I was slender and beautiful when younger. I was treated with favor in all kinds of situations, and didn't even realize it at the time. I've seen the same kind of thing with my slender, beautiful daughter - people want to do things for her just because she's attractive.

One of the reasons that I prefer to get to know people online now is that personality and intelligence tend to be more obvious. And honestly, being fat tends to be a jerk filter - those who are solely interested in looks usually just pass on and leave me alone. There are a few, of course, who find it necessary to point out that I'm fat (as if I didn't know!) but I figure they're working through some deep insecurities and ignore them.

Admittedly, we live in a world where nearly everyone is judged on their appearance with the possible exception of celebrities and eminent people. Sure, it is shallow and from personal experience some the most brilliant people that I met in my life couldn' t give a damn about their appearance because for them it did not matter.

I’m sure it does show.

[futurescopes.com]

[npr.org]

Basic evolution. See good specimen, attracted to strong specimen. It'll take a long time for us to 'see' an attractive intellect. Hoping for it. Maybe if it showed on our faces. But, darn, we have to interact with someone to 'see' his/her intellect--and attitudes.

I thought that was my problem too. I changed the way I look(not entirely intentionally) and discovered that it only attracts the people I don't want. Lol. Being more active and going for a make over won't hurt you and you might find you like it.

We as a mammal and a human naturally want the best as its natural... look at birds and fish etc

Society does it to sell stuff.

Because most people are just that shallow.

Oh cheer up and smell the coffee and cream cakes. James

I think it all has to do with the way people look at things. Lots of guys want the Barbie doll girl that's perfect, and girls want the Ken guy that's perfect. Lots of people want the hot pick. They want the trophy. I know how I feel about this. Its not the outside that matters, its what's on the inside that does. What about you? What do you think?