My sons are 28 and 24. I still haven't created a life for me yet. How do I do this?

My older son has physical disabilities and is emotionally abusive. He's been out if the house a few times, most recenty for nearly 2 years. He's been back for 4 months, but says he's moving out on the first. I think this is for the best because he is so difficult.

I don't have friends though and I'm afraid. I have signed up for a few meetups in an attempt to cultivate some friends. I also need to find a job because my contract is ending. And now I need to find a roommate so I can continue making the mortgage. Ugh.

I just became an empty-nester 2 days ago! Within two weeks, our full little house with one shared bathroom for four people has gone from busting at the seams to peaceful and clean!

Our daughter (20) left for a new life on the other side of the continent, and our son (19) moved into a house about 25 mins away with a friend.

I am excited, sad, joyful, lost, and optimistic all at the same time.

But, to answer your question, I kind of saw this coming and, alongside having aging parents, decided a year ago to get my own life in order.

I cut down on working (went part time over the course of a year), began looking after my health and well-being in a much more committed way, sought expert advice, set goals, applied for post-graduate studies at university, and began clearing my home of superfluous junk.

When our girl moved out, I took over her bedroom as my own (my husband remained in the master bedroom and we are across the hall from each other) and so we both sleep better and have more space. And when my son clears all his stuff out of his room this week, I am going to turn his room into a study for my Masters project.

My kids have moved out into the world and I feel like I am too in a sense. At 48 I have raised wonderful kids but it’s been 21 years of hard work and sacrifice. It’s our time once again ?

My 1st norm is 20 and took the oath for the coast guard and will be in boot camp at the end of Aug. My youngest turned 18, graduated early and is helping her boyfriend to build an “in law room” on his families property, so she only at my house for 2-3 days a week. I’ve actually started to wonder what am I going to do now....sigh

Each just had a birthday, turning 21 and 18. My 18 YO son graduates from high school this May. Both kids will be in college this fall. So my nest won't be empty until then, but it will be an adjustment since it will leave me alone with the pets in the house.