A grandfather of a student at the college which is my current assignment called yesterday to put some toward his granddaughter's tuition. He was very chatty. I figured he's lonely with the pandemic and didn't shoo him off the phone. He talked quite a bit, got directions so he could tell her how to look up what her balance was because I couldn't tell him that. As he hung up, I figured it was my good deed for the day.
This afternoon the phone rings and I recognize the voice. He said he called back because he wondered if I was always so cheerful. "Life's too short to go through it in a bad mood," I told him. He appreciated that, said he wanted to pay the remainder of her tuition. "she's a lucky granddaughter, hope she appreciates you." He told me she was a great girl, cares about others, volunteers, etc. He got chatty again and I tried to wind it down because I'm getting uncomfortable at this point. Not that he's being personable or prying because he wasn't. Then he blurted out that he thinks I have a sexy voice....sorry, sir, gotta go, my other line is ringing! She's paid off this term, no need to call back and I'll be gone next term.
This happens to me a lot.
Seriously? You live four states away dude and you don't know a durn thing about me other than my voice. SMDH.....
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Let me get this straight: someone was attracted to your voice — and that's a problem? Imagine a life where nobody is attracted to anything about you. SMDH...
BitFlipper
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Apr 1, 2021
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Really bro? He was done with her. The bill got paid. He called back to solely to flirt with her. And you think she should be flattered? In what world is that appropriate? You keep shaking your damn head, I am, about you.
The point is DISCOMFORT. If someone is making me uncomfortable then goes to a point like this, ON A JOB related phone call, neither you nor anyone has the right to tell me that I was wrong to politely get off the call. It's not like I told him off, or was rude. You are in the wrong here and there is no way around that fact.
And this has always only happened to me while I was working. It is NEVER APPROPRIATE to hit on someone in this manner while they are working. PERIOD. Unless they're on a porn call in center, that is, then it's about consent.
SMDH, some men never learn.
@BitFlipper Your "point" came across as a personal attack. Harassment is not a compliment. SMDH
@BitFlipper You obviously have no idea what women go through. Carrying keys through fingers, verbal assaults that are not welcome, stalking, etc. It's not complimentary, most especially on the job. What would be more appropriate is just a thank you for making his goal of paying his granddaughter's tuition easy as I could following federal privacy laws. There is no need for it to get personal. It's ok to think these things, it's not ok to address a woman in this manner while they're on the job. Every woman I know deals with things on a regular basis that we shouldn't be expected to have to.
Now if he met me on the street, GOT TO KNOW ME A BIT FIRST, then it would have been accepted. Not while on the job, however. Women live in a world where inappropriate is the norm and we're expected to think it's a compliment. It's not....it just puts our guard up for possibly worse.
I think that was very sweet of you and, even with the rejection, you probably made the day of a lonely man who, if he has no other redeeming qualities, is generous enough to pay his grand's tuition.
If it makes it less smarmy for you, he could probably tell that you're more than just a sexy voice: you're patient, and friendly, and gracious, and kind, so I can see why he would want to know more about you. I suspect not a lot of people are as considerate with him.
Lauren
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Apr 1, 2021
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She's obviously a nice person and he may be as well. He got a little creepy there.
I feel your dissapointement 
One moment u feel like u doing something right by been friendly to a lonely grandad , and next moment u feel like where is the vomit bucket .
U handled it right in my opinion . And u did right to be friendly too at first phone call .
Pralina1
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Apr 1, 2021
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