I am an introvert! My line of work requires me to meet new people everyday and be proactive at engaging with others. Meanwhile in the back of my mind I have this guy yelling at me, "RUN, RUN AWAY, GO, LEAVE NOW". When I tell people that I am shy and introverted, it catches them off guard with the usual reply. "No you're not! You are so outgoing and get along with everybody." Does anyone else deal with this? Does it cause anxiety in you? What helps you cope with it? I'm curious because I recently started treating my issues with my nervousness and anxiety.
Faith seems to me to be fundamentally a group sport - often forced upon us by parts of society that care soooo much about our souls. I wonder if introversion is both a result of our agnosticism/atheism as an inhibitor of social interaction. And a cause of our introversion when we habitually withdraw from potentially uncomfortable situations.
I certainly avoided lots of social occasions in my youth because they were faith tainted. In rural America that was just about the all there was.
I have this problem a lot as well as my job has me meeting and interacting with several new people a shift. I really never ever wanted to be in a customer service type job but somehow unwittingly am (didn’t think that’s what my chosen profession involved). I have a lot of anxiety and keep telling people I picked the wrong career. No one believes me when I tell them I’m introverted. It took me until now and counseling to realize what my anger and disappointment was about. I hate my job because of this forced fake social interacting and that each time I meet a new person and their family I feel like I have to pretend and act a certain way and am being judged etc.
I can relate!! At 70 I don't think I have ever had a job that wasn't people. Up to a point I like the challenge of relating to new and different people. But it sure is a hell of a lot of work. Yes it causes me anxiety!! It also leads me to sublimate lots of anger. If I had been smart I'd have found a solitary job when I was much younger. I hope you are in a position to do that.
I recommend a career as a Software Engineer, Software Developer, or some other type of computer programmer. It's a field that almost seems like it was created by introverts. Or actually, I think it quite literally was created by introverts.
I know the feeling. I have to answer calls all day and talk to those on the phone. It does drive my anxiety sometimes and I have had panic attacks. But, I try to just focus on getting the job done.
I am not so much anxious as just usually need more quiet time. Out in public I'm not seen as introverted.
i'm OK one on one or a small group but shy in a big group
Same here.
i'm OK one on one or a small group but shy in a big group
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