Sounds like at least he was trying to be considerate, if clueless. Looks like you answered fairly but there are certainly worse folks in the world.

Wow

I think that's the problem with online dating. There's too many choices,Too many options, too many questions, too many plan B's and C's and D's......lol!

It seems dating and texting is a game I'll never understand ‍

I sort of had the same feeling when I was (once) on some sites. When I saw a woman who said her family came first I knew I would always be in 2nd, or 3rd, or 4th place. Also, I may have had a choice in selecting one specific person but had no choice in getting all the relatives. One reason I quite these sites.

short and sweet. good for you.

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"ok thank you for letting me know. I don't mind being your back-up, but just so you know, you will always be my back-up".

But for dating in general, this happens all the time. I turned out to be my grad school fiancee's backup plan, twice. And looking back, she pretty much told me so in so many words. More fool I.