I've asked a bunch of women with grown kids the following:
- If you could go back in time, would you still want to have children knowing what you know now?
Most of them say no.
If I could go back in time and choose to have children knowing what I know now, would I?
My answer is NO.
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I wouldn't wish having kids on my worst enemy. Looking at the costs (implicit and explicit, financial and otherwise), it's no wonder so many religious have historically said it is a duty to have kids... many people might have opted out if that wasn't the case.
PadraicM
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Nov 15, 2018
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Religion had zero to do with it for me, just perceived family pressure. The duty is obvious now. Need to create more tithers. It might have made sense a few hundred years ago.
I never wanted them. I don't remember any explicit pressure and once my sisters had kids, any implicit pressure dropped below zero. My wife (now ex) came with me to watch the procedure. Zero regrets... 
I love my dog but wouldn't be willing to deal with a puppy. I always adopt adult dogs.
Hell no!!! I have my fur kids and that's all i need.
MissaDixon
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Nov 12, 2018
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It is indeed a lifelong commitment...most of my friends now are still involved with grandkids...we never go to any kid events with them...time to cultivate friendships with kid-free folks so we can do adult things now...and, I have never regretted my decision to not have kids...I love the stress free life and my time and money.
thinktwice
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Nov 12, 2018
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