Yes, I did try that site, and got absolutely no results. I’m done with straight dating sites. The men are damaged and desperate to get laid but can’t really, come from lots of relationship trauma and have little interest in the person across from them. It was sad and big time waste of time. Made me feel lonelier.

Sounds like a boy of 17. I was never married, so banging heads is something I look forward to. Sorry you never got to do this when you were younger, but this is the classic profile of a perennial narcissist. Men have it different online than women. YOu can be old, ugly, stupid and still get women desperate enough to spend time with you. Not true for women. But you sound specifically like you’re simply reliving the carelessness of youth. Good for you. But not in the least what I’m looking for. I’m looking for someone to come home to and spend my years with. Someone who is there for me and for whom I am there. Not random dating. Done that all my life, and the superficiality of it is sad and lonely. Unless of course, you’re an asshole who only cares about himself. No disrespect, but this is boring to me.

Love this. I’m so glad you’re questioning. I haven’t figured anything out, but I sure will let you know if I do. For me there are many advantages to being single, but being alone is not one of them. As we age, the random social life we once had disappears. Everyone couples up and there’s often literally no one to do things with. The isolation can be very daunting. I just wish I had someone to talk to, most of the time. Coworkers aren’t enough. You need a homeboy or homegirl who’s got your back and for whom you can be that person. That’s what I seek.

@ponygecko Very well said. I'm looking for some kind of strong connection too but not sure I trust myself to go about it the right way at the moment. It can be hard finding someone with the emotional depth and honesty to trust even if I was ready.

Fer reals! Not sure why you ask, but that’s a daily chore.

@ponygecko Many years ago I met a woman who was very attractive. She invited me to her home. The house had a bad "cat stink" which she obviously could not smell. I couldn't use the bathroom because of an overflowing litter box. I left and never went back. My point was that you may not realize that the cat odor is in your house, your car, and on your clothes. You may be having relationship problems because of the cat stink.

@nicknotes my mom is over at my house every week and would be sure to tell me if that were the case. Thanks for your concern, but I would also point out that it's your responsibility to tell her why you can't stand being in her house, if you care about the relationship and about her happiness apart from your own. So...Uh, no. Very few men even make it to my house, but I'm sure they would have told me if litter odor were a problem.

@ponygecko Sure I was generalizing....your cat may smell fine.

@nicknotes and frankly, I find this line of inquiry bizarre. I invite you to go prey on someone else.

@ponygecko Sure....

Thanks for your honesty. I really like plain talk. I can understand that.

I hear you, Rugglesby.

well said, in fact, you can be more lonely being with the wrong person.