Fixers are people who constantly want to fix other people.
It can be mild or obsessive.
Many men are fixers in relationships. Their spouse comes home to vent about something at work and they jump in with advice on how to fix the problem rather than just listening.
Do you find yourself offer solutions to problems more than just empathizing or listening?
Do you do it without realizing you do it?
If you aren't, do you know someone who is? If so, how do you feel about their attempt to "fix" everything.
I have heard similar. They say when you talk to a man it is like discussing a problem to fix it. So if you don't want it fixed keep it to yourself? Their response being if you come to me with your problems and you don't want to listen to solutions, sod off.
After years of rows, they develop a technique of half listening and saying platitudes while continuing to read the paper or watch TV. She retorts with "You are not listening and you don't care", because he does not offer or try to fix it.
The really experienced and wise man resigns himself to never being in the right and always in the wrong. Prompting him to build a man cave or shed at the bottom of the garden where he can stay happily married.
@Akfishlady I totally agree. It would make it so much easier for men of low emotional IQ if people who just wanted to sound off prefaced their monologue with "Shut up and Just Listen!! I don't want to have your opinion or solution." Saves the emotionally challenged man misreading body language and other non spoken clues. Then the sympathetic nodding and grunting routine can be started.
I've been recognized by many as an Empath. I feel like no one should change, but there's also the "only place you can go is up" Everyone comes into your life for a reason. my advice is like word vomit. It always comes out without asking
I've been recognized by many as an Empath. I feel like no one should change, but there's also the "only place you can go is up" Everyone comes into your life for a reason. my advice is like word vomit. It always comes out without asking