Agreed. I’m burnt out on telling men what I want or how to do it. It’s as though I need a 5 page essay on what exactly will happen if I entertain sex now

@KhaCR I’d read that young women encounter this same lack of knowledge. You seem to be confirming this. Young women: PLEASE quit faking it with men. Tell them when they don’t know what they’re doing. They’ve seen too much (erroneous) porn. The statistics are that few women achieve “vaginal orgasms”; most women only achieve orgasm via clitoral stimulation. I always recommend the book, “She Comes First”, by Ian Kerner, to men willing to discuss sex, if they seem to not know…especially when they complain that women don’t want to have sex. I assure them that women love sex, if the men know what they are doing. The younger they get educated, the happier older women will be. When he was 21, my son boasted to me that he had “been told how good he is”, I responded, “yeah, women lie like that all the time. If you have not researched women’s sexual arousal and ability to orgasm, you do not know what you are doing. And you should hire a professional to teach you.” I never heard anything more on the subject. [ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]

@MsKathleen You definitely read it wrong then. I know full well what to do and when to do it. I’ve never faked an orgasm as that would be just plain silly. I’ve literally asked “What about me?” That’s when I changed my range and started seeking older men. Used to love seasoned men that would teach me things but then I got old and learned too much so now I feel like a pretty pearl in a clam that never gets found. It’s frustrating when you’ve explored a great deal but can’t seem to find someone to explore with endlessly for whatever reason(s).

Believe me, since I became a mother, all I’ve done is shadow work and healed myself. I’m simply stating what I desire in a partner that seems next to impossible for me. It’s been over a year since I even engaged in sex and it was with a partner I was with before pregnancy so, nothing new and I’m a hermit now. No one comes over and I don’t go anywhere. I’ve cut just about everyone out of my life too as I realized most were interested in my life to laugh when I had hardships. No gets my energy now.

So, we’re just going to ignore the fact they falsified death records when it first happened? No matter what anyone says, I will not inject myself with unknown contents. If you are in fear of getting sick, then YOU get the vaccine but I’m sure they’ll convince you of much more.

I believe we're off topic.

I’ve mastered those exacts things from hard lessons but hey.. at least I’m not repeating them! Thanks

@KhaCR We all learn the hard way. At least you have learned. Some folks never do.

I have a tendency to get attached too quickly which is why I always distance myself in the beginning but when I fall for someone, it always ends and the last person that things ended with was the sexual partner that explored me and found the parts of me I didn’t know were there and now I can’t find satisfaction in average guys. Now that I’m older and have a child, it seems almost impossible to find a man of my criteria.

@KhaCR Welcome to the club !