My suggestion would be to do what works for you, and explore other options if you’re not satisfied with the results.

I don't mind if someone asks about what I do for a living. I just see it as a conversation starter. Most people do have something to say about their employment. Sadly, so much of our time is spent there, that maybe it is all they have.

I’ve had similar thoughts about the “what you do for a living” question, but I guess it also depends on the person being asked. Some are passionate about what they do for a living, and others may interpret or label it in a completely different context. I also agree that learning about someone else’s passion need not be a commonality, and is opportunity for learning.

@itsmedammit I think it's easy to tell when the question about occupation comes from true curiosity rather than trying to decide where one fits on the value scale. I'll engage one with no negativity, the other will likely cause me to look for someone more interesting to engage.

@StarvingArtist Yes, it is sad if one has no passion. It is also a likely sign that they are dealing with depression.

@Amzungu I agree it is usually easy to tell if someone is just being shallow, regardless of the topic.

I tend to categorize as such: acquaintances, buddies, friends, etc based on experiences with them. Some friends are situational (sports, dancing, etc), fair weather (only around during good times, or to “receive” help), and very few are considered a best friend (someone there through thick and thin); understands reciprocation, and is proven trustworthy) of course not all of them fit neatly into one category..lol