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Bariatric Surgery?

Anyone else have a procedure done? I had a vertical sleeve gastrectomy done 3 years ago, as did my wife (same day ). I lost 150lbs, stay on a very high protein and low carb diet. Deal with a lot of anger and anxiety issues in the last year or so. Constant emotional struggle.

Highest weight 420. Now 240ish.

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I weighted 356 and had Lap Ban surgery, Now I am at 215 and have kept the weight off since 2004.

Eirteacher Level 7 June 4, 2018

25 years ago I realized I needed a divorce. After 3 kids and a lot of really good food I was not in shape to be divorced, so I ATKINS dieted off 120 pounds. Lots of exercise, too. I was a size 10 and I LOVED it. My spouse, suspecting my exit plan, emotionally abused me the last 2 years. I made my getaway all the same. Then I got a boob lift and fluff and a tummy tuck. I looked like a million bucks. I was expecting the deep depression from living with fear and loathing to go away when he went away. NOPE. I had a major depressive episode that lasted 5 years in spite of a very high end social life, and rich men falling all over me. I'm managed with meds now. Strattera works for me. Remarried 12 years to the most boring man ever. Put some of those pounds back on because the knees are agonizing and the spouse only wants to watch sports on TV. He's going to have to get his ass off the sofa and get ready to work some of that belly off. My knee surgery is next week. We both need to drink much less. I've found that not drinking is exactly the same as not eating an entire carton of ice cream. They are both addictions.

ForTheBirds Level 5 May 8, 2018

Wow.... haven't you learned a LOT... what a roller-coaster! Amazing profile/post story. Hope your knee surgery has been a success... let us know. Several messages here for others on the site (thanks for sharing), maybe the best (most relevant to this group) of which is your last point: "I've found that not drinking is exactly the same as not eating an entire carton of ice cream. They are both addictions." Very good observation.


You both look REALLY good! But yes, life is complicated. I solved my weight issues by eating only healthy foods (all-natural and no mammal products)... nothing else. Took 3-years, but 70 of the 80 "extra" pounds are now gone. No side-effects other than better health all-around.

mtnhome Level 7 Apr 28, 2018

Don't beat yourself up. I believe in the surgery for health, even mental health reasons. But you have to stick by your intaje limitations. Work in your body going forward. Allow yourself to feel good. Give yourself permission to live yourself. Invite health and joy into your life.

Howcome Level 4 Apr 8, 2018

Good advice!


If anyone has questions about the surgery or what it is like afterwards I’m happy to answer. I also run a group on Facebook called “Bariatric Group Therapy” for people with food addiction considering the surgery, are pre-op or post op.

jperlow Level 7 Mar 30, 2018

Regarding alternstive coping mechsnisms, I have several but it’s a constant battle. Mindfulness meditation. Medical marijuana (instead of psych meds). I run a group therapy for bariatric patients on Facebook. I see someone. Food addiction is permanent. The feelings are permanent. The surgery doesn’t fix your brain. it also doesnt make you happy by losing weight. this is not to say I should not have done it — im hsppy I did it otherwise id probably be dead.

jperlow Level 7 Mar 28, 2018

I was totally unaware of the possible psychological side-effects of a huge weight loss. Maybe my slow (2#/month) method has had emotional advantages, in addition to slowly creating the healthy eating habits I've been able to acquire. My brain has definitely made big adjustments, starting about 2-years ago. I no longer have any interest in fats, sweets or salty foods. NONE. My brain puts out the seratonins when I see a complex salad bar with lots of healthy options and NOT for pizza, alcohol, Beef Stroganoff, huge cheeseburger, or ice cream. No depression, no anger, no substitute addictions, unless you call visiting a great farmer's market an addiction. But yes, I've seen that surgery doesn't fix the brain. I know 3 people who have had bariatric surgery... at least 2 of them are still struggling with life and food issues years after the surgery. We need to understand the whole issue a lot better.


Good for you and your wife. I have thought about it. As for the anger issue, as I stated in the other group, I have been seeing a councillor that specialized in Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It gave me the tools to deal with anxiety and anger issues. I hope this helps.

Doug Level 5 Mar 28, 2018

I've been trying but it's expensive and I can't afford it.

No health insurance?

@jperlow doesn't cover weight loss


My doctor recommended it, and I have agreed. He is running tests to verify I can withstand it.

EdEarl Level 8 Mar 28, 2018

Looking good

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Rugglesby Level 8 Mar 28, 2018

looks good. I myself wouldnt do the surgery but at a certain weight it would be tempting. where does the anger issue fit in here?

btroje Level 9 Mar 28, 2018

Because food was my coping mechanism for anxiety and depression. Morbid obesity is caused by food addiction. Food as coping mechanism goes away, increased anxiety... anger...

@jperlow so have you figured out an altrenative?

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