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Fifth generation Angeleno who's done some time on the East Coast. Though I'm edging into the grayhead years, I still have aspirations (and unfulfilled ambitions). I enjoy talking about the ponderous with interested parties – small talk's not really my jam. I'm still co-raising a teenager so I don't have the luxury of taking myself too seriously. I feel stuff: I hope to meet others who do too.

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Five Finger Death Punch House of the rising Sun [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Mar 13, 2019:
Don't be fooled by the gargling vocals, crunching guitars, Spinal Tap sexism, and rehashed Mad Max tropes, scratch the surface and their *House of the Rising Sun* is pretty MOR. Reminds me of Disturbed's *Sounds of Silence* or Judas Priest's *Diamonds and Rust*. Still, *HotRS* is one of the greatest songs ever written no matter who does it. Here's something way thrashier. Better? Prob not but thrashier fo' sho. https://youtu.be/q9XNoU3tHqU
Open discussion. Zoroastrianism and the influence on Abrahamic religions.
Deiter comments on Mar 13, 2019:
I'd a workmate that was Zoroastrian. She was Indian (Zoroastrianism originated in Persia). Apparently, there are many who'd migrated going back long ago. (Prob to escape the Islamists.) Zoroastrians must be born into it, they're very exclusionary and insular, and they mos def weren't supposed to marry outside of the tribe. I think she got mated with a matchmaker or the like. We got pretty close in our time working together – literally one of the nicest people I've ever know – and she'd told me at the time that she'd done no dating and was a 24-26 y.o. virgin. She came to the U.S. to go to USC of all places, and then left a few years after grad school to end up in Dubai, not the friendliest place for non-Muslims. As with most traditions, you join-in bc your family demands it. She has a daughter of her own now that's being subject to all of the traditional rituals. I've got to believe they're a shrinking population, tho.
Seether - Nobody's Praying For Me [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Mar 13, 2019:
Am I the only one hearing *Heart-shaped Box*, outside of the whole god complex thing?
Chris Rock has a joke about most relationships not lasting, because it’s too hard to keep up the ...
Deiter comments on Mar 13, 2019:
I'd been going out w/ someone for a couple of months and was starting to fall in love with her. We were walking through a local shopping area, being affectionate, holding hands, when we happened upon her former boyfriend. The moment she saw him she abruptly let go of my hand. It's not like we were a secret and I'd met him a few times. She later apologized but it'd poisoned things for me. I didn't see her again.
Prince - Sometimes I Feel Like A Motherless Child (ft. Larry Graham) [youtu.be] Prince at his ...
Deiter comments on Mar 13, 2019:
Whatever else he did, and he's had heaps of praise heaped on him, I think he was underrated as a singer – and an amazing performer, obviously.
Mad About the Girl - Valerie June [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
Noel Coward! You might like these guys. They cover stuff from all over the place, usually keeping the arrangements interestingly minimal. I think they just started as a YouTube/My Space thing and then peaked a few years ago with a Toyota commercial. https://youtu.be/LNpwBpZUrzk https://youtu.be/OvYZMqQffQE
Wovenhand - As I Went Out One Morning [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
I've seen David Eugene Edwards many times, in all of his incarnations. I had a pic of him standing with us after a show but, alas, it went down with the phone.
Mongolian Rock. I discovered this by accident, love these guys. [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
They've also covered Joy Division's *Love Will Tear Us Apart* among others.
LONNIE MCFADDEN. MOTEN SWING. [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
I've met many people in Southern CA who've said, like Lonnie, that [whatever city they left] is a great place to be *from.*
ABDEL ALI SLIMANI. MOI ET TOI. [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
If you don't know about Natasha Atlas you should. She's sort of an East meets West as a Brit-Egyptian. She does Arabic music and James Brown. She's cool. I love this one: https://youtu.be/qf3Mvt1IQVk
I have been in this position many times. I beat the lid with a knife head, tried lightly with a ...
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
I've a grip pad thingie I use that often helps. It's the grip that seems to be the most challenging aspect, especially if your hands are wet from the kitchen or if your hands are small. I'd love to have one of these: https://www.carolwrightgifts.com/jar-and-bottle-opener-easy-grip-stainless-steel-can-opener/12469.cfm?key=5SCPE219=PaidSearch-_-GooglePLA-_-FreeShip-_-12469=aw.ds&=EAIaIQobChMIv7j1kan94AIVtv7jBx2PNAToEAkYBCABEgLiDvD_BwE#
Are you just ‘relationshopping’? Is a checklist getting in the way? [curiosity.com]
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
I hear a lot of that here. Checklists would seem to be limiting. But they may also have a certain necessity as you go deeper in with someone. Sometimes Mr/Ms Right isn't as important as Mr/Ms Right Now. And in that case, you can be more liberal with the *list.*
How flexible are you when it comes to relationships? In terms of how/what you're willing to change?...
Deiter comments on Mar 12, 2019:
Why not be flexible?✝︎ For someone who's LGBTQ+ and presumably gender fluid ("O"), why are you "pretty rigid?"   ✝︎ By *flexible* I don't mean not having boundaries, or to accept abuse, etc.
Post a song that instantly reminds you of high school
Deiter comments on Mar 11, 2019:
When I discovered Kansas as a teen (long before *Carry On Wayward Son*), I really thought I was onto something. Prog rock! So deep, profound, and technical – they must be geniuses! Later I'd discover that it's more often just 10 minutes of wanking in search of a melody. Anyway, this one still holds up even though the opening riff is direct rip from Frank Zappa's *Peaches and Regalia*. https://youtu.be/QmSdct1_Gfg
A favorite Jimi Hendricks quote.
Deiter comments on Mar 11, 2019:
I love this quote and though I believe Hendrix was a genius, I've always been dubious that his particular genius might've included the above. I did some googling and found this and it seems plausible: *William Gladstone, 1809-1898, once said (prior to Hendrix): "We look forward to the time when the Power of Love will replace the Love of Power. Then will our world know the blessings of peace."* *In addition, at around the same time that Jimi Hendrix said his words, Sri Chinmoy Ghose said, "When the power of love overcomes the love of power, then there will be true peace."* *While Jimi Hendrix may have been inspired by/influenced by the quotes of the others, the words "When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace" appear to be his own (or at least his own spin on theirs).*
A MUST WATCH! I warn ya, this is a tear-jerker. I am so proud of these brave and beautiful ...
Deiter comments on Mar 11, 2019:
"I'm so sorry..." Possibly the most well intended yet most useless words ever uttered. Also, thanks for deflating the foam on my cappuccino with my fat tears.
Good Morning Girls and boys, coffee is hot, kittie is fed!!!
Deiter comments on Mar 11, 2019:
Reminds me of a story Michael Caine told: The innkeeper at the hotel asked, "Do you have a good memory for faces? Because there's no mirror in the bathroom." We may be at that point where we'd be best to rely on memory.
Still one of my favorite stories.
Deiter comments on Mar 11, 2019:
You mean, like most people..?
Does the concept of human dignity need to be justified?
Deiter comments on Mar 10, 2019:
It's a great concept and if it were ever put in practice it might have glorious results. But, I'd argue, we're so many steps away from it as to render it impossible as anything but a pretty thought. - Why not give all life dignity (within reason)? - Jainists practice it in theory, or at least about as close as we've ever gotten - Among diginity's many enemies are Capitalism, religion, war, bigotry, neglect, guns, the denial of resources, and essentially any hierarchical system
Weird reasons you couldn't date someone: I had to break it off with someone because she looked too ...
Deiter comments on Mar 10, 2019:
I used to have an aversion to dating people who'd once dated people I knew. This came up quite a few times. I don't know why or where it came from other than probably some weird residual damage of patriarchy. I was also once discouraged from dating someone interested in me – and I her – because a mutual friend said it was a bad idea, even though she was the one who told me about her in the first place. Never trust anyone who can't stand the idea of their friends being happy. My two lessons: Take dating advice from insecure *friends* or patriarchy is stupid. Trust yourself.
I had a trully upsetting and shocking experience today. I just feel so angry about it. I have two ...
Deiter comments on Mar 8, 2019:
The first step is to listen. PoC, immigrants, women, LGBT's, and others will often have heartbreaking stories to tell. (I've heard many.) We all need to hear them. There was a viral story recently about some college kids who'd posted pics of their party cups arranged into a swastika on the table and Sieg Heiling for the camera. The school, I believe, has since arranged for a Holocaust survivor to come speak to them about her experience. If people would just shut up and listen, maybe some of these callous abuses would stop.
It took me a long time to understand what it means to forgive someone...
Deiter comments on Mar 8, 2019:
If you research the idea of *free will*, often people aren't "choosing" to hurt you as much as just replaying the (sometimes toxic) script in their heads. Mind you, that still doesn't make them suitable to be a fellow traveler. Is what they give more good than bad? That's probably where we should start. If you know anyone long enough, some part of your past together will be checkered. The worst part about growing older is that so many of the mysteries never really clear up. What we're left with is whether or not we're prepared to take a stand. To love or not to love, *that* is the question. Sometimes that means throwing more over the fence then you get back and whether it's worth it in the long run is entirely up to you. And maybe there's never really a definite answer.
This came up in my memories on Facebook. It's not THAT bad of a day, but I needed a chuckle.
Deiter comments on Mar 8, 2019:
Cute, sure, but they're camel cuzzes. They spit.
Not all relationships are the same. What made one of your relationships more memorable (hopefully ...
Deiter comments on Mar 8, 2019:
Thinking of how it used to be or what could've been is a game too easy to fall into. On those cold, dark nights it can be irresistible. I was talking to someone recently and was surprised to find that I'm not the only one who does this. Yet, we both agreed that however irresistible, it does the spirit little good. On those darker nights, for those elder of us it's easy to indulge the idea that we're past the point of making new memories worthy of matching the old ones. This is a spiritual black hole – to believe that is the ultimate surrender. So, I say that memories are a quagmire that I, for one, step into too easily. What we should be doing instead is planning. That'd be a much better use of our time.
NASA/GODDARD SPACE FLIGHT CENTER said today that: "The Milky Way weighs in at about 1.5 trillion ...
Deiter comments on Mar 7, 2019:
Milky Way, I feel you. I felt that way after my hoard of Xmas cookies.
What did you hear me say? Them's fighting words.
Deiter comments on Mar 7, 2019:
There's no statute of limitations on triggering. You can be years in and a word can still lead to the last conversation you'll ever have. Buddha would say we're too attached to the self, identity, and ego. To let go of that is, of course, easier said than done.
WWYD: What Would You Do? I had a first date last night. He was nice, but I am not feeling it at ...
Deiter comments on Mar 7, 2019:
Here's a professional response that shows up in my Inbox nearly daily: *After very careful consideration, at this time [I've] have decided to concentrate [my] attention on other candidates who[m] [I] believe best meet [my] current needs...* (The mofos can't even get the grammar right.)
As a nonbeliever, do you fear death?
Deiter comments on Mar 6, 2019:
Yes! It's the universal dread and the ultimate reason why religion exists at all.
A few gems from Christopher Hitchens [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Mar 6, 2019:
He was the da Vinci of the debate and the intellectual apocalypse for the faithful.
I encourage clients not to define “having sex” as intercourse, since there are so many paths to ...
Deiter comments on Mar 6, 2019:
And for friends of Jacko, even younger. Irreverence aside, I fully agree with the above. As I've got a 15 y.o. daughter at home (on weekends anyway), it's good to know. Though, prob best left for conversations with her mother.
Had a real "fail" on VD...and was perusing the videos when I came across this...from 2017..."Falling...
Deiter comments on Mar 6, 2019:
Knowledge, definitely, and I'd go even farther and add creativity too. Creativity gives you an outlet for that knowledge. Creative projects are knowledge in action, in whatever that means to you.
It's not our differences that are th problem, it's our inability to accept and celebrate them. ...
Deiter comments on Mar 5, 2019:
This asks us to resist the evolved brain – a tall order. But, alas, it's the only answer.
So, I turned 25 recently and it just hit me that I'm 5 years away from being 30... Too soon to have ...
Deiter comments on Mar 5, 2019:
Based on life expectancy for men, wait at least until your 38.
Kate Beckinsale (45) and Pete Davidson (25) spotted making out at a hockey game. Suddenly I feel ...
Deiter comments on Mar 4, 2019:
I'd argue that cougarish Kate Beckinsale gets boymeat bc she's Kate Beckinsale. Clint Eastwood was 35 years older and Rupert Murdoch was 37 years older than their respective wives. Jimmy Page is/was 40 years older than his girlfriend. But those crinklies could write palimony checks all day long. But yeah, nice work if you can get it.
How much should teachers make?
Deiter comments on Mar 4, 2019:
https://youtu.be/RxsOVK4syxU
Happy Monday whether your drink of choice is coffee or tea. In Japan broken objects areoften ...
Deiter comments on Mar 4, 2019:
If only all my cracks were golden. I'd be 24 carat.
So im looking for some thoughts and opinions and please feel be as honest as you like (feel be ...
Deiter comments on Mar 4, 2019:
Just a cursory assessment: If you're doing things you believe in – not drinking beer, walking to the store, not interested in car ownership, whatever it is – stop seeing them as a negative. Commit to them. Own them. Find the story in why you are the way you are and be proud. You don't have to be arrogant. Others may do things differently and that's fine. You do the things you do because they work for you. Don't forget that. Jim Morrison (of The Doors) put on weight toward the end of his life and was given a lot of grief for it. He was no longer the "beautifully throated" demigod captured famously in those shirtless *young lion* photographs. He said in an interview: “You know, that’s something that really bothers me. What’s wrong with being fat? That’s what I want to know. Why is it so onerous to be fat? I don’t see anything wrong with fat... I felt so great. I felt like a tank, you know? I felt like a large mammal, a big beast. When I’d move through the corridors or across the lawn, I just feel like I could knock anybody out of my way. I was solid, man. It’s terrible to be thin and wispy because, you know, you’d get knocked over by a strong wind or something. Fat is beautiful.” He wasn't going to be shamed by whatever he'd become – even though his gains were prob due to his heavy drinking. You can't help but be impressed by that. It commands a certain kind of respect. Whatever you are, own it. When you believe, others will believe too. Even if you don't at times – convince yourself. Confidence is sexy. Not arrogance, but comfort in your own skin. Understanding who you are. Also, the world doesn't have to be your tribe. Just a smaller part of it. That's plenty enough.
Do you agree or not agree? "5 minutes after your birth, they decided your name,nationality, ...
Deiter comments on Mar 3, 2019:
Our religious traditions enthusiastically support the concept of children, and women, as property. A parent is entitled to modify a child's genitals and make other decisions affecting their children for a lifetime. Parents also create an environment, as best they can, of determining a child's beliefs and values. One of the defenses of hijabs on Muslim women is that it's a display of the wearer's submission to Allah. That's the excuse but more importantly it's a submissive display offered to one's parents.
Trump Lays Groundwork To Ban Mandatory Vaccinations Across U.S.
Deiter comments on Mar 3, 2019:
Yet another egregious example of the catastrophic danger foisted upon us by ignorance – when an opinion is believed to be equal to fact. I weep for our children.
Ok. I'm heartbroken. I'm crying so much today...and this is what I need to do to heal. I know in ...
Deiter comments on Mar 3, 2019:
I wonder if this is less about him in particular and more about a deep yearning for the situation. You quickly went down the path of “what if” and “wouldn’t it be nice” in your imagination. He offered a glimmer of hope for all of that – a companion, a confidant, a connection. I promise you, despite what the harder hearts here say, everyone wants that. We’re social animals. We live for interaction. Independence and autonomy are important, but they can also be limiting and very lonely. Compromise is healthy and you don’t make enough of it when left on your own. “Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose.” Sometimes, it’s hard to imagine anything in the Bible that has even half the wisdom of that. Having said that, understand that you’re able and capable of making such connections and that’s a very good thing. A win isn’t always, or even has to be, 100%. You gained something here, even if it wasn’t enough for all your “what ifs.” Take the “W” and let that slow some of your tears today. Besides, there’s no accounting for other people’s behavior.
Love at first sight
Deiter comments on Mar 2, 2019:
I fall in love at first sight all the time. Daily. Attractive brain-melting people abound. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be human. I’d serious feels for a Lambo and a burrito I saw today. So what? In my very learned opinion (for me), that visual aspect is very important. And whatever else that draws us in that seems outside our free will. Again, so what? You think Drumpf or Melania *love* each other? Arranged marriages statistically have the most longevity. Science is about likelihoods. None of that has much to do with us as individuals. I stopped trusting my jacked up lusts as just a kind of neurochemical self-catfishng. That was a bust too. Whatever works for you, bro.
Who remembers? All these years later, they're still my favorites.
Deiter comments on Mar 2, 2019:
As if I wasn’t already feeling old enough this morning!
Do you listen to religious music?
Deiter comments on Mar 2, 2019:
I prefer my "Xtian rock" to be totally bats--t hardcore Pentecostal, speaking in tongues, and throwing in a Joy Division and Creedence Clearwater cover occasionally. https://youtu.be/D-SKGDIwry0 And Xmas music. I'm always a sucka for that.
Astrology just for fun - I'm a Virgo - the funny and loyal one. Describes me to a tee. How about ...
Deiter comments on Mar 2, 2019:
A scorpio "Makes you feel amazing?" No one's ever said that to us before!
“Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. When there’s a big ...
Deiter comments on Mar 1, 2019:
*We call something bad; we call it good.* Your prospects are so much better when you call it good. Even if it's a delusion. But even delusions can become prophecy if we believe them.
I am ready to start thinking forward again instead of looking backward. It's okay to hurt for a ...
Deiter comments on Mar 1, 2019:
I'd a long discussion with a friend about this yesterday. You have two choices: You can flatline your emotions, keep the highs and low limited, or you can embrace the excitement, go with the joy – however short lived – and do your best to manage the inevitable grief when it comes. My friend argued that to go the flatline is to self-sabotage. And so too is avoiding experience because it might be painful later on. I'm currently in the running for a good job. They called my references. I told my friend getting excited about the possibility is something I can't let myself do. I've had my heart broken too many times. Wrong, she said. *That* was self-sabotage. Take the *W*. Even if I don't get the job, I impressed them enough to get into the final round – many others didn't. *Does a victory need to be 100% to be a victory?* No. Feel the grief – don't design your life and actions in order to avoid it. But when it comes, don't regret. Don't say *I never should've done that!* Don't be a coward for love or hope. With mindfulness, manage the pain; don't exaggerate it. Consider it a part of the process. *Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.* Haruki Murakami
Bone graft yesterday...bone from a different human. I suppose this alters my DNA... Any of my ...
Deiter comments on Mar 1, 2019:
Isn't this "altered DNA" stuff how superheroes originate?
I’ll be in San Diego area tonight. Mission Valley, Aero Drive near I-15. If it is convenient for...
Deiter comments on Mar 1, 2019:
I would like to meet you. You seem interesting and levelheaded. You're one of the good ones here. But, alas, in So Cal 125 miles is like a 3 day drive in our traffic. Enjoy your time!
Koko Taylor - Wang Dang Doodle [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Feb 28, 2019:
I had a recording of this but from much later in her life. (With Willie Dixon singing backup.) It's easy to forget she was young once. Even as a young women, her voice was seasoned. Like the sound of someone who's about to launch a frying pan at your head.
T. Rex : Children of The Revolution 1972 [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 28, 2019:
https://youtu.be/UoxPawgDgKE
Intuition is a constant. We believe, we heal, we are reborn. You and I are dreamweavers of the ...
Deiter comments on Feb 28, 2019:
I've no idea what you said but if it's pro-environmentalism and anti-Capitalist, I'm all in.
Do you feel Facebook has too much impact on relationships? I am starting to. I was unfriended and ...
Deiter comments on Feb 28, 2019:
Doesn’t Blocking and UnFriending qualify as a hard “NO?” Get down from the fence, sister. Treat yourself right.
My exspouse and I are discussing moving in together - for economic reasons only. My kids think ...
Deiter comments on Feb 27, 2019:
Knowing nothing about you or your history, but just generally speaking, **this is a terrible idea**. But maybe I'm totally wrong. Though, I'm inclined to think that your kids may actually be the adults in the room on this one.
Being in a relationship is great but having a fall out is hurtful at any age. This to will pass. ? ...
Deiter comments on Feb 27, 2019:
You hurt because you care. You need to stop doing that. ? Steel yourself into a kind of soulless husk of a meat vessel. Toss out that burdensome humanity, it only mucks things up. And you too could be as happy as our President!
Speaking of Sonny Bono... 23 Vintage Portrait Photos of Hot Dudes With Mustaches Click on the ...
Deiter comments on Feb 26, 2019:
Tom of Finland would approve:
The WIld Angels (1966). Biker film with Peter Fonda and Nancy Sinatra (as his 'old lady'). Also ...
Deiter comments on Feb 26, 2019:
Ho boy, if this is any indication, the 60's were a corn-fest. The film also starred Diane Ladd (the blond who knows how *not* to get raped when traveling with a gang of rapists), Laura Dern's mom. Here's the corny theme to go with the corny dialogue. Not quite the soundtrack to riding, rape, and *getting loaded* you might expect: https://youtu.be/0WBaYjDGF58 I'd always thought this was theme. It might've been slightly better: https://youtu.be/0UBZdrJJEwQ
Thanx to @Gypsy494 for this one!
Deiter comments on Feb 26, 2019:
Ouch!
I'm not a big proponent of marriage. I think it's s waste of time and basically a piece of paper. I ...
Deiter comments on Feb 26, 2019:
I remember the old saw, *First time a victim, second time a volunteer.* I'm sure this is not PC these days but the first line of defense in anything is only ever ourselves. Waiting and staying only makes it harder to leave, and far more dangerous. This is going to sound cold, and probably paternalistic, but if one isn't adept enough to recognize a potential abuser, then maybe they're also not mature enough to enter a relationship. If not, then what's the alternative? Having just watched *Abducted in Plain Site* on Netflix, it shows an interesting case study on how people can be so readily manipulated by a clever abuser. Humans can be so stupidly vulnerable to charm. The sociopath only has to be smart enough to know what the intended victim craves. They don't have to feel it, they only have to see it. I always wonder, *Weren't there any signs?* Can someone go from lovable to cruelty overnight? Or, are abusers just masters of misdirection? I've seen women on this site defend Lorena Bobbit, but how many times did she *go back* before that awful night? Defenders would seem to believe that her particular version of *penectomy* was the only option. As for marriage, I agree conceptually but not practically. The legality can have a considerable psychological effect which can be good. And I say that as someone whose own experience was less than optimal.
Be careful what you ask for. You might just get it. You asked for "Equality". Now you have it. ...
Deiter comments on Feb 26, 2019:
Military conscription gives women equality? You mean like a black president ends racism? For women presently serving, 25% have been sexually assaulted and 80% have been harassed. Women in the military are more likely to get raped than die in combat. It seems they've less to worry about from the enemy than they do from their fellow soldiers. Given those circumstances, I can't imagine why any woman would want to enlist.
Ain't I'm Clean? - Breakdown - Rufus Thomas [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
Same day. Mavis the Magnificent: https://youtu.be/8vbaZI4Xvdg
Sonny Bono's bitter one solo hit: Laugh at Me: [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
Funny: I too was going to post this in response to the earlier Sonny & Cher. I've never heard his version. The only one I knew was Mott the Hoople's from their first album (with the great Escher cover).
Who watched the Oscars last night? I had seen two of the movies nominated and was so pleased Rami ...
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
As far as politics goes, urban America agrees with the Hollywood elite. But so what? As long the electoral college exists, that sea of underpopulated, overworked pissy red gets to continue to pull us into disaster.
Wow. I don't know how many of these apply, but 3 hit me right between the eyes. [medium.com] 3: ...
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
Absolutely. Happiness can easily be elusively out of reach if it always must have pre-conditions. *Finding the joy in the present* is a kind of genius that's possible for all (or most) of us. In college, I used to tend bar at a restaurant with an old clientele. Most of them were Wing nuts of the old school – some were still railing against FDR and the New Deal. I'm no Master of Happiness, mind you, but I realized that I could far better entertain myself trying to discover something interesting about them than not. It's not in EVERYONE, but there's usually something interesting to be found in most people and most situations. IOW, learn to enjoy the process because that's usually all we have. Recognition, praise, love, etc. is much more unlikely. The burden is on all of us to find it.
Dan Hicks & His Hot Licks - The Piano Has Been Drinking [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
Tom Waits, of course.
With all the news about The New England Patriots owner, Robert Kraft being arrested for soliciting ...
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
And the hypocrisy: Exchanging sex for money is illegal. Yet, exchanging sex for money AND videoing the experience somehow isn't. Why? (Because the latter can be commodified into a billion+ dollar global industry?) Somebody once explained that in the way a prostitute sells their body so does a coal miner. I don't agree but I see the point. Footballers lose brain health and can endure a life of pain ever after. They're selling their bodies and futures on an installment plan. But sex is often used as a lever of power, and how it's often used coercively and as humiliation (e.g. rape incl prison rape – a point well documented in the Bible) is still a very different thing.
“It is our suffering that brings us together. It is not love. Love does not obey the mind, and ...
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
Brilliant words, but I'd argue that suffering only *brings us together* when it's shared, like a natural disaster or accident. Personal suffering tears us apart. And more often, suffering teaches us nothing, at least not empathy. Like the abused who turns and abuses another. Nothing happens without intention and suffering can make individuals reactive, compulsive, and unconscious. The opposite of intention. That's my experience, anyway. *The hand that reaches out is empty.*
As atheist and agnostics what in your opinion is the odds of there being a afterlife ?
Deiter comments on Feb 25, 2019:
No evidence to support any possibility as we understand existence. It’s not ectoplasm or pure energy or anything observable. It’d have to be some magical realm that we as of yet know nothing about. Just as likely to be a giant teapot behind the moon. It's a cold and indifferent universe. We’re anomalies but we think we’re special. We’re simply what happens when carbon gets overzealous.
Reflections at 60 Yes, it's that day and I truly wish my body wasn't the only part of me that so ...
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
I had experiences w/ weed in high school that made me swear off of it and I never tried it again. A friend of mine recently passed me his vape w/ Sativa and the assurance that it'd not be at all like what I remembered. I sort of Bill Clintoned it and passed it back. I may've to reconsider. Considering one's mortality is never a pleasure but I'd implore you to think of it this way – waste no more time on things that bring you grief and make the best of today. We should all do that. Best wishes.
How to Awaken Your Authenticity. Remember what you liked doing as a child. Identify something you ...
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
*It took me four years to paint like Rafael, but a lifetime to paint like a child.* Pablo Picasso
Hey Everyone Wake Up! It's Sunday and I am starting the day off with an oldie that reaches us all at...
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
Creem Magazine was my Bible in high school and I remember reading an interview with Sir Mick there describing his dread for singing "Satisfaction" in the distant future. He could've never anticipated how distant that future would be. Guess what song The Stones close with now?
Rock n' Roll School (Trailer) [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
This movie is reason why we should always be suspicious of movies with or about *rock and roll.* Though, props for including the Ramones. Though they may've been a cultural phenomenon, they sold no records and certainly were no Duran Duran in the looks dept.
Arch Hall Jr. - Wild Guitar (trailer) [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
The guitar was actually rather subdued, but that organist was on fire! Reckless, sexualized abandon: You can see why adults feared the Devil's rock and roll.
Dwight Twilley - Looking For The Magic ( see if you can spot the very young guitarist ) [youtu.be]...
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
I was an early fan of Twilley. (We're even Facebook Friends. Though, he doesn't know me from Adam.) I still love the band's first two albums to this day. His guitar player was awesome, too. Twilley and Seymour (on drums above) sang backup on TP's first album.
Rachel Sweet - Hairspray [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 24, 2019:
I hadn't realized Sweet was in Hairspray. She won a singing contest at 3, was opening for Bing Crosby at 12, and released this at 16. This is what I knew her for. https://youtu.be/EbX7hFqIpFU
I'm thinking about summer.. and the annual powwow in Kanawake PQ, just south of ...
Deiter comments on Feb 23, 2019:
My wife worked with tribes so I'd done time at many a pow wow. I've had more than my share of fry bread and Indian tacos.
Hans Zimmer - Time One of the few songs I can either work out to or meditate to... I would ...
Deiter comments on Feb 23, 2019:
Not that they sound terribly similar but it's certainly in the same compositional neighborhood – the above reminds me of this: https://youtu.be/oc3Cq89P97Y Also, when they want a hot cellist babe to ooze passion front and center, they hire Tina Guo – note the Zimmer quote up front: https://youtu.be/3e625IhxH9Y
Ann-Margret - "Bill Bailey" Screen Test 1961 [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
For some reason, the women in my family *hated* Miss Margret. It seemed to peak with her cleavage-heaving appearance in *Carnal Knowledge*. Whatever she lacked in singing and dancing skills she seems to make up for by sheer force of confidence. And confidence like that is sexy.
These are really good. Common knowledge for the most part, but very good descriptions. "The ...
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
My guiding philosophy now: *When you’re 20 you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place.* Supposedly, Winston Churchill
I've allowed this to happen to me. No more. "5 signs you’re the 'Back Burner' Boo": ...
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
I've had four close women friends over the years, and my sister, who'd all gotten into relationships with married men. In each case the men never left their wives. And in ALL cases the women experienced the nadir of their life's heartbreaks. (One said she cried every day for a year and checked herself into a mental hospital at one crisis point.) If they're handsome, rich, or just extremely charming bastards it'd be easy think at the outset, *This could be fun.* And it is, until it isn't. Maybe they got sucked in thinking they were punching up. It's all s--ts and giggles until you start feeling something for this rake. Then, it seems, they're never there when you need them. You forget about the *positives* and live only in the *negatives.* There's always Hell to pay. When I was very young, I fell into a relationship that was supposed to be kept on the low. Too often there'd be recurring circumstances where I just felt humiliated. (We'd eventually sort it out and go above ground and I fell madly in love with her. As it turned out, though, I should've taken the "on the low" as a forewarning.) My solution: Be an attention 'ho. Don't accept second place in someone's romantic radar: All or nothing. It's still no Teflon for heart break, mind you. You can be the only one in their life and still feel like you've missed pole position. We're never guaranteed love from anyone or even if it does happen, there's no guarantee that it'll last. It's a minefield out there.
Bumped into an ex of mine today... Don't know what's more upsetting: the awkwardness the ...
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
Nah. You're young. You're acting exactly as should be expected. That s--t hurts and it doesn't go away nearly fast enough. Don't condemn yourself for feeling. More problems come when we try to bury that s--t. Feeling it doesn't make it easy, though. There's just no better way around it, IMHO.
i just got into this back n forth with my ex's sister on facebook regarding the the hypocrisy of ...
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
I was disappointed to see that he was fired from Empire. Every time someone does or says something that could provide our culture a valuable teachable moment, they bury them quick: No pillory, just straight to the gallows. There's so much valuable discussion and dialogue that could happen here. He was wrong and he's done a lot of damage no doubt, be he wasn't a Harvey Weinstein or even a Louis CK. It's a shame: Another important lost opportunity.
(What’s So Funny ’Bout) Peace, Love & Understanding -- Nick Lowe's own version. Feeling this way...
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
Thanks for posting. I think you'll also enjoy this: https://jellyrollfortheearhole.blogspot.com/2014/04/mavis-rules.html
Absolutely...
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
There's a hope here, judging from the tone of the many memes posted, that there're hard and fast rules in this game. I don't think so. This meme seems to argue that *overthinkers* also don't get tricked by the brain dope, don't indulge in *hope over experience*, aren't also *in love with love itself* like everyone else. As if overthinking is some kind of Kevlar against heartbreak. Nah. It comes for all of us. Time and time again. It's the how the game is played.
Nektar - Remember The Future 1973 - Full Album [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Feb 22, 2019:
Ho boy. This is a relic. Nice dig!
The Mills Brothers - How'm I Doin? Hey Hey [youtube.com]
Deiter comments on Feb 21, 2019:
Never heard that. Pretty dope. My dad had some Mill Bros. I loved this one. The swelling choruses and this line: *She was faithful as girls go. And as girls go, she's gone.* https://youtu.be/E11-fevCt1Q
I’ve experienced this: “But you’re ethical, so how can you not believe in God?”
Deiter comments on Feb 21, 2019:
It's a mystery: The Bible, and the tradition, are the total opposite of ethical. People's understanding of God has little resemblance to the actual character according to his résumé in Scripture.
Sometimes, if it was fun or something!
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
Call it a scientific approach.
That last item on the list got me wondering...
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
These people know nothing about marketing. If that's the offer that one should definitely go on top!
Link Wray "Rawhide" [youtu.be] Link Wray - Switchblade [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
Even as a kid, watching Dick Clark's interviews and announcements made me cringe. *The world's oldest teenager*? More, that clueless uncle you get stuck next to during holiday dinners.
Link Wray "Rawhide" [youtu.be] Link Wray - Switchblade [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
The *metal* baby daddy: https://youtu.be/fHEmDLQKrrk
Barflies at the Beach- Royal Crown Revue [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
- That tune is Sing, Sing, Sing, made famous by Benny Goodman. - This was their finest moment: https://youtu.be/l4XHcZR0cjY
Elton Motello "Jet Boy Jet Girl" ( In response to the Plastic Bertrand clip ) [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
Can you imagine this on American television? Where half the country believes in a Hell and that all homosexuals are going there? Nope.
Is dating again after marriage like dating your mom or dad? I was with my ex for 26 years. The ...
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
I'm now at an age, like you, that I associate with the age of my parents (RIP). When I entertain the idea of dating people of my own vintage, I can't help but think of old people like my parents. It does take some of the joy out of it. And I realize I'm framing it all wrong. As so for this reason I think a person's personality is crucial. If the people you encounter have the traits of an old person – complaining, grousing, constantly shocked by culture and politics, lack enthusiasm – the parent association becomes overwhelmingly easy. On the other hand, you could meet someone who is vibrant and enthusiastic and engaged and while it can be very alluring they can still be a terrible candidate for a relationship. Maybe the answer is to get back to basics. Does this person make me laugh? Do I make them laugh? Let's start there. This may take a while.
'Sexties A Go Go!'- Patti Smith [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 20, 2019:
- I've to give big respect to anyone (usually women) who can stand before a camera, writhe un-self-consciously and half-dressed in enthusiastically perform some expression of *come hither.* - I didn't realize this until recently, but the lyrics to *Gloria* had first appeared some years before in a poem Smith had performed back when she did readings with a guitar and/or piano accompaniment. Oath by Patti Smith *Jesus died for somebody’s sins but not mine meltin’ in a pot of thieves wild card up my sleeve thick, heart of stone my sins my own, belong to me* *I engrave my own palms sweet black “x” Adam placed no hex on me I embrace Eve and take full responsibility for every pocket I have picked mean and slick for every Johnny Ace song I’ve balled to long before the church made it neat and right so Christ, I’m giving you the goodbye I’m firing you tonight I can make my own light shine and darkness too is equally fine you got strung up for my brother but for me I draw the line you died for somebody’s sins but not mine.*
Plastic Bertrand [youtu.be]
Deiter comments on Feb 19, 2019:
I don't if know if you know the story about this but "Plastic Bertrand's" only involvement in this was his appearance on TV and on the single's cover. It was all done by a producer. It's the same backing track as was on Jet "he gives me head" Boy. *I am the king of the divan!*
This group has gotten me to think about music I hadn't heard in years – not since my meticulously ...
Deiter comments on Feb 19, 2019:
This too; Neil Young: https://youtu.be/nYfFlvQtkb0
This showed up on my Facebook feed and everyone seems to think it's a scream. It just makes me sad....
Deiter comments on Feb 19, 2019:
This sign writer is a nihilist. Woe to her. I happen to know many happy couples in what seem to be thriving marriages. Are they just ridiculously lucky men who happened to marry women too stupid to know how unhappy they really are? This sign denigrates both men and women. I agree with you. It's sad.
Jet Boy/Jet Girl by Elton Montello. Some people think this is a cover of the Plastique Bertrand ...
Deiter comments on Feb 19, 2019:
He's going give you prison sex and then tell all the world. Who wouldn't want some of that?
Marc Ribot: I'm a big fan but I understand if he's a little avant for some of y'all. He's played ...
Deiter comments on Feb 19, 2019:
And this, my all-time fav: https://youtu.be/6joayYTABrk
Marc Ribot: I'm a big fan but I understand if he's a little avant for some of y'all. He's played ...
Deiter comments on Feb 19, 2019:
More: https://youtu.be/we5Vzn4BKh4

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