It's a no-win situation. So now we are irresponsible for not having children? I thought irresponsible was defined by 16 and pregnant or people having welfare babies or out-of-control children on drugs or doing school shootings..

I secretly used to chuckle at self-proclaimed "fiscal conservatives" who have all these children. A true fiscal conservative says "Nope" to that debt. You can call me fiscally irresponsible;e for having a dog though.

I was over 40 before I married. At 40 are you married any children? When I would say no. So many people would say oh I see you are gay. I'm not but if I were who cares.

Heh, to be honest, it sounds a bit like she's met and judged my other half and me. We both have a little Peter Pan syndrome in us - with no intentions of growing up. Our main expense is travel, as we spend much of our extra time visiting new places and revisiting old favorites. We eat and drink a bit more than we should, with no babysitter required.
We spoil our cats and the children our friends and family have, but that's cheap compared to the talk I hear of preschools and worse. We save for our future and our retirement, not college. I'm sorry you get painted by the brush intended for us, though.

I'm single , but I have similar issues. People just don't know what the reality is. I do feel that this type of attitude is inappropriate and even condescending.

I wish these intrusive people would STFU and get a life. I quit several jobs because of nasty co-workers constantly running me down for being single and interrogating me about my private life. Too bad some people are so BORED.

I've received flack from being single, not married, no kids. Everyone thinks I live this "Peter Pan life," which is COMPLETELY different from my actual James Bond Lifestyle. [j.k]
But in all seriousness, everyone thinks I'm loaded, or saving too much. They couldn't be further from the truth. In discussions, they've said, "Well, you don't have any kids, so you don't understand how expensive 'this' or 'that' is." and my reply is usually, "Actually, I do know how much 'this' or 'that' costs, another great reason to NOT have children. If you feel these children limit you from things, then you should not have had them. You waive the right to complain about limitations the kids have given if you boast about all the joy it is to have kids."

I have a meme for you to give her. I will upload it to the meme thread, since you can't put pictures in comments. I really hate the attitude. Some of us choose not to have kids because: we don't have lots of money; we don't have lots of time; we are chronically ill, so we don't have lots of energy. We are no different than anyone else. We sometimes have money problems, no time, no energy.