I've been working with a lady my same age for about 1 year. I am her superior but she doesn't report to me. We are both responsible for sales but she is directly responsible for a customer base and I manage a product line. After repeated conversations over 4 months of how bad her corporate sales are I finally just gave a report on her lack of urgency and the lack of growth in her customer base. She came back at me with some really strong words saying that I came out of no where with these accusations and how could I treat her like this after all she has done for me? She invited me over a couple of times for dinner and drinks....nothing else. I've decided to back away from the friendship for a while until things cool off. Should I apologize?
You are being paid to do exactly what you did. IMO socializing outside the workplace is always a bad idea just because of crap like this!
Good point, I knew in my gut instinct I shouldn't have forged a personal relationship and I rarely do but felt vulnerable as I just relocated to this city and position. Lesson learned, keep it professional.
You gave more than fair warning... Apparently, she did nothing.. No apologies...
if it was part of your job then no but if you just decided to write it up without telling her you were doing so well thats a bit different i wouldnt worry about any friendship as she will no longer trust you apologize if you feel you need to but not because you feel bad about doing hat your job requires
That is true, no need to apologize for doing my job and doing it well. I will eventually have to make up for her shortcomings in sales.