How would you have handled a situation like this? You open your home to someone you've met a few times and they seem stable enough and are employed but down on their luck and need a place to stay for a short time. Then one morning something snaps and they fly into a full wide eyed rage and start yelling at you about seriously disturbing events from their childhood and their problems with their own children. Then the yelling escalates to full blown screaming that they're having a mental breakdown. Would you have called the police, withdrawn from the situation immediately or tried to calm the person down? I tried the last one but that only made matters worse as they packed all their possessions into their car and headed for the east coast. I'm having a hard time believing this actually happened and will more than likely never extend a helping hand for fear of being bit.
Having a lot of mental illness in my past..,I think that you did the right thing. If there is a mental health clinic near you, I would have suggested they get professional help. I would not call police. When a person is in that much distress, the last thing they feel cozy with is the police! And few police now days have the insight, or patience for a person in great distress. Mental illness does not equate with ‘law and order!’ There is a good possibility the person having the ‘meltdown’ released some of their anxiety and was ok afterwards, even though they left your place. Maybe they will contact you later and let you know they are ok.
At the risk of sounding selfish and uncharitable, there usually is a correlation between people who have nothing including a home or any sort of stability, and a disturbing to dangerous degree of instability at the root of their lack of such things. I've been burned quite enough, due to my generous nature and strong sense of compassion. Never again will I open my home to the undeserving.
I really tried but I have had bad experiences on at least four occasions so I just quit. I'll help them out but not invite folks to live even for a short period of time. I have had things stolen several times and really stabbed in the back on another occasion. These were folks I knew for years but were down on their luck. I have to admit they were all "Christians."
Im a sales men you see and i knock door to door. Some times when I knock on a door one guy will tell me I'm the best sales men he ever seen and the next will call me a piece of shit.. U have no control over certain interactions and to try is a waist.
Wow that’s pretty specific. I’d say them leaving was the best thing for all.
I let my ex stay with me for a couple weeks that became a couple months, and he thanked me by breaking into my safe and wiping me out of $800. So, I get the hesitance to open your home to anyone.
Hugs , hon . Sometimes, no matter what you do , it's never enough . I've taken those in need in a couple of times . It seems to me , even though they said they only wanted help for a bit , what they expected was a sugar Momma . It wasn't enough that I provided rent free rooms for a year . They actually got angry , that I wasn't taking them out to expensive entertainments on my dime . You did good . You did the right thing . Hugs !
I don't see how you made matters worse by your actions. You stayed calm, you tried to calm down your friend who was behaving in an escalatingly hostile manner, and they left. That's a good thing. Mental illness is no excuse for expecting others to accept and endure their abuse.
Unfortunately, things like this will be happening more and more as the economic situation in the United Stares worsens and the hoarders in the top 1% take more and more. People who have worked hard and played by the rules their whole lives only to find themselves slipping farther and farther behind will eventually reach a breaking point. And when a large enough percentage of the population reaches that breaking point, there will be class warfare.
I would have called the police. I had something similar happen, but the person wouldn't leave. When I called the police, he ran off. I put his stuff in the back yard and changed the locks. Thank goodness that was the end of it. But I had everything on record in case it wasnt.
I feel sorry for you and for your friend. It sounds as if they are at breaking point. Perhaps they are indeed having a nervous breakdown.
Can they get certified by a doctor and receive financial help from the government, as happens in many countries?
This person sounds unwell. They need help. But ultimately it's not your responsibility.