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Are positive illusions a necessary condition for being happy?

Psychologists coined the expression "depressive realism", because most normal people (i.e. those not suffering from any mental disorder) look at the world and also at themselves through rose-tinted glasses: They believe that they are "above average" in most categories ; they do not think that certain risks apply to them , even if statistics should teach them otherwise ; they are inclined to see the future brighter than it is ; they consider themselves to be more attractive than others perceive them ... and so on.

There is only one type of people who view themselves and the world more or less like it is: those who are mildly or moderately depressive (not those with major depression, of course).

Therefore it seems to be true that we need a certain amount of positive illusions to lead a happy life. Those of us who adopt scientific evidence and nothing but scientific evidence as their personal yardstick of truth are dooming themselves to depression and hopelessness and a sense of all-pervasive absurdity.

As Albert Camus wrote: "Man feels within him the longing for happiness and for rationality. The absurd is born of this confrontation between the human need and the unreasonable silence of the world” -

So, do we have to keep telling ourselves some edifying (but delusional) stories (whether they feature some supernatural entities or not is of secondary importance) to overcome the deafening silence of the meaningless world? I think so.

Matias 8 Apr 20
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I find very little in the world that depresses me...I can be empathetic and compassionate but it does not affect my happiness.

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Not finding your "real world" very appealing......lived with my ex for 33+ years, he saw things your way and it was Grim!

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I think to a certain extent they are necessary, although I believe that we basically fall into two categories of personality type....optimists and pessimists. Those of us who identify as pessimists can probably fit your description of having “depressive realism”. I think those of us who have answered yes to the question you pose....like me, are probably optimistic by nature. I suspect those who answered no, may fall into the other personality group, and are pessimists by nature. I may be an optimist, but Im also a realist and know that sometimes I indulge in wishful thinking and escape the reality of truly awful situations by concentrating my mind on more positive events. Some may dismiss this as not facing reality, but to me it’s a way of finding perspective.. By deflecting my thoughts to the more positive, I believe I can weigh up both sides of any situation and can see the benefits as well as the demerits in most things. I don’t need any supernatural entities to help me find a meaning to my life, my life is meaningful because I enjoy being alive, every day brings some happiness with it, even when I’m feeling grief or sadness...it’s not a blanket condition...but transient sadness. If we look for the joy we will find it, it’s all around us, in our friends and nature, it’s up to us to do so, that is my belief.

@Matias I mistook what you meant....it’s the other way around then! Sorry, I will edit my remarks,

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I guess it depends where you start. People are born with a variety of dispositions. I think that those of us who see things more realistically do need something in order to gain a happier footing. Not sure if illusions are the thing.

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Yes.

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