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Answers some questions some of us might have asked. Why do men betray?

Mooolah 8 Aug 18
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I can not imagine a lack of fidelity on my part. I asked to be released from my vows. Had I not been granted that request? I would have taken my vows back as an announcement instead of a request. But I would have to be up front. That has been my down fall & my salvation. Ethics.

Mooolah Level 8 Sep 13, 2018
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I saw and agree with an article I saw somewhere. whenever either side betrays it is because they want to renegotiate the agreement of the relationship. It is not satisfying for some reason and they cannot just talk about it for some reason.

Personally I was stuck in a conservative Christian subculture hat wouldn’t even tolerate separation at one time. I betrayed by wife because I couldn’t stand the situation and wanted out. It got the desired result but it was more pain that if I had tackled it directly at first.

BudFrank Level 8 Sep 9, 2018
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Some men betray because they lack the integrity to rise above their baser instincts. But not all men. This article is cynical and sexist.

dare2dream Level 7 Aug 19, 2018
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A past series and a number of books have gone into this in depth. It's part of our genetic make-up. Some of us are able to get past many of these basic instincts.

JackPedigo Level 9 Aug 18, 2018
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A politically incorrect cold fact is....we get bored.

IamNobody Level 8 Aug 18, 2018

So strange eliminates boredom? Doesn't it all feel the same upon the conclusion? I mean it is all basically the same equipment. How is one port different than another?

Reminds me of a Richard Pryor comedy skit. He tells his wife that he wants to go out and get some strange and she tells him to grow a couple inches and she'll give him some.

@Kojaksmom G'day, what is "strange" apart from people who think that rampant McCarthyism type behaviour is beneficial to the world?

@Countrywoman I would never objectify anything as "one" port. So your words not mine. Infidelities happen and had happen since the beginning of times, we cannot pretend they do not. The case in point here is why. I don't have all the answers, as no one does. However, infidelities is not necessarily a betray in the sense of stopping to care for someone. It works both ways, woman have infidelities too. All this get over when one understands the difference between sex and love.

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I think a lot of it has to do with the Madonna whore complex that most men seem to have. Women are either little wifey mommy breeders or whores. Men have no problem screwing for screwing sake and still claim to respect and be dedicated to little wifey. I'm glad I've given up on finding love. Mom was right, most women will always take care of men and most men will always take care of themselves. It also amazes me how many men claim monogamy is shit, but when his girlfriend or wife goes out and cheats he's all bent out of shape.

Kojaksmom Level 8 Aug 18, 2018

The madonna/whore theory applies to the christian ilk. Other cultures find the male has entitlement. testosterone = "needs" = entitlement

@Countrywoman yes true. It initially was a Freudian concept about mommy issues.

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typical Psychology Today. Overwritten, an attempt to explain intellectually what could be put in layman terms. Joe Bartender, Joe Accountant, Joe Butcher -- in other words, the man on the street -- isn't going to read this and doesn't care.

TheDoubter Level 9 Aug 18, 2018

But some of us read it & some of us care. Man on the street? Not my kind of man. & I don't care either. Just thought it was insightful for one man.

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Women betray also. Not the exclusive realm of men

sellinger Level 7 Aug 18, 2018

OMG. No one said it was. This is about why men betray not why both genders betray. Geeez.

@Countrywoman OK sorry ?

@Countrywoman : So why wasan't the article about "why do PEOPLE betray instead of why MEN betray? The article is sexist.

@dare2dream Because it is about MEN'S betrayal by a MAN.

Scientific studies actually indicate that females look at other males and are more likely to be unfaithful
To their Partners during ovulation. This is not an indicator that the human animal is not set up for monogamy even if it's short-term.

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