Well, I am 40 now and dating for me has pretty much never existed. So I kinda expect that to be the same going forward.

Well....40s and early 50s. I can say that patience and an open mind help. I don't mean we should put up with anything. But we should be flexible enough not to set impossible expectations for our prospective "dream"-guy. I had a false start learning experience at age 48, believe it or not with my very first boyfriend. We were both religiously and politically incompatible. But I learned confidence sexually from that, and I got good practice for being honest, respectfully but meaningfully. His spoken intent to vote for Trump was my breaking point. He cared more about his property taxes than human rights, including his own!

I took a break, realized I hate bars and am allergic to church, plus I live in the Bible Belt, so dating sites were the logical choice. I joined 3. And then I waited. Lots of long-distant likes, but wtf. Why would anyone trust that. It took 8 months, but he found me. We are low key, both busy professionals, similar likes in movies, politics, sense of humor, secular outlook, messy houses, and food. And we are even nearly the same age! Still going well after 18 months. Hang in there; it can happen.