Excuse this posting if the question has been asked before.
Are you attracted to someone similar to you or someone who is different than you?
I don't want my clone, I'm truly enough for one household. I want someone with someone who has strengths where I have weaknesses and who is the yin to my yang. We have to have some similarities, ie liberal and non believers (cuz I've tried it the other way and it didn't work) but we need some differences. Is there a middle ground in your poll?
Humans are a community building species, and we want to form communities with people of similar beliefs, mindset, values, etc.
That being said, I don’t want someone that is a carbon copy of me. Rather, I want someone that helps me to be more than I am. I want gestalt—the sum of us is greater than our independent parts. I want someone with a few similar interests and values, but I also want someone that is their own person as well.
Someone with similar values as me and similar attitudes. I CANNOT get along with religious conservative or new age types. Hits too close to home. NOPE NOPE NOOOOOPE. If I cannot stand the guy and his mentality, no way I can get intimate with him! o.O
Plus research shows those with shared values tend to have longer lasting relationships. Exceptions occur of course.
Both. And I don't necessarily mean I like people who are both (which I do and most are) so much as I am attracted to both types.
Compatibility is very attractive for obvious reasons. It's nice to be on the same wavelength.
If I'm attracted to the differences it's because those people bring me out of my comfort zone. Different wavelengths make harmonies possible.
In my view, it's not important if people are attracted to the same or different people. Personally, I'm attracted to all types of women, as long as that have nice personalities, bright smile, sparkling eyes, authentic laugh, and of course, a delightfully, sexy physique , and yes, in that order ?
Shared recreational experiences are a bonding experience for couples. That's why I want a man who also loves hiking.
With a healthy lifestyle, I exercise regularly and have a healthy diet. I am not attracted to sedentary, fat men.
A lifelong Democrat, I refuse to date a Trump voter. Shared values are crucial.
Alcohol dehydrates me and gives me a headache. Heavy drinkers are a turnoff.
I want a man who complements me. A former boyfriend and hiking partner, Dan, is calm, cheerful and a great problem-solver. An engineer, he has hilarious dry humor.
In contrast, I am high energy, intense and fast-moving. Dan and I were a good fit with different strengths. Alas, Dan moved to Utah.
Its difficult , maybe impossible, to say that you want a significant other who isnt in sync with the values that youve chosen for yourself
without automatically showing that you don't hold your own values in very high regard which means that you certainly can't ' appreciate ' someone
elses values cuz values just don't matter much to you !