Perhaps this is a little strange, but I find that sometimes a relationship lasts longer than it should because both of the people involved did not get past the dating part. Going out on dates and having fun is great but it alone is not enough for a lasting relationship. I have no idea how to figure this out other than having limits and keeping to them. Honesty, faithfulness, truth, compassion, there is much that needs to exist for a relationship to last. I once had a great re;lationship with a woman and I though we got along great, it took me 4 years to figure out that though she could very easily been the love of my life, we could not actually succcessfully live together. Boy did that hurt. Nothing ventureed nothing gained. What an experience as I went into a depression that lasted longer than the relationship. To this day I do not know if I had the information to figure this out sooner. Age does help, the older you get the less shit you are willing to put up with. This is good. Life is a journey for sure. Don't know what else to say.

It makes me very sad to hear of these types of relationships . I have been married 59 years and there were difficult times but we worked together to solve them. One thing is we always trusted each other always kept separate checking accounts with both names on them and never criticised each others purchases. I loved boats she loved clothes and another degree They all worked for me She was always beautiful.

One word... Friendship

It's not you. It's not me. We are not doormats. Boundaries are good and healthy. Your relationships are ending quickly because you know you deserve better, and you're not going to waste your precious time on some guy who is looking for another mommy instead of an equal. (I'm projecting, feel free to tell me I'm way off base if you like.) We're doing what is good for us, and it's about damn time!