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We are all different... not equal. I always had that opinion of babies. 2 non related babies born within a month of each other, 10 and 9 months. the older started walking, don't talk, cries a lot, always crying for his mom, don't like pool water or jacuzzi. The younger trying to walk holding on to anything, very vocal, always smiling, never heard him crying, will accept anyone to hold him, very charismatic, love the pool, jacuzzi, tried to swim and dive. Will keep and eye how they develop. Both babies have great, hard working responsible parents.

GipsyOfNewSpain 9 July 2
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I've found that babies develop differently within the same amount of time. Some babies, absorbing more and not showing what they know right away, some more physical, others more intellectual, just very different talents and strengths, shown when the time is right for them. Some parent's lifestyles don't allow much for babies to learn to walk, perhaps the kids are traveling in car seats, strollers, shopping carts, etc., more than play time at home, Other parent's might be stressing these milestones, such as walking, talking, etc. Even kids in the same household will develop their skills at different speeds. It's all good - they are all sweet!

They sure are sweet. And our future. I am one of those people that only really enjoyed my kids. Never enjoyed other kids or babies, just mine. But you are very true about how they develop different. Just like us grown ups. Both kids are in very stable households were there is a lot of love and understanding. They will be alright.

Gotta admit a preference for my own kids and grandkids, but I've met many little cuties in my time, and then some kids I wasn't close enough with to see their cuteness. I'm a sucker for a cute smile and sense of humor.

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Attachment is not always something that can be observed by people outside of the family group. Yes, babies have different personalities, but what you're describing sounds more like different types of attachment with their primary care givers. Here's a link to some information about Bowlby's theory on the subject: [en.wikipedia.org]

One is a grandnephew born on my birthday. Familiar with us but very attached to his mother. The other is grandchild of my sister's recently passed husband. We saw him as a new born in November at his passing, had not seen us again and is very engaged with everything and certainly water addept. My 2 daughters were at 6 months old familiar with a pool since there are programs at military bases introducing babies at that young. They were swimmers before they could ride bikes. The one more familiar with us is very attached to his mom, very different the other. I will keep eye on them seeing how they develop personality wise.

@GipsyOfNewSpain hmm, I was taken to the pool for lessons as a baby, my first school had a pool that we went to every day of the summer. I'm still a hopeless swimmer, but can save my life in a bad situation. All the rest of my family swim lap after lap, I wouldn't worry too much if their interests lie elsewhere.
I also have a friend who has twins: one is calm and usually smiling; the other is more determined and likes to be the dominant one. Hopefully they'll all grow up to have their own interests and successes that suit their personality type.

@girlwithsmiles I am on my sister's house, with pool... she is on her 60's never learned how to swim. I got 2 weeks left to try to teach her since I am returning back to Vegas in 2 weeks. I suspect she has no buoyancy. She is all tense in the water. Sister had a bad experience in a public pool in NYC as a child. So she can't get over that. My ex wife competed swimming as a child so for her was a most that all kids could swim.

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