What I'm hearing is that Independence isn't attractive because he's threatened. We can be strong for ourselves. If a man would open up his mouth, to ask us what we need from them, then it would not be a mystery.

Me, I go take sewing and quilting classes, but im all thumbs. I got super rough hands from working on cars all day and im learning. I might need lots of help. Or take like a cake decorating class, and damn. I must be all rusty or something. Better show me how to squeeze that thing, make the florets. Im all thumbs.

I see. So it has to be an energy independence contest? I work in a car parts factory. Cant stand beer. Im a polymath, not sure what people mean when they vaguely mention they are "interested in sex" who isnt? I think what you are seeing is that most men don't want a partner that is 24/7 out to prove something, to prove that they can lift objects and fix sinks and change tires. Well done. I shall inspect this polar fleece blanket, while you cowboy up on some firewood. Or, the alternative is to do these things TOGETHER. This has not come up in any of the above comments, it has been "im independent, fuck it!" This is great, right up until you find you have a stranger or noone holding your hand when you got cancer one day, or just old.

I like independence in females, it’s sexy.

I am a 57 year old woman who has never been married. I own a 27 acre horse farm which I run by myself. Many of the bubba men around here seem almost offended that I don't ask for help and that I am successfully handling everything. One dude said, "She doesn't want help!" I could tell it wasn't a compliment!

Meh. Forget them and find a guy who likes you how you are.