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As a non-binary transgender woman, I've been thinking about wether or not to update my identity documents. I had my name legally changed four years ago but never had the gender marker changed on my birth certificate. In Pa I was able to get it changed on my drivers license, but when I moved to Hawaii last year and got a Hi license the DMV went with what's on my birth certificate which is male. Since I don't feel completely female or completely male I'm thinking of keeping things the way they are, a feminine name and male gender marker. A part of me feels like by doing so I'm not being " trans enough " but if I'm comfortable with it should that matter?

Islandgurl 6 Apr 12
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You may wait a bit and some places may start puttign gender neutral classifications for binary persons.

snytiger6 Level 9 Apr 13, 2018
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It doesn't. You're trans enough, by default.

MollyBell Level 7 Apr 13, 2018
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I've avoided changing my name or any of my gender markers on the offchance that I ever have to travel somewhere where being any kind of gender variant is illegal. I wouldn't do it out of choice, but it's possible work could want to send me somewhere where LGBTphobia is enshrined in Sharia or Colonial British law. Even having the gender marker removed from my passport might ring alarm bells in those situations.

"Not being/feeling trans enough" seems to be a curse of what we do. Like it or not, some people see an established trans hierarchy of early transition post-op beats late transition post-op beats pre-op beats non-op beats TV beats CD. Non-binary being something new, I think it fits in there somewhere between non-op and TV. Like the COGIATI test, the whole thing's nonsense, of course. It shouldn't be a competition, it should be about finding your own place.

As others have said 'do what makes you happy.' But think long and hard if 'trying to be more trans' is one of your primary motivations. You have nothing to prove, least of all to yourself.

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As a non-binary, when someone asks if you're a boy or a girl, you can always smile and say "Yes." 🙂

Karen916 Level 6 Apr 12, 2018
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You do you, Sugar. Do you know if there are any ramifications to having various ID with different genders on it? Would it ever be a problem down the line?

Jellifish1 Level 5 Apr 12, 2018

I have my legal name on everything and the gender marker on everything says male so it shouldn't be a problem other than I do have a feminine name ( which I love ).

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Do what's comfortable for you that's all that matters

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You have to be you. I don’t understand not trans enough. You should never try to be something your not. You being you is always going to be enough.

Donto101 Level 7 Apr 12, 2018
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Anybody that would judge you doesn't matter anyway, just be yourself as you are.

cyndiann Level 5 Apr 12, 2018
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@Islandgurl, just do what makes YOU happy.

BearsNPenn Level 6 Apr 12, 2018
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