HAHAHAHA...i hear ya there buddy, i'm not gay, i'm bi. Although i'm not into football...NOBODY would ever guess i love TO SUCK COCK EITHER. ALL MAN here...on the outside...but when i meet a guy i like...i become a different man in bed. i CAN'T be feminine...I SEE guys like that...but THAT is IN THEM. i can IMITATE THEM, but that would be more like making fun of somebody i can't be...not that i try to be. I'm just me...just a guy...I like fast cars, i love westerns, war movie, comedies, i'm a writer, a singer, musician. I'm an artist...NOT PAINTING or anything like that...but...that...is just who i am. I NEVER fit the MOLD at all.

Great point! I'm not gay, but bisexual, but when it comes to men I am attracted to both the manly masculine male (whom I hope will be dominant), AND the fem twinky type (whom I hope will be submissive). I like to have my cock...er cake, and eat it too!

I don't like it when anyone is prejudiced, against me, for me or about me. I don't care if your gay neighbor wore a dress on Saturdays. The only thing we have in common is that we are human. It says nothing about me.

I'm a female, and I often don't act like a female. I don't identify as butch or femme. Doesn't it suck that people make so many assumptions?

I hate when people think I love drag race and that I’m good at dressing, I mean I’m in my fav x men t shirt when I can! Same time, I hate being judge cause of how I talk, I sound gay and some people think I’m girly cause of it. The assumptions gah and straight people make, is amazing!

Surely it's only gay bottoms that are effeminate and mince. It's okay for gay tops to be manly men.

Nonsense, of course (I've dated a guy who was very camp, but also exclusively top.) I just wanted to illustrate that the clichés exist within the gay community, too. Lots of people make assumptions about your sexual role, based on whether or not you project Alpha Male sufficiently well. Female homosexuality doesn't fare any better. You're either a 'lipstick lesbian' or a 'diesel dyke.'

Good old gender stereotypes, eh? The whole thing's a load of nonsense, if you ask me. Something to be played with and subverted. Which is one of the reasons why I identify as agender and present as situationally genderfluid these days.

In 'bloke mode', there's nothing remotely obvious about my sexuality, other than the wristbands that I wear 24/7/365. And I'm not about to start affecting the whole camp/mincing thing just to make it obvious. I sometimes wonder how many do, though.

I'm not a gay man, but it bothers the shit out of me that so many people think I am.

I'm not a gay man, but this does bother me too. I used to visit a local gay bar quite often (because Thursday night gay bingo was hilarious, and they stayed open until 3am) where I became friendly with a couple who worked on building sites. They were both over six feet tall and looked like they were built of the same concrete and bricks they worked with - in other words, about as effeminate as a battle tank that injects itself with testosterone - and it used to really annoy them when people wouldn't believe they were gay. (I used to know a very typically feminine woman - petite, blonde, very attractive, liked to wear floral summer dresses and heels) - who got annoyed that many people wouldn't believe she was really a lesbian, too.)