I've seen both of my parents come in after a bad day and the other's mere presence is calming. Sometimes they sense odd stuff about the other nobody knows and a look or a few words changes everyone's attitude.
Of course they've been married 53 years started dating when they were 14/15, they know each other REALLY well...and still get on each other's nerves.
I don't get involved with beasts. What a shit ton of work, when you can find good men who treat you well and don't make you toil before they are human.
Calm your own dang beast, and THEN look for a partner ??