Love does not destroy love...<3

We're swingers. So not monogamous but also not polyamorous.

I don’t know how to answer.

I’m married to a person I love, but it’s unrequited. She loves me, but as a best friend. We’re not in a relationship, despite the marriage.

Were I to be in a relationship (something I would like, and has been discussed and approved with my spouse), then I would want it to be just one person. But given my marriage I’d have to call that poly... right?

100% monogamous.

I've never been in a polyamorous relationship, but with the right people, I wouldn't be against it

I also know two couples who have each been together more than 25 years and are in open relationships, they have invited me to play with them and at the time I was uncomfortable, judgmental in my own head and even critically thinking about how I liked them but I was actually arrogant in my assessments. I now realize I did that based on religious values and indoctrination. I can say both couples remain together, committed and apparently happy. And I admire them for courage, honesty and the openness they have. If we are criticizing the idea of polyamourous relationships I challenge anyone to examine the etiology of said criticism. I will guess it’s the religious influences we sometimes carry with us. Food for a thought.

In my experience, there's usually one partner more enthusiastic and the other feels obligated to go along with it to a) appease their partner, b) sustain the relationship or c) compensate for any inadequacies they feel they have.

What this creates to my mind, is an underlying power imbalance in the relationship which in turn leads to resentment. Where there is one main driver of an open relationship, it can easily become unhealthy. Having said that, if both partners equally enjoy extra relations, and that there is good communication, then this can be healthy and exciting.

My bf wants to be promiscuous, and I'm trying to come around to that. I feel like maybe we should try polyamoury while we're at, and see what we want to do.

I'm pretty sure I'd like to be in a monogamous relationship, that's just how I am. When I'm not in a relationship I tend to date a lot of people but something more serious is more satisfying emotionally.

I am polyamorous, I have 3 partners who all know each other. And I know their partners too!

I’m not sure anymore. I used to believe we should be monogamous because I thought it was the right thing to do. I have evolved into a different position because I think the heart of our traditional beliefs systems stemfrom religion and that set of values which are dictated to cultures who follow these dictated rigid rules. I believe I can love more than one person at a time. I no longer think you’re necessarily bad for being open to love in non traditional ways.

Not directly in my own life, but I have had several friends who were/are polyamorous open relationships, and they are all single and alone now. I'm not saying it can't work, just that I've never witnessed it do so. To me, that's like willingly being a placeholder and encouraging your significant other to keep searching for someone better than you. Chivalrous, maybe, but asking to be alone, ultimately. But that just like my opinion, man.

I was polyamorous in my younger years. It was all about pleasing myself, for me.
Now I am monogamous and don't do well with sharing anymore

I am 100% monogamist. Each to their own - if both (or all) participants in a relationship are into polyamory, that's up to them; but that doesn't work for me.

I will, and do have multiple relationships. I love having a boyfriend and a girlfriend. That's my favorite combo, especially when they're also into each other.

Monogamy puts too much pressure on you and your partner to be perfect for each other. I'll never commit to that rut again.