Lol. Okay, I'll start pointing my knife in my direction instead of outward. Should do wonders for my mental health.

Good question. I guess for me "spiritual" is things that exist but that we can't really study directly, like thoughts and emotions. Emotions affect the physical world (tears, flushed cheeks, physical sensations, etc) but they aren't physical themselves.

@UpsideDownAgain Would you say, then, that you're looking for clarity of thought and healthy expression of emotion? I know those were examples and not necessarily the totality of what you consider spirituality, but it sounds like there might be things like meditation or various relaxation techniques to focus your thoughts and channel your emotions.

Sam Harris and others have lauded certain drugs, which seem to have a profound effect on the mind in some interesting ways. In particular, certain psychedelics seem to help break habits and patterns of behavior that are unhealthy. Different drugs have different effects, though that also means that potential benefits also come with potential harms. (I'm not advocating for or against drug use; I'm just spitballing.)

I guess for me, given your understanding of spirituality, I'd have to say I don't do a lot directly. But I do try to focus my mind in certain ways, to find some little things that help me relax. I spend a lot of time in my head already, but I'm not especially good at meditation. I've tried it, and it just feels ineffective — but, as I understand it, mediation usually takes some practice to start seeing benefits. I guess I'm just impatient.

On my daily commute to and from work (driving about 50 minutes each way), over the last year or so I have turned off the radio and have instead been allowing my mind to wander some of the time and I've also been using that time to memorize poetry and other passages. (I recently finished memorizing The Raven by Edgar Allan Poe, and that took me a few months. I've finally got it so I don't stumble [much] over it when reciting. That's a long poem, though — about eight to ten minutes to recite at an appropriate pace.)

I do practice an occasional breathing technique to calm myself, which can be good when I'm feeling anxious or when I'm just trying to relax for sleep. It's a 4-7-8 breathing pattern: a count of four to inhale, a count of seven to hold the breath, and a count of eight to exhale fully. It's remarkable how doing that a few times can release tension. In this case, it's probably physiological to start but that in turn affects emotion.

I tried to research those three consonances and find nothing specific, though I think I understood what you are talking about in general terms.

You practice harmonious thoughts and beliefs that reinforce each other and avoid thoughts and beliefs that are out of accord. Odd that we hear all about dissonance and seldom talk about consonance.

@WilliamFleming
You’ve got the right idea. We all know about Festinger’s Cognitive Dissonance, but Festinger himself also talked about it in contrast to Cognitive Consonance.

For my purposes it’s a concerted effort to bring worldview into alignment with verifiable reality; a never perfect, and never finished project, but one that has hidden benefits.

Social Consonance is a mindfulness of our natural tendency toward xenophobia, and a practiced effort to replace it with a focus on commonality. Then followed by a gentle effort, where appropriate, to build wholesome relationship on that common ground.

Adaptive Consonance is a practice aimed at awareness of the effects of evolutionary mismatch, and the disciplines that help resolve mismatch disorders.
[theconsonant.org]