That's why I felt like I had to put it in my post. I get enough chasers on FB & IG. The important stuff, is everything that ISN'T sex... Communication. Closeness. Companionship. Listening. Growing together as human beings. But most cis men seem to only care about sex.<rolls eyes, shakes head>

@OliviaMatteo I know what you mean. Just today some hetero black male direct messaged me and kept sort of trying to chat me up. I told him I was demisexual so if he was looking for a hook up I wasn't a good prospect.

He immediately let loose on me with the most bigoted, racist-like tirade..called me "you LGBTQ people" and that we are "all alike" thinking we know everything, blah, blah. but I was judging him when he just liked to take walks in the park with women and talk.

I'd already read his bio and some of his posts, though, and knew he was a highly active player, who loved to do three ways, and immediately blocked him. Besides I've already learned to avoid all men of color because they zero in on Caucasian women and if the women refuse them, they pull the race card, accuse them of being prejudiced, and try to guilt them into dating them.

I won't even date someone of a different social status, or education level, or anyone who doesn't dance, hike, eat health food, or love nature.

I learned, as a kid growing up on our Haiti mission, to reply, "Because you're too ugly!" if some Haitian man demanded to know why I wouldn't be his girlfriend.