Atheist liberal engineer working in defense. So now you know that's possible.

Avoiding the Friend Zone
Comment: "Friend zone" used to be called a one-sided crush. You can't force attraction.
What is your opinion on male circumcision?
Comment: I absolutely refused to have my sons circumcised. I was not going to be swayed for any reason.
I recently watched the movie "Blade Runner 2049". I give the movie 90% rating. I recommend that you see it as it is visually stunning and is very thought-provoking. It is a sequel to the movie "Blade Runner" which was released in 1982. It helps to see the 1982 movie before seeing the new one....
Comment: I was so happy with this sequel. ?
Whats your assessment of online dating? is it for the damaged, desperate or is it 'normal' these days?
Comment: It was a disaster for me and when it started to affect the way I saw all men I decided to walk away.
First date, who pays?
Comment: Last first date we got smoothies, he asked. I paid for mine, then he used my purchase to get his last stamp on his card and got his free. No second date!
My local atheist group was run by a group of polyamorous . while i try to be open minded, to other life styles, i found that one hard to deal with. i was approached by a pretty young lady, we talked a while had my hopes high, then she dropped the bomb that her husband was over there with his girl friend, and that she had broken up with her boy friend, and was looking for a new one. call me old fashion , but i still hold the idea that if you are married there are no outside relationships. between that and the fact the group seamed to be about being a polly and drinking, i left the group....
Comment: Poly relationships sound EXHAUSTING
Does anyone know someone that was an Atheist or Agnostic and then became Christian?
Comment: I have a few family members who claim to be former atheists. To a one, "atheist" to them means, "didn't really find a Christian church I liked so I didn't go to church for a while."
How do I find love when I don't know how to start a conversation?
Comment: If it makes you feel better, us extroverts don't really have any more luck finding love. ????

I figure I'm going to enjoy my life and make connections wherever I go. Maybe love will find me, but regardless, I'll have fun doing things that make me happy.

As for starting conversations, I prefer a friendly hello and a smile. Works surprisingly well.
Tattoos and religious friends/family?
Comment: I've said "you can pray for me I guess, but I think they're permanent" and "if there actually is a hell, the tattoos are going to be the least of my problems"
Dating Thoughts
Comment: I'm interested in a dating aspect, but wary of the negging and dick pics that sent me running from other sites.
How do you respond to criticism?
Comment: I've been in martial arts most of my adult life. I'm used to frequent critique only balanced rarely with a little praise. Sometimes outside of practice I get a little pang when I'm criticised, but I snap back as quickly as possible. If the information is useful, I am thankful for the input. If it is not, I let it go and move on.
Where does intuition fall on the spectrum of what takes place in the mind but cannot be measured?
Comment: I don't "believe" in intuition per se, but I've learned to trust my gut feelings. Quite often an unexpected thought or idea will pop into my head and it has always, always been the right idea to follow that prompting. I used to think that was God. Now I think I'm probably perceptive to a massive degree and by following these "background" subconscious perceptions, I've entered a positive feedback loop where I get better and better at it.
Why did you join agnostic.com?
Comment: There was an ad tucked amongst the countless "pray for Vegas" posts on my Instagram. It was like a life raft.
Why are there more male than female atheists?
Comment: My experience with local atheist groups has been that men dominated discussions and talked over (and down to) female members. Not something that encouraged women to remain.
I was a born again Christian for 35 years and I have recently been questioning my faith. The more research I did, the more horrified I became about Christianity. I am just looking for some support from anyone that can understand the journey from believer to non believer. ...
Comment: It was a tough journey for me. I had to give up so much of what I believed about the world and myself. Even as I felt more and more free, I mourned it like a death. It's been over ten years now, and I'm glad I went through it all. It was important.

Even more significant to me, I'm happy I'm rearing my boys to be free thinkers. If they end up religious, at least I'll know they came to the decision on their own, not because it was forced on them.

The questioning is hard. No matter where you end up on the belief spectrum, be proud of yourself for the bravery you're showing now.
If you were once religious, why are you not now?
Comment: When I was in graduate school I thought it would be neato to use all of the research resources available to me at my university to get a better understanding of my intense faith. It didn't take much reading of scholarly accounts of biblical history for cracks to form. I tried to be generally agnostic/spiritual just to maintain ANY faith but that didn't last. It became tiresome for me to try to hold on to the supernatural when the actual world in front of me was more than enough.
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