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Maybe we need to quit putting sociopaths in power

BudFrank comments on Oct 22, 2018:

Politicians are pretty much power hungry by definition. Unfortunate but true.

Thoughts on marriage : There seems to be many in the community who are anti marriage.

BudFrank comments on Oct 22, 2018:

Some people stay in a bad marriage just because it’s so hard to get out and it has a negative connotation. In a non-marriage relationship, people sometimes stay too long, but you stay because you’re committed to the person and not because of a piece of paper. I’ve been married twice: 35 years and nine months. The second one had anger issues and I learned enough from the first to get out more quickly. I don’t plan to marry again, but if the right person comes along I would consider it.

"Finding Yourself" is not really how it works...

BudFrank comments on Oct 22, 2018:

Exactly!

Size matters, especially when it comes to condoms. [lgbtqnation.com]

BudFrank comments on Oct 22, 2018:

I would use a smaller one. I’ve looked in the past. Maybe it’s time to look again

Can you answer without using a family member.?

BudFrank comments on Oct 22, 2018:

Oldest continuous friend is from 10 years ago. Pamela (not Pam, as my ex found out) has been supportive through a difficult divorce. We only met once a few years ago. She’s in Florida and is married.

What are three words you wish you heard when you were younger that you tell yourself now?

BudFrank comments on Oct 21, 2018:

“I love you.” And a close second would be “I accept you (as you are).”

Second day in a row that the sun has come out to play.

BudFrank comments on Oct 21, 2018:

Enjoy!!! Colder and windy in NC today

Well friends how are you?

BudFrank comments on Oct 21, 2018:

I hope the surgery does well and you get some pain relief. I know that has to wear on you.

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), how afraid are you of meeting someone IRL for the first ...

BudFrank comments on Oct 20, 2018:

2. Would meet in a public place with little hesitation

Aside from this site, what are other good online dating sites??

BudFrank comments on Oct 20, 2018:

I have been out there for several years and still not found the best relationship, may not be the best resource for this. I do like OkCupid. They have A lot of questions you can answer that will help fine-tune your choices and other people understanding you, including religion

Now that the Mega Millons is officially over 1 billion dollars for the jackpot, if any of you won ...

BudFrank comments on Oct 20, 2018:

I would form a trust, and share control with my kids and a few close friends. I would a reasonable income and invest the rest. I would make significant donations to the Red Cross

What is LOVE?

BudFrank comments on Oct 19, 2018:

Love is complicated. It is a spontaneous feeling. It is also a choice: a choice to spend time with someone else, to prioritize them, to use whatever your love language is ( and what you oercieve theirs is if you think in those terms) to give to them. Sex may come and go, although it tends to bring a couple together. He feelings may always be present. But a choice to make a person your priority can be lifelong.

I am back and I am an IDIOT. ?

BudFrank comments on Oct 19, 2018:

You look great!

How to you handle being single in a partnered world?

BudFrank comments on Oct 18, 2018:

I find this difficult too. When I got family reunions or weddings, it’s sad to be the only one of my siblings without a companion. Sometimes I’ve found a friend to take, but it’s often somebody different each time.

Happy humpday

BudFrank comments on Oct 10, 2018:

Boring gray

I think he's right

BudFrank comments on Sep 21, 2018:

Bugs bunny and Daffy Duck. Might keep him away from Inspector Gadget

What's in a name

BudFrank comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Except hurricanes are not just named for women any more. They alternate between women and men

What's in a name

BudFrank comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Except hurricanes are not just named for women any more. They alternate between women and men

I was raised as a Fundamental Baptist.

BudFrank comments on Sep 12, 2018:

Glad you’re out of that situation. Mine wasn’t as bad but still have issues.

When you were young?

BudFrank comments on Sep 10, 2018:

After my older sister and I played around, I drew a picture of her “stuff” and gave it to a friend at school. He turned it into the teacher. She was Beulah displeased with me to say the least

Have you ever been on a first date with someone and found that you have nothing in common yet the ...

BudFrank comments on Sep 9, 2018:

As a man I have been on a number of first dates where they were interested but I wasn’t. It goes both ways. It may be the law of supply and demand here, in the eyes of the two people. It is probably being more picky. It may also just be different criteria the two have.

Have you ever been on a first date with someone and found that you have nothing in common yet the ...

BudFrank comments on Sep 9, 2018:

As a man I have been on a number of first dates where they were interested but I wasn’t. It goes both ways. It may be the law of supply and demand here, in the eyes of the two people. It is probably being more picky. It may also just be different criteria the two have.

[psychologytoday.com] Answers some questions some of us might have asked. Why do men betray?

BudFrank comments on Sep 9, 2018:

I saw and agree with an article I saw somewhere. whenever either side betrays it is because they want to renegotiate the agreement of the relationship. It is not satisfying for some reason and they cannot just talk about it for some reason. Personally I was stuck in a conservative Christian subculture hat wouldn’t even tolerate separation at one time. I betrayed by wife because I couldn’t stand the situation and wanted out. It got the desired result but it was more pain that if I had tackled it directly at first.

Picture of the day 😉 Add a picture of something you like.

BudFrank comments on Sep 9, 2018:

Kayaking on Lake Huron when I went to see my kids

Time for sex

BudFrank comments on Sep 9, 2018:

It varies with the partner I’ve had (in not in a relationship right now). On the average 20 minutes for each.

Do you ever think it's appropriate for someone to give up on finding true love?

BudFrank comments on Sep 9, 2018:

I know some who have given up. Myself, I keep trying, and sometimes find interest, but I’m somewhat commitment-phobic and wonder if I’ll ever get into a satisfying relationship.

Continue the game with your name!

BudFrank comments on Sep 5, 2018:

I am Bud but not wiser

Who's with me?

BudFrank comments on Sep 2, 2018:

Just an hour away for me at the moment.

Most recent photo on your phone or computer. No cheating. ?

BudFrank comments on Aug 24, 2018:

Result of one of the stupid tests they throw out at you on Facebook.

Dating after 50

BudFrank comments on Aug 9, 2018:

I know the feeling. I’ve been single for 8 years and finding a good match for religion, especially in the south, is very difficult.

What's the most unusual/unique place you've had a "romantic encounter"?

BudFrank comments on Jul 28, 2018:

I fingered my girlfriend while I was driving and got her off. We regularly had a spot just off a hiking trail in a state park. Also in my conversion van in a grocery store parking lot.

Do sacred sites move you?

BudFrank comments on Jul 7, 2018:

The architecture is often awe-inspiring, whether churches, cathedrals or ruins. I find it sad in churches of any type when people are worshipping, because I feel they’re grasping at straws that I tried in the past but no longer believe in, if I ever did.

Is there a difference between a southern atheist and a northern atheist?