I asked in another group about AA meetings as a non believer and all I got was advice to do other drugs like weed and yoga/meditation. I don't like weed for more than "religious" purposes. Meaning at social gatherings with my friends who smoke. (Which works out to about four times a year tops.)
My late husband was an alcoholic and probably Aspie as well. I still miss him.
Honestly, I know why we got along so well now. I know I'm a first class enabler as well.
20/20 hindsight via my research: both my parents were Aspie. Back in the 60's any concern about my development was mostly addressed as: "Wait and see if she grows out of it." No one noticed anything off because I was doing my damnedest to keep up with my sister who was healthy, but "slow" mentally. I probably could have skipped a grade except it would have put me in with her and her friends. I was never included. Mom didn't have much patience for me either because I was hyper and unfocused.
Dad loved me until I married someone he didn't approve of. I was a big disappointment to him. (Way too much baggage to share here, but only emotional abuse.)
My community is a small village in farm country; autism, atheism,paganism and pansexualism are what make these people vote for the likes of Drumph. Everyone smokes weed and drinks, I don't. When I do, I'm doing it alone and even then, I get into trouble.
At least AA has tacit rules and bounderies which is what I know I need. I don't have to confess my beliefs, only my shortcomings as the 12 Steps define them.
Maybe I just need to put on my big girl pants and go tomorrow night.
I have been to MANY AA meetings... I had a really hard time with the whole "God" concept... apparently there was atheist AA meetings and I went to one of them and it was 4 people... and they were pretty old and creepy (I'm 26) so I didn't go back... I went to a LGBTQ meeting and they still talked about god... (I was hoping they didn't) They seemed pretty open and claimed that "God" can be interpreted any way you please but it still was heavily influenced by religion... and constantly hearing people talk about god was pretty annoying. I wish there was a real, legit Atheist AA group in my area with more than 4 people... I tried to get sober on my own and I lasted 8 months... I haven't thought about sobriety in a while... lately I have been avoiding thinking about it.
I do AA. I go for my friends. I get there early to hang out with wonderful people. Then the fucking meeting starts. It's a LOT of work for me to not get triggered by the shamy/authority/guilting aspects of AA because it came out of a between the wars Christian movement.
So hang with sober real people but the philosophy has lots of fucked up stuff. (And still so many of the people are wonderful).
Also, this is so obvious it's stupid to say and expect there not to be a big story why not but... move to a city?
Rant away, it's good for the.........fuck knows lol
I recommended to some one else on here to read up about a guy called Wenn Lawson, he's an autistic guy who writes about the condition, tours the world giving talks and is a really nice bloke as well. Worth a look at how he got thru the whole shabbang and how he's learned to manage.