Yeah, some people suggested taking a month for every year we were together after the divorce. Just got my name back on the 12th. I lost a lot of weight, got a new wardrobe, a new hairdresser, and pretty much keep the skincare industry in business. I thought I'd be running around the parking lot saying,"Hey you- get into my car." But I think I need to find myself first before I find someone else.

@UrsiMajor I don't know how long you were together. It was 19 years when we split and I got the kids. Having the kids did make it harder so it may have prolonged regaining my balance. It was 3 years before i felt i was totally on top of it. I was dating at the end of the first year but I didn't have it all together. I have several friends who took that long as well and they didn't have kids. My divorce was a long time ago. You made me laugh with your skin care industry remark. You're doing and saying all the right things so you'll be fine!

Definitely. I joined a bunch. Doesn't look like anyone put a cap on meetups you can join!

Yeah, my next is a child-free meetup... Then there are just general going out meetups. I'm terrible at meeting new people without alcohol since I quit.

@UrsiMajor Sound like you don't have much self confidence there. Just remember most people are just as nervous as you are meeting new people.

Well, compared to what I was hearing, I had the smoothest divorce in history.. People had spouses that kidnapped their kids and went to the Czech Republic... People were spending tens of thousands on legal fees and I was complaining about a few hundred over standard retainer. It was a wake-up call, really. The leader asked us what we wanted to focus on personally and my reply was,"Moving forward." She liked my response a lot.