I hadn't done anything "flirty" or sexual to anyone, since I don't feel sexual attraction for any person or gender until after over a year of close contact.

Yet Thai women continue to believe we are an item. Two bosses and two supervisors, beautiful, married, etc., and any number of others, have not only decided that we are a couple, but took revenge on me when I seemed clueless to this belief. I just went about my teaching duties, and only engaged in small talk.

But lest I blame Thai culture, this has happened all my life. Now that I am aware I'm a partial transmale I have a different understanding why a childhood US girl friend stopped talking to me when I got a boyfriend, and never talked to me again. I've always been a neutral sort, without awareness of sex, so I'm guessing my male energy is the problem.

When I moved to Thailand in 2010, several of my daughter's grown friends messaged me on Facebook to proclaim their love for me since childhood. But several of my son's friends, and several of my Kentucky neighbors, did the same, and since I only thought of them as kids when I knew them, I don't get it.

I never in my wildest imagination saw these people as romantic prospects. But maybe the problem is that people on the asexual spectrum don't "get" sexual attraction and the part it plays in the lives of normal people. I can't imagine it myself, so don't understand the reactions of others.

If this is the case, my being on the asexual spectrum is a blessing, apparently.

Thank you! You made me finally look up "demisexual". When I told an old friend I am pansexual, he started calling me a skilletsexual, and then asked me if I was non-stick. I won't say how far I ran with that one.

I'm completely out-of-the loop. I was doing BGLT (I may have CDO) activism in the late 80s/early 90s, People seemed pretty polarized. Hopefully things have changed. My trans-niece's friends (late-teens to mid-twenties) mostly seem to be very open and accepting, but they are across the orientation spectrum.

Some women would be pleased to be your experimental kiss. I'd volunteer, except that I have HSV-1. I think as long as you're upfront with your intentions and goal, women hopefully will at least respond civilly.