Are you a smoker or non smoker?
Would you date a smoker?
Why? Why not?
Today is my 8 year non smoking anniversary and one of my hard limits is I will not date a smoker. The idea of kissing a smoker makes me sick to my stomach which makes me appreciate my ex husband a little bit since he never complained about it.
I have never smoked and I am in the category full non-smoker. However, it occurred to me dating smokers (two so far) and, although the passive smoke makes me sick, a smoker partner is not annoying for the kissing part. What makes the real difference is packed cigarettes vs rolled tobacco. The tobacco used to roll cigarettes has less chemicals, thus more bearable for no smokers. On the other hands, what annoys me are their habit: smoking in your house with the window open (no matter what, it gets in anyway). Ditching conversations because they have to take a puff. For instance, my mom is big smoker and, every time I go home, I let her freeze, because I have the necessity opening all the windows to let some fresh air in.
In conclusions, if you have a smoker partner and they love you, kindly ask them to switch to rolled cigarettes. Hammering them with an argument you won't even win, namely asking them to quit, is useless. But you can reduce effects on you and it's better taking actions and make some rules from the very beginning. This is the way I do.
I quit a little over a year ago, I've tried for years and failed.
My doc gave me a prescription for Chantix and I quit in a little over a month.
I can instantly smell a smoker if I just walk past someone in a store, the idea of kissing a smoker would turn my stomach.
I hadn't thought about the possibility of finding a nice atheist woman I really like just to find out she smokes, so thanks for that.
Ex-smoker here. I gave up four years ago after trying for ages with sheer will power, patches and gum - finally kicked my 25-year habit with the aid of an e-cig. Personally, I would still date a smoker, but I'd have to really, really like her!
The best thing about giving up in my opinion (well, along with being slightly less likely to die a slow, painful death gasping for every breath) is not having ashtrays around the house. I never noticed when I was a smoker, but they absolutely reek - I know if there's one in a house as soon as I walk in now.