just placing pee pads around the house. Visiting with my PERFECTLY house-trained 5 yr old dog, she squatted in the house because . . . well, everyone else did!!

My night blooming cereus.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 15, 2019:

That is extraordinary!

Home made pizza w/ pepperoni, onion and fresh tomato.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

Pretty pie!

Times change indeed!

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

NEVER will I forget the incident or the name of the boy who managed to kiss my cheek on the playground in second grade. Funny thing, it didn't seem odd that nothing else ever happened - ?

No mix gas, no numb hands and almost no noise. [youtu.be]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

Whoah, wait, barefoot???!!

🤣🤣🤣 come on you know it is funny 🤣🤣🤣

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

Yes, quite funny, and now stolen!

To all who gave advice and assistance I offer my thanks.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

Wow, beautiful pie, with a great story to boot!

My sister made delicious fried broccoli! Its a perfect substitute for fried chicken if you are ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

Great idea! Is it baked or actually fried?

Happy Sunday morning all! Many members have asked me for an update, so here it is.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

So happy to hear, and you're doing a great job and have loving help all around! Don't fret too much about the weight, for nursing will melt it away quickly.

There are times you wish you had a train horn mounted on your car.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 14, 2019:

Just yesterday, and almost yelled at them!!

This could keep a lot of marriages intact. [goodshomedesign.com]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 13, 2019:

YES! I could see living happily without some niggling conflicts that are emphasized by shared space.

Thanks to everyone for your love and support for me and Dan yesterday.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 13, 2019:

Sorry you are both having to deal with this, and missed the events yesterday. Looking forward now to improvements, and so glad you are an experienced advocate!

I was washing dishes and looking out the window and, to my surprise was a deer eating one of my ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 13, 2019:

Yes, crocosmia, I have them also. That's a sad loss!

Hmmm...something to shoot for perhaps?

tinkercreek comments on Jul 13, 2019:

Sounds pretty perfect to me!

What's not to love?

tinkercreek comments on Jul 12, 2019:

I call it Teflon Brain.

This is the kind of person I aspire to be.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 10, 2019:

That is stellar, thank you!

Walter....[youtu.be]

tinkercreek comments on Jul 10, 2019:

He's great, got the timing down perfectly!

Improvised snack.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 9, 2019:

Now that is an interesting carb load!

80's fashions were admittedly weird, but thank goodness I had enough sense not to wear anything like...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 9, 2019:

I always sewed my own clothes and don't think I had that exact one, but pretty close!

Something weird happened tonight.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 8, 2019:

Wait, what? You wouldn't think Dan was licking your ear???

Our last night on the road.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 7, 2019:

Great news that you and your girl are completing a good trip, and thanks for sharing with us!

I've had a nice little break and I'm back. I missed a few of you.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 7, 2019:

Hi again, and hope you're doing well!

Standing ovation

tinkercreek comments on Jul 7, 2019:

Who's it all about, anyway??

The Stargazers are blooming......and they smell soooo good.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 7, 2019:

and SO beautiful, love the colors!

The more I date the more I am disappointed.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 6, 2019:

You've got what it takes and everything you need to live your life happily. We get you!

Is it just me?

tinkercreek comments on Jul 6, 2019:

NO, you're not! Any intimate partner should be listening to what is said, and acting on both preferences and avoidances, which is the kind, caring and fun thing to do. Anything less is rude and selfish, if not outright vindictive and controlling. I dated someone like that once, who was interesting, sweet, and charming until he thought the time had come to start breaking my will. It was all quite unpleasant, and involved him stalking me for a while until I had to involve law enforcement. Run!

Spicy orange basil noodles: I had 1/2 an orange and some fresh basil I needed to use.

tinkercreek comments on Jul 6, 2019:

Sounds GREAT!

It's just turned midnight in the UK, making this the 7th of July and for the 1st time in 4 years, I ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 6, 2019:

Sounds like a healthy choice, and those transitions do take time.

Most of the time anymore i just quickly throw something in the air fryer oven (pork, drum sticks, ...

tinkercreek comments on Jul 6, 2019:

and that is . . . ???