Yes!! Ugh, I was dating a girl and she ultimately said one of the biggest negatives in our relationship was that I didn't believe in god. She was christian and so much so that she felt guilty for even dating a girl. She herself thought same-sex relationships were wrong. Like wtf?? lol So I said bye! I'm not about to argue with that one. Funny thing is, I was really good to her and months later she wanted me back. No thanks!! haha! Great question!
Yes. We had been dating for about three months before religion came up. I usually don't bring it up first. Living in rural northeast Alabama it's just a given that you're dating a Christian.
So one Sunday morning after I had spent the night on Saturday she asked me if I wanted to go to church with her. When I explained I was a card carrying atheist, she asked me to leave and never come back.
I recently got divorced over the issue. I have my degree in religion, but I am atheist. My now ex wife became a huge fan of new age spirituality, and it became a divisive force in our relationship. I am not innocent in the situation. She knew the first day we met that I was atheist, and fairly knowledgeable on topics of religion and spirituality, but I was not supportive at all.
She would tell me she saw a ghost, or had a psychic dream, and I didn't have the best responses. I would try and be polite, and just say, "that's nice." She would say I don't believe her, but of course I don't believe her. But she equated that with me calling her a liar. Then I would offer alternate possibilites, or ask difficult questions regarding the repercussions if her claims were correct, which she did not like.
She would say she accepts my views, so why can't I accept hers? The problem with that is people are unaware that some things are incompatible. She cannot really accept my views and then actually expect me to accept hers, since by definition, I do not believe in what she believes. I can respect her as a person, but I cannot respect her views.
Anyways, I have mental health issues, so adding ghosts, fatalistic premonitons of a future that hasn't yet happened, and things of the sort really was worstening my condition. I told her if this was truly important to her, then I do not think we can continue together. She said, "You are asking me to choose between you and God?" I said essentially yes. I am here for you, I love you, and I treat you like my goddess. You are the world to me. I do not need a deity. I would hope that you and I could have that dedication to one another.
Unfortunately, God was too important. I wish I could have been okay with her pursuing her own spiritual path, but it was something so opposite of who I am at my core. It exacerbated my anxiety. Boiled down, it appears to many that I was trying to force my beliefs upon her, and that is what ruined the marriage. There is some truth to that I guess, but I entered the marriage being fully honest about my disdain for religion and spirituality. I do not force the issue with ANYONE though. I do not try to convert people. I think people should be free to do as they please. However, for me, I need my partner and I to be on the same page. We have shared living space, so I would like for us to live in the same plane of reality as well.
I hope she is happy and finding what she looked for. I hope I can find a woman to share my life with who has similar ideas to me. I know some people make interfaith relationship works, but it does not seem suitable for me.
No, but it WAS a contibuting factor in ME leaving one of MY partners. I'm Jewish by birth, right? And this partner KNEW this when we got together. Five years into the relationship, hy gets weird about it and starts telling me about hys religious background in college. I'm like, ok, so you were a Christian, you feel like need to start going to church again, maybe this can be a GOOD thing for you....then things get REALLY creepy and crazy, when hy starts suggesting hy can "baptist me" in the shower. I got the f%ck outta dodge....
No, but I once knew a girl that was really sweet and pretty. We were friends, but not close close friends. She was super religious supposedly. She didn't like cursing. She always referenced God. I would have dated her if it wasn't for all that. I might have dated her regardless of that lol. It just never came about. One time she told me that if she wasn't in a relationship in a few years that she wanted to have kids with me. Well thanks for that "compliment" lol. I don't know if she was serious or not. It was insulting anyway.