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Happiness

Are you happy and why? What does happiness mean to you?

By DiThor6
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Yes, because I learned how to stop making myself unhappy. For me, happiness is waking up every morning glad to be alive, instead of dreading the day ahead of me. Happiness is never spending another minute in depression. Happiness is the total, permananent, and irreversible independence of my emotional buoyancy from my material circumstances, no matter how inadequate or even dangerous they may become.

Thanks for asking.

How about you?

skado Level 8 Feb 1, 2019

Every night when I lay down to sleep I say, “If I die tonight, I’m okay with that” have yet to wake up unhappy in the 10 years since stating this nightly mantra.

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Just helping others and feeling loved

Amisja Level 8 Feb 1, 2019

Feeling loved or even just cared about makes all the difference.

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I'm happy because I can do what I love to do. In my case, it's mostly literature. I started a bucket list to read all the classics I never read when I was younger. I'm in a situation now where I can give so much of my time to my 'hobby'. Happiness to me means an inner glow felt from being full of the wonder of the world written down on paper. I'm working my way through Shakespeare's Henry VI trilogy for the second time and have to stop from time to time and shake my head and wonder at the genius of the man. That's happy.

brentan Level 8 Jan 31, 2019
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Im predominantly a happy person. There are alwsys struggles in life. I choose not to hold onto the negative for too long. Im not wired to anyway. I have a pretty good life. Ive got a good job a decent house amazing kids that are doing well. I recently foundva special person to share my life with so life is pretty good for me at the moment.

Wendiw Level 7 Feb 1, 2019

Fantastic!! Hope it stays good for you.

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I don't think I'm especially happy. I straddle the line between contentment and discontentment, but I think I lean ever so slightly toward the positive. But I don't think happiness and sadness are extensions of contentment and discontentment, respectively; they seem like they exist on a separate layer. I can be content yet have moments of sadness. And I can be discontent but experience bouts of happiness. I'd liken degree of contentment to my general diet, and degree of happiness to my occasional dessert. To continue with that labored food metaphor, I'm generally slightly pleased with my regular meals, and I'm slightly displeased with the treats. But some meals are disgusting and some treats are delicious.

resserts Level 8 Feb 1, 2019

I agree and very well stated

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I am dealing with some health and financial issues but I can say Yes.. i am happy. Life doesn't have to be perfect for me to be happy. It's never been perfect...but l have been in better health and finance while less happy. It's about the people you surround yourself with I believe.

I am just recovering from years of health issues and financial strain. I have never felt better then now and I stopped worrying or thinking about money. I literally screamed it out to the universe “f money” and I literally have had no money problems since. Good luck and I hope things will get better for you soon.

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Feeling that I am making a contribution. Not because I am an especially good person but just because you get too old for personal wants to mater much anymore.

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Like everything else in life you have to learn to be happy, that takes practice, and when you first try you may find that you suck at it, so you keep practicing. I'm not advocating fake it till you make it, just find something that makes you happy, or potentially makes you happy, and give it a go.
I'm still working on it myself, and I'm getting better, on a scale of 1 to 10 I think I was at zero for about ten years, now I'll give it a 2.5, it would be easier if I made more money, but all the potential tax breaks keep going to rich people because we feel ...sorry? for them?
I don't know why we do what we do.

Novelty Level 8 Feb 1, 2019

Maybe and this is just a suggestion...forget the money...money is the root of all evil and will make you unhappy especially if you think you need more. I bet you live a very successful life without more money.

@DiThor That story about money being the root of all evil is a vicious lie created by people with plenty of money explaining why you don't want any. I've been late on my rent six times out of the last 12 months. frequently I have to choose between making late payments or being able to eat until the next paycheck shows up, and I've put off buying badly needed shoes for two years, not to mention skipping my diabetes medication on a regular basis to keep from going under. Money is NOT the root of all evil, poverty is the root of all evil.

@Mortal welcome the club. I hope it gets better for you. Was where you are at for years and just now slowly coming out of it. I’m 1/2 a paycheck from being homeless...not one paycheck...but 1/2. I just don’t care anymore. And is evil because poverty is defined by . And if we lived in a society with no , where barter and services were traded instead...there would be no poverty because we all have skills that others do not. And you should be getting your life-saving medicine for as far as I’m concerned.

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I am miserable right now, an emotional wreck, my life is really fucked up at the moment, yet I'm still generally happy. Why?...I was dead and then I wasn't. Shit like that will focus you. Make you realize what's important and what's not important!

Acknowledging our mortality will do that to us. Glad you’re still around.

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Absolutely. I choose to be.
Loving those around me, loving myself, being ok with who & where I am in my life.

Heidi68 Level 8 Jan 31, 2019
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For me, it means accepting who I am, warts and all. It's not about eliminating sadness, because that's impossible, our feelings aren't things we can turn on and off like a faucet. But allowing what I'm feeling and knowing that I'm still okay.

bleurowz Level 8 Feb 8, 2019
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I am genuinely happy. I consider happiness going to bed with a clean conscience. I have surrounded myself with good people, I tell my loved ones how much they mean to me and I am kind and compassionate. Yes, I am happy.

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Happiness is a choice,....so I chose yes

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Yes. Very.

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Sometimes. I wish I were more so. I am good at portraying happiness, but my life is not where I thought it would be at this point. I have moments of real joy and I try to get as much mileage out of those moments as I can.

Hope you will feel better soon...one day at a time. You are in a deep freeze right now with your weather!! Brrrrrr stay warm!

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Yes because I have what a need. A loving family, lovely spouse and kids, a job I enjoy, a yard to tinker in, animals to cheer me up and lets not forget a Jeep. I became happy when I stopped chasing the "MORE". When you always want more, you can never be happy.

AlexRam Level 7 Feb 1, 2019

That is so fabulous!

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I'm pretty happy, but I'm also brutally honest about myself, and that comes across as negativity to others. I haven't quite mastered "acting" happy for the sake of other people. I am truly happy, no faking, when I'm with my grandsons.

Honesty is never a negative stay true to yourself and honest with others. I admire honesty in people.

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Pretty much. I find purpose on the things I can control and understand there are others out of my control so I don't sweat those. Of course I deal with struggles like anybody else but that's just part of the journey.

Experience is the best teacher.

@DiThor yeah, for the most part.

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Mix emotions,lots of negativity coming to my way but i stand still and make my day right and bright? at the end of the day happiness is within me?

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I think I’m happy because I’m content with my life and where I’m at in my life. My life is very relaxed calm and very comfortable. I truly wish others the same.

DiThor Level 6 Jan 31, 2019
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