Man, 59, Victoria, Australia
Family seems very functional – a con: all that glitters may be gold – but is often shallow. That's my family. I detest them.
I wasted decades pretending everything was normal, and when I try to discuss the truth with my siblings, I am dismissed – people prefer the comfort of habit to the truth, if the truth gets in the way of that comfort.
I prefer to use the phrase (child) trauma over abuse – although abuse should be discouraged, of course, especially towards infants and children.
I am an emotional shipwreck.
I want there to be no more such shipwrecks ever again, but most people are confused as to what causes it, and so inept parenting continues its inexorable destruction of millions, and no momentum builds towards changing the causes.