I really like the comment and subsequent comments... especially regarding not defining things so much. Personally I try to pay attention to what turns me on and why it turns me on and leave it at that. I think sexuality (for me at least) is a lot more fluid. If I had it my way lol I'd live in a culture where there weren't so many definitions and just a culture where people listened more to their instincts and everything understood it's normal. At times I am attracted to men and at other times I am attracted to women, and at other times I am attracted to trans etc. I really appreciate the people commenting that it's ok to change and be fluid with sexuality and bonding.

I don’t fit into a label; I bet you don’t, either. I’m glad you’re free to explore and define what you truly want.

Thanks for posting. Keep exploring your feelings, and be honest with yourself.

I find labels useful, but many don't. My sexuality labels have gone from straight to lesbian (on a technicality), to bi, all in the last 3 years. The happiest time of my life is now.

We're all works in progress.

As Warm Dissent said, thank you for taking a risk and posting. I applaud your bravery. I've gone back and forth with the label issue myself. I had been with only men for my whole life, but the desire to be with women lingered too. When I was with my first (and only so far) woman, I called myself a lesbian. After she and I broke up, and I still found myself attracted to men, I called myself bisexual. Then when that label was practically a death sentence in the gay community, I went back to lesbian. After really looking inward, I decided that yes, I am bisexual. And if someone can't handle the label, then well, that's their problem. Sexuality is often fluid and complicated. I think you're on the right path of exploring your feelings, your responses to men and woman, and your own desires.