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I know little about autism. I probably need to know more. Here's why. My new next-door neighbor is a newly divorced fellow who moved into the house with two grown sons, and a visiting (shared custody) 11 year old boy. Dad works a lot! One of the sons is autistic. He has a job working at a local casino in the kitchen. He drives his car to and from work, mows the lawn, but other than that, is rarely seen. One day I get a call from dad asking me to try jump starting the autistic son's car so he can get to work. The autistic son (I'll refer to him as "J" from now on) knocks on my door and tells me his dad told him to come over. I tell J to go attach his jumper cables to his car and I'd be right over with mine. We can't get his car to start. My guess is the starter motor is shot. I get another neighbor who is a car person to verify this. At this point J is either going to be real late for work or stay home. Without really thinking it through, I tell J to hop in my car and I'd take him to work. Realizing we're not going to have an in depth conversation on the drive, I simply ask J to tell me where to turn on the route to work. I also ask him to call his dad and tell him what's going on in case I'm overstepping my bounds here. Everything went fine. Dad thanked me profusely. AND, most importantly to me, J now waves to me when we see each other. So! Without interfering in his life, is there a "next step" I could take to further support J?

Man! That's the longest post I've ever made!!!

bigpawbullets 9 Apr 29
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I have a daughter on the spectrum. What you did for J was very kind, and something that he will not forget.

Woodron Level 7 Apr 29, 2018
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I think you done good. Adding to the comments by @DharmaEngineer and @beansontoast you helped prevent what could have lead to a meltdown for J, you stepped in and took the uncertainty away, His focus was firstly the car, then work, you dealt with both. Yes he may have had a wobble at the time and during the day but you took the edge off what could have been very difficult for him.

ipdg77 Level 8 Apr 29, 2018

Thanks man.
He's a good kid. When he mows the lawn he's listening to his tunes on a headset. First time I heard him sing along at the top of his lungs I thought someone was being murdered! 🙂
Another interesting note:
Our German Shepherd, who is very territorial and trained as a guard dog.... really likes him.

@bigpawbullets You're welcome 🙂 It might be worth noting that although a lot of people wear headsets to listen to music a lot of autistic people do to not only listen to music but to shut out distractions and other noise. Sensory difficulties can be a real problem for autistic people, they can't filter out stuff audibly as easily as NTs can, they get it all at the same level.
Not sure why your dog should like him but with the singing....he may just have a crap voice lol

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