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Am I the only one that finds it hard to accept a compliment? I sit there and either stare at them like they're nuts or I dismiss the compliment with something like "no, not really" and they think I'm nuts or being stuck up. Seriously, it makes me feel uncomfortable.

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I have learned to smile say Thank you even though my brain is going at ten thousand miles per hour to
1 find an exit
2 ask them why they are lying to me
3 wondering what they want from me
4 confused
5 trying to think of something nice to say about them even if I already had something to say because now I have forgotten it
6 wondering why I am there
7 working out a response that is socially acceptable and not self deprecating
8 wondering what is going to happen next
etc

Budgie Level 8 Mar 2, 2020
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Compliments are extremely rare for me, so when they come along I try to embrace them privately for a moment before dismissing them.

I believe I deserve them, but I don't believe they are sincere or that they come from a place of honesty. When directed toward me, they are as meningful as a participation award.

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Not the only one, especially compliments on things, or property. All I can usually think then is "Nothing to do with me".

Me too. Half the time I feel like looking around to make sure they're not talking to someone else.

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I don't like it when the complements are bullshit and I don't give them unless I really think that they are deserved .

Besalbub Level 8 Mar 1, 2020
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Accepting a compliment is a skill that has to be learned. I think most if us are taught to be modest so even if you're not an introvert it might be hard to take a compliment. Try to smile and say thank you and then leave it at that.

Booklover Level 7 Mar 1, 2020
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I generally don't like comments unless I agree with them. But I have learned that it is better to just thank them and refrain from correcting them. After all it is just an opinion, maybe not even a real one, but usually given in a sincere attempt to be nice or friendly. So, I take it for its "intent" value. Of course if it rendered in a condescending or ingratiating manner, then they can fuck off.

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Complements are awkward. I do all those things or over explain the thing they complimented.

MsAl Level 8 Mar 1, 2020

That's exactly what I do! Whatever they compliment me on anything I point out why they're wrong...I can never just say 'THANK YOU' 🙄

@TheoryNumber3 I can't ever just say "thank you" either. In the back of my mind I'm saying "But why? Do you know what an awkward position you've put me in" lol

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Nope it's more common than you think

bobwjr Level 10 Mar 1, 2020
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No... no you're not 🙂

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