If I understand your comments correctly, you are telling me that you determined what was in the best interest of your child and acted accordingly. Was that not your responsibility as a mother? At some point in time, you began to defer to your child. Yes? No?

What about when you were interacting with equals? Did you impose upon them with what you thought was "right" or did you defer to what they thought was "right"?

@SunshineEast You miss the entire point.
This life has no right answers.
The path forward always seems to be blinding us to correct action only because we refuse to accept that there is no right action.

@Willow_Wisp But we are forced to make decisions. We do make them based upon what we know at the moment. We can't undo them. The question is, "What do we call upon when we make decisions?" Does one believe that they have all the answers and, therefore, they will decide what is "right" or "wrong" or do they defer to the other? I find myself often in the situation where I "see" things that others don't. I was a change agent. Now, I see a natural world with rights, a morality and Golden Rule. It is based upon observations and inductive reasoning.

@Willow_Wisp When my children were over 30, I came to the place where I always remind myself that I loved unconditionally, without expectation of return, and if their perspective is that I was not a good enough mother, they are old enough to figure out how to get past it. Every mother is as good a mother as she is capable of being, with the tools she has at her disposal. Some mothers have more and better tools than others. I think my tools were more than adequate. I approach others with the same basic philosophy. I do the best I am able to do. If anyone has a problem with me, they need to initiate a rational discussion. If we cannot come to a meeting of minds, we can still be cordial and respectful. I am often successful at that, but not always. We both need to be able to get past it.

@SunshineEast I thought the same when I was delusional. Everything you do is good to some and bad to others and not in some esoteric spiritual or occult way. Your special insights are the same as the special insights of everyone else, no one is as clever as they think they are, and only the wise are humbled by realizing their profound ignorance of everything, including the arrogance of believing yourself to know the right action. You will simply take action, you may not find out until years later whether the action was good, bad, or neutral, if you ever find out at all. Yes, everyone makes decisions every day, most believe their actions are right. I try to make good choices and in my way I do ok... but the person taking the actions shouldn't judge those actions, the people affected should, and they deserve the respect of being heard out.