I recently started listening to A Thinking Atheist podcast. Hes a bit preachy for my liking, but I enjoy the topics.
Today I listened to an episode on how atheists choose to raise their children.
If you were to have children (or if you already have had), how do you plan to raise them in terms of religion- or lack thereof?
I would teach them as much as I can of each religion and warn them that Abrahamaic religions discourage people from leaving them or embracing other beliefs with the threat of a torturous afterlife. I would probably also either explain it like it's fiction or overuse the word "they."
I have kids and I basically taught them the importance of science and to think rationally. Once you start with that basis, they can easily see through any religious dogma thrown their way.
I think I'll keep my kids far away from as far away as possible. I want them to learn that being/doing good doesn't have to be rewarded. But I think it's more important to discuss this with their mother first. Since it's just not me raising our child. So we are all reading from the same script.
Nonreligiously. No church, no bibles, no religious education until she's old enough to thoroughly understand that other people believing it doesn't make it true. Then, lots of religious education, from a secular viewpoint. I want her to know enough that when the other kids try to convert her, she can see and expose the logical fallacies they present.
If I do have kids someday I’ll encourage them to be curious and help them learn how to find answers. I’d like to think we can practice radical honesty in the home about religion and politics. The way the kids were being raised in Mr Fantastic sounds ideal, minus the rock face climbing and running. A lot of decisions will be made with whomever I have kids with though. Not sure whether it’s best to homeschool exclusively or what but a lot of learning should go on in the home regardless.
When they get old enough that people are going to be prostletyzing and trying to save them I think it’s important they learn about many religions from me first and on the terms of a skeptic so nothing seems scary or surprising enough to manipulate their beliefs or introduce fear and shame in them. If anyone still presses hard enough to make them uncomfortable in those regards I hope their god sprouts a pair and comes to their aide cause this skeptic is gonna raise some holy hell.
We foster children and work hard to effectively put children back together mentally after all kinds of abuse and neglect. Obviously I'm not going into detail but to hear children talking about sexual abuse as if it were a normal, every day thing. We have to plan the best possible way of helping each child to become a balanced adult.
That's amazing. Thank you for fostering. I plan to adopt, but have also considered fostering too.
I believe it is important to expose them to all options and let them make their own choice when they are intelligent enough on the subject to do so. I went to church occasionally as a child not because I was forced, but because i wanted to see what it was all about. I quickly realized it wasn't for me, but it was important for me to make that choice on my own. Allowing children to make decisions from a rational thought process in important when it comes to developing character. Now, if laziness is the reason they choose to not partake in something that is a different story. If the child is in reality to lazy to go experience that sort of thing, but uses a rationally expressed thought to dissuade you from believing that it is just lazy, that is one smart as kid and probably is way ahead of the cognitive level of many.
I sometimes listen to The Thinking Atheist, and Seth does have some great topics, other times I feel like the show is best for those that are new to atheism.
I appreciate everyone's responses and love that you just want to provide tools for your children to use their brains. I also love to hear how supportive or respectful you are towards believers.
Have you seen the meme that says what's wrong with the world today is a Godless society? I wish people who shared that could see these sorts of responses and realize we're not the problem...
If I have children, I would like to expose them to religion in a controlled way--we could try some churches, talk about things, and they can discover what religion is. Keeping it from them could be just as problematic as raising them in it, since they will be exposed to it sometime. My girlfriend thinks the socialization aspect of church may also be important. We are both former churchers.
When my children were young, we took them to church, they all turned out to be atheists anyway. I see benefit to the socializing aspect, but maybe through another group?
@TroyBarber64 It's kind of nice to have your children learn how to interact with religious folks, as there are so many out there. Besides, learning to politely interact with people with very different beliefs is nice, too.
@Drewesque I have reinforced a high regard for respecting others, including those that hold different beliefs, but I understand your position. My older kids (all adults now) were raised with exposure to religion, my teen was not, and they all turned out atheist, but aren't jerks to religious people.
By agreement..my two daughters will be brought up as Catholics..I have agreed to keep my opinions to myself regarding Athiesm.
However after confirmation at 12.. they can make their own minds up as junior free thinkers.. I suspect that one of them is already an Athiest.
Seth Andrews has such a soothing voice, and a wide variety of topics. I've never found him to be preachy, but maybe because I already think like him. I did raise my two children with no religion. My daughter, when asked what church we attended, would say we were "home churched" which simply meant we talked about the real reasons things happened.
I did bolster my kids confidence regarding the fact that we were raising them with humanistic values, so it was something, not nothing, but that we would still respect our friends and family who believed in a supernatural god. I do wish that respect would have been returned, but my kids were strong. Proud of them.
Now, my daughter is raising her two kids without religion, though by exposure to a multi-ethnic preschool, they are able to celebrate all kinds of culture's holidays and learn about the beliefs, totally understanding that it's other people's belief, and not necessarily "our" beliefs. I'm sure questions will be answered by my daughter and son-in-law similarly to how they each were raised totally without religion. (My son-in-law was also raised atheist.)
I guess in considering Seth's responses to others opinions, you're right he's never preachy in those moments. Maybe his soothing voice reminded me of church when I used to attend.
Thank your for your reply. It excites me to see so many people with such an open mind to allow their children to think for themselves.
@Kassandra as an aside, yes, I agree that the sound quality of TTA is very good, as I'm sure you know, Seth Andrews comes from a background in broadcasting.
My favorite podcast is Thank God I'm Atheist, those guys crack me up while sharing pertinent information, also with professional audio quality.
I know people that run another podcast called Ask An Atheist, they also have great information and analysis. They have two primary hosts, and alternate guest hosts, some of whom are members of the local atheist group that I belong to. Ask An Atheist has a national and international audience, but does tend to talk about issues in my area of Seattle-Tacoma, Washington State.
@TroyBarber64 awesome, thanks for the tips!