Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

I think everyone experiences pain differently so there is no way to try and measure one pain against another - so I won't even comment on that.

However, I was recently cheated on (like, I found out about it THIS PAST MONDAY from the other woman who was kind enough to let me know what was happening once she realized I existed). I haven't had an appetite, I'm questioning everything, including myself....and am so confused because now he continues to pursue me even though he told me, through all the apologies, that he wanted to try to be "friends".

I've been through a lot of ridiculous shit both with loss of parents and loved ones, and in romantic relationships - I divorced my ex husband when I found out he was having a 4 year affair WITH HIS BIRTH MOTHER.

But I'll tell ya what, this situation has me confused as hell.

Betrayal by someone you've made your heart vulnerable to is awful. Whether it be friend, lover, or family member. It creates a wall around your heart and affects your ability to trust. The blame belongs to the betrayer though, and the loss is theirs as well.

its not the cheating that hurt. It was the constant lying and trying to gaslight me. It was the theft of time and the murder of trust. He could have said "hey, I want to bang this person" and I'd have been, "use a condom and don't do it in my bed." no harm, no foul, and the sad thing was, he knew it. All he had to do is say so up front, before the act.

There is nothing more devastating. I had a telephone call once, upon coming home from work, from the mother of the girl my husband was sleeping with. She suspected he was married. Bad gut punch!

Oh there's worse, in my case anyway.

Yeah, it sucks.