I wonder....How did this turn out? I do not necessarily agree with all those telling you to RUN from him. I was raised a JW and started fading and dating "wordly" women. It was a struggle. I was torn...tormented inside because I knew it was wrong and wanted out but just couldn't figure it out. It took me years to finally let go and be free of their brainwashing. You can actually help him see the light and possibly give him the path to freedom.

I don't have any links, but can't resist commenting on "witnessing". Witnessing is one of many words misused by religious nuts. They are witnessing nothing, they are actually repeating hearsay.

This page has a lot of good advice: [jwfacts.com]

Make sure to read the “The Risk You Take” section. He might feel threatened by your attempts.

There are no links. There are no secrets to reasoning with him. They are taught that everything contrary to the religion is apostasy. He will dispute anything you say to him that does not agree with the watchtower society.

He believes everything that contradicts the watchtower is not true, created by satan and part of the system of things that Jehovah will violently destroy very soon.

I do not envy your situation and there are a few possible outcomes. However I think that there is only one probable outcome in his view. You get indoctrinated into the cult and you become his chattel. In watchtowers twisted view you are persona non grata and a huge danger to his "spiritual well being".

If you have been together for any lenght of time i would be wary. He is breaking a lot of jw rules just by meeting you if he was found out by the local elders he could be dissfellowshiped. That means his mum could shun him if he is living with his mum she could kick him out.I understand your fustration of being "hidden" If you married moved in toogether the results could be the same complete shunning by his family and jw friends. I would sit him down and ask him what he wants tell him what you want and ask him what he is going to do to achieve that. I am no expepert on relationships but i sugest you think of yourself in this situation

If he's a JW, and able to hide his relationship with you, he can't be trusted with other things. It's clear that he's not serious about his cult, so why would he be serious about you? Who else is he hiding? Who else is he fucking? And if you get him away from the cult, will he really be away from it?

Stop enabling him. And stop deluding yourself. Pack your bags.

If he is dating you, and you are not a JW, he is probably living a lie. If the two of you have been intimate, he is living a lie, by JW standards.

If he has been hiding you, you are not his girlfriend, you are his booty call. Period. Wake up!

Better to break it off before marriage. I was raised to be a Moron (oops, Mormon), and was married to a Mormon woman. We had two children before I did enough research to discover that Joseph Smith, the founding "prophet" of the Mormon church, was a false prophet. I was excommunicated for apostasy, and my wife took the children and disappeared. Later, I was served with divorce papers. I wish I had done the research BEFORE marriage. Anyway, the point is that differences in religion can destroy family relationships. In my opinion, it would be best to free yourself from the JW and find someone who thinks as you do.